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Just curious...I see folks say everyone once in a while that they have a person on the "ignore" list. I'm wondering what prompts this blacklisting? Is it because they are troublemakers, or boring, or just not taking your advice? If you want, you can even tell who you're ignoring, if that helps clairify your position.

I've only thought to ignore two people, but never got around to it. One of them was that reporter gal from England who was the OW ( AllsFair?) and the other one is Kinger, since he's using this forum like a lab experiment.

Any thoughts? Probably a few who ignore me who won't even read this, LOL!


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I've used it before..never announced it though...that would be a little bit nyah nyah don't you think?

It's a usefull tool when you have just hit a wall of one sort or another with a fellow poster and want to ..frankly.. ignore them for a while.

Too bad we don't have that option in real life, no?

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actually

I have one person on my ignore list right now

why?

to protect that user from my temper!

reading that user makes me just ITCH with unholy desire to respond in very unkind ways

when that urge passes

I will un-ignore said poster (unless I forget ... which is likely)

I have done this many times ... with different posters ... mostly all for the same reason

in order to protect them >> from <<me

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I have the following posters on IGNORE:

1. Lemonman
2. Pepperband
3. Melody Lane
4. Pijoitos
5. JustPeachy
6. Mulan
7. Stanl-ey
8. Foreverhers
9. JPH
10. <open>

I like to keep those top 9 on constant ignore and then leave a 10th spot open for anyone who pisses me off during the course of a posting session. That is a nice idea others should consider when tabulating one's "ignore" list..

Regards,

Lem


Some people just don't get it, they don't get it that they don't get it.

I had the right to remain silent.......but I didn't have the ability.
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Wouldn't it be great if the group could see how many "ignore this user" lists a user gets on? Then there could be prizes awarded.....

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How can you ignore yourself? Does the screen go blank as you type in your answers?
BTW, I think I posted this somewhere else, but I got to meet your name-sake at a basketball camp last month. Trying to picture you wearing one of his tank tops. Did you wear those super-tight red and white short-shorts that the trotters wore back in the day?


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I have the following posters on IGNORE:

1. Lemonman
2. Pepperband
3. Melody Lane
4. Pijoitos
5. JustPeachy
6. Mulan
7. Stanl-ey
8. Foreverhers
9. JPH
10. <open>

I like to keep those top 9 on constant ignore and then leave a 10th spot open for anyone who pisses me off during the course of a posting session. That is a nice idea others should consider when tabulating one's "ignore" list..

Regards,

Lem

The only poster I have on ignore is Dr. Lemonman.

Of course, if he's got *me* on Ignore as well, I guess I'll never know.

What was the question again?

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LOL - how do you ignore yourself Sourpuss?


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I used to ignore lemonman. He was the only one on my permanent list. I took him off the ignore list a month or so ago. [If he chooses to ignore me, he needs to spell my name right.]

There are a couple of other posters that I have chosen to ignore for brief periods for various reasons. Now I just prefer to ignore entire threads. Extremely long threads I avoid. I also ignore threads that have titles that don't match up with the number of posts. For example, a thread titled "just found out" that has 1417 posts is one to be avoided because quite a lot of time has probably passed since the "just" part.

I will say that, at certain times, some particular posters, although well-intentioned, can do more harm than good. There may come a time later when I have changed in my way of thinking that that poster can be quite helpful. That is why I took lemonman off my ignore list, for example. Now I find him quite insightful. He has also softened his blow just a tad which helps.

I do keep HoreverHers on permanent block just because his posts sooner or later always deviate from the point of discussion and get into a theological argument. I am not saying I agree or disagree with what he says. I just don't always find it immediately relevant to the problem at hand.

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I don't have anyone on my ignore list cos I'm a masochist.

Peppy, now we's all worried we's the one you're ignoring. I am anyway.

And no one will reply to me because I'm probably on all their ignore lists.


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Good, then I wasn't the only one who suddenly felt paranoid! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />


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I don't have anyone on my ignore list cos I'm a masochist.

Peppy, now we's all worried we's the one you're ignoring. I am anyway.

And no one will reply to me because I'm probably on all their ignore lists.

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I'm like Pio's in that I am ignoring entire threads now...to heck with individual posters.

Any threads that have to do with infidelity, I am now ignoring. Some might wonder why I don't just go to a different board, one that isn't entirely about infidelity, but I find that to be on an infidelity board and ignoring the infidelity threads greatly cuts down on the time I spend here.

It's better than a timer, really.

I do have one special person on ignore (and you do have to be quite special to be ignored, so I am a little put out that no one named me as an ignoree), but I am starting to miss the way he gets my blood boiling...so I might have to un-ignore him.

And you do know that just because you ignore somebody, doesn't mean they are not still posting. If you don't log in when you read,well there they are, posting away, narry caring one iota that they are on your ignore list...and isn't that just a slap in the face. They didn't disappear after all, and they don't give a flying fig if you are reading them or not...nope, they just keep right on posting.

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I am putting weaver on my ignore user list for 24 hours.

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tsk tsk tsk...."Ignore" is used by the ignorant. It hurts no one but themselves. If you are "bothered" by a given poster, no one twists your arm to read anything they post.

By the same token, everyone (the last one that I know of who had NOTHING useful to say was SNL) occasionally has something useful to say that helps someone's given situation. There's a particular poster who hates me, but I don't put him on ignore because he also has some good advice from time to time when he's not on the warpath.

Now if you really want to mess with someone's mind a little, here is a little [color:"white"]way to have a little fun while doing that. Dorijitos might even learn something if he could read it....lol.

Doc Lem, I am honored to be on your list! [/color]

and that's about all the ignoring I'm doing for today!

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I have not and will never put someone on my "Ignore list"...no matter what! I'm just a too curious person to do something like that! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

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Suzet* is now on my ignore list for 24 hours. In fact, any user with anything other than alphabetic characters in their screen names are going on my ignore list out of general principle. We have 26 perfectly useful letters in the English alphabet with an almost infinite number of permutations in their use (well, in fact, it is infinite). I see no need for numeric, punctuation or other characters and I somehow have decided to find it offensive for the next 24 hours.

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Thank you Pio! And just so you know, I am going to talk about you all day today...but I won't use your name, okay?...it'll all be very subliminal, so not to worry!

FH, just for that nice and enlightened post...you are now un-ignored! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Yes, Suzette, it is very hard to ignore someone because you are just dying to know what they are saying the whole time...at least I was!

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Hey did weaver say something about me? I can't tell. Was it bad?

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