I might give something similar, avoid the LB's, and just wait and see what she does.

I approach this from the view of the BS, one that wasn't able to restore his marriage, so I'm not sure I'm one to give advice.

I can only say what I'd like to see, but don't have a story of a successful reconciliation, so I can't really comment.

Just the generic, avoid LB's and learn to meet her EN's, is about all I can say.

Hello again.

I understand the difference between “wayward” & “betrayal”, though similar betrayal to me is the actual act of cheating in this case, I have been referring to betrayal.

You know, prior to SA cheating on me I would have said I was very happy and that I loved my marriage, it seemed very real and was working great in my eyes. I could not see anything else outside my family as better; my thoughts were only of my family and SA. I also believe I could not have had this illusion of happiness without getting it from SA and her reassurances that we were great together. We both had issues/problems and somehow I thought they were small in the big scheme of things, nothing SA said or did could have possibly made me look elsewhere for anything. I thought she thought the same and I couldn’t have been further away from the truth. I guess she really was unhappily married. I think someone in a relationship getting blind sided the way I did happens often, they have no idea how truly unhappy the other person is until it’s too late.

I know my own reasons for leaving SA, they have been justified by ME and validated by HER many times. I can move on now and gradually put this pain away and build a new life.

I can also forgive SA for what she has done to me only by leaving her; I can be her friend if she wants but nothing more. We both have enough pain between us and hopefully our separation will not create more.

Like SA, I have said my piece to SA and just want to move on now. I’m also sorry SA that this has as all come around during the same time your father is not doing so well.

Thanks for all your posts, I really do appreciate them, unfortunately I’m not here to make this work any longer, and the reason I have been posting in this section.

GR