My deepest sympathy for your loss. Will to continue to pray for you.

SM -

I am so very sorry to hear about your loss.

I know that she must have felt very blessed to have a kind D who loved her so much!!

Georgia

My prayers to you and your little one and your loved ones. FYI...I lost my dad a few months before my xH began his ws lifestyle...it was more than painful...it made me shut down emotionally for a while.

Your Mom is in a better place.

what hospital did it happen yet? st. joe's is imho best for hearts here...

but with the heart there is only so much that can be done...my dad died from heart failure btw...far too young also.

You are being prayed for. We are so sorry for your pain.

May God, the greatest Physician of all, show you His lovingkindness right now in this very difficult hour. I am a fixer too...I just spring into action when there is a crisis...

If you need to talk, hopefully you still have my number. It's hard...my dad was my rock. My mom was not. My dad was my knight in shining armor who was supposed to protect me even now as an adult...and I went thru all that by myself..or so I felt. but I was NOT alone. We're here. Our prayers are here for you and being sent up for you. We love you sadmommy and are keeping you close in spirit right now.

and

I am holding my breath a little

expecting her [censored] WH to NOT step up to the plate and support his WIFE during her crisis ... but PRAYING to the Lord, that I am wrong

<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" /> Pep

Saying a prayer for you and your family Sad,
So sorry for your loss.
please take care
Scott

He told my neighbor, "This is going to be hard for SM. She has to support her bros. She has to be stronger than she's ever been before b/c she is alone."

Grr... to us it sounded like, "SM is nothing w/out strong manly H around. How can she ever survive this w/out me?"

I confronted him on this today, when he brought over his 30-day written notice of his new address (moving in w/the OW... he scrawled his formal notice on a little memo pad page, which I thought was appropriate.)

I told him I thought what he said was crass, and he said he only meant to say that he is "proud" of me for the way I am handling this. I replied, "Well, XH, with your crap, the house and this, how else am I supposed to handle it? I'm doing the best I can. And I am anything but alone. I have more support and more people who genuinely love care about DD and me than I have ever had in my life."

B/c it's true.

That is beautiful, Orchid. Thank you!

I am sorry to hear about your mom. My dad had struggled with heart problems for several months when he died quite suddenly.

Your mom was so young to go....but I know she would want you to know that she has received the ultimate healing - though it hurts you to let her go. I am glad that you feel peace about this though I know your heart is breaking.

It is never good to lose someone.

You will be in my prayers.

Peachy, Mom was at Hershey Medical Center up in Pa. Odd that the Penn State med college is named after a candy bar, but Milton Hershey did an awful lot for that community.

I think I remember you talking about losing your dad right before your adventure with the alien started. That is awful. I lost Dad two and a half years ago. My relationship with Mom had been strained for a while, b/c I was very angry at her for a long time for leaving Dad and us and moving up to Pa with her BF. But since I got pregnant with DD, our relationship had grown stronger. Since XH left, I have talked to her EVERY SINGLE DAY on the phone, sometimes two or three times, and she has been my biggest supporter through the divorce drama. And she didn't even get to know that the divorce was final.

Thank you ALL for your love, prayers and support. Coming up here and reading all the wonderful things you have written to me has been a nice break from a crazy day.

Pep, please see my above reply with what "kind, caring supportive" XH said. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" /> Sadly, it looks like you're going to be right on this one. Not even his parents, for crying out loud, haven't called me. He called them and told them, and came back inside last night with the standard, "Mom and Dad say they are sorry and to let them know if there's anything they can do." Of course, they never liked my mom b/c she just didn't meet their standards. In contrast, when my dad died, they MET us at the hospital and held my bros and me while our world imploded. My, how things change...

SadMommy, I am so sorry for your loss.

Thanks, cinderella. But please don't think of me as sammy... that's my XFIL's name!

Hi SM--
I just logged on and read your news.

First off, I am so, so sorry for the loss. I know your mom was your biggest supporter, as you've mentioned that several other times here. I know your heart must ache, and that it is probably intensified by everything else around that has happened (aka--the crappola your XH has done to you).

You are tough, though.
I have admired that in you from the beginning of following your posts.
I know you can find comfort in knowing your mom is pain free and with her heavenly father now. But as much as I know you know that, I know you still hurt.

If i can do anything from over here in texas, let me know. If you were close enough, I'd come over, watch your dd for you, while you took a hot bath and just relaxed. How your head must be spinning right now! I'd also make sure you got a good's night rest. And I'd keep (as Orchid so eloquently puts it) your [censored] as far away as possible so his insensitive and cruelty wouldn't have to come anywhere near you.

I TRULY believe there is an amazing way God is going to use you and your DD. Just hang in there.

And really--let me know if I can do anything.

Ok - you got it...I'll even go delete that line you it won't be there....

And, right now, you are entitled to feel sad.

((((((((((((((((((((((((((((SadMommy)))))))))))))))))))))))))

I'm so sorry to hear about your Mom, and the timing of it all with your divorce too... I know your Mom loved you a lot. Take your strength from God, and let Him carry you.

MSA

Hi SM,

I've been following your posts for awhile. I am inspired by your strength and resilience. I am so sorry for your loss. When my mother passed away three years ago, there was a greater sense of peace in my life because she was no longer in pain. I continue to miss her everyday but I know she is always watching over me.

Your mother will always be watching you from heaven. She is always with you.

It just seems like life's trials don't stop but we are all stronger for having gone through them. My prayers are with you.

I'm sorry for your loss. I've lost both of my parents also. Your Mom was the same age as I am. It is good that she had her children when she was young, and got to see you grow up into a fine mother yourself.

You have been in my prayers.

-AD

I'm so glad that we don't have to mourn "as them that have no hope." You will see your mom again. It's your promise, the hope of your future. This anticipation of eternal reunion carried me through some very rough times after my own mother died a few years ago. I hope it will do the same for you, since I know by experience that there are difficult days ahead for you. You'll be in my prayers.

t&l

Mommy (I love that word!) - My sympathy to you. Thank God for salvation.

My mom did not seem to weep much when Grandma died. (but she was old, and sick)

When our loved ones suffer for a long time - I kinda think that we are quietly happy for their peace, when it comes. I did not cry much when my dear, close, grandmother died. She waited until I went out to visit. A day or two later she was unconcious, and we had her memorial two weeks later.

My prayers will be for you. You will do well. You obviously encourage many here. You are special. Your daughter will be thankful for you in so many ways - 20 years from now. As well as today.

Peace, sweet one.

foundareason

You guys are all so nice. My counselor last night said I am still in shock, especially b/c so many bad things have happened at once. She said it's actually a good thing all this junk is happening at the same time, b/c I'm going to be able to get it over with. I am really dreading having it all really hit me... I know that's going to be incapacitating. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" /> Right now, I feel like I'm on "pause."

Can you guys believe that my XH is actually trying to fight with me over the cost of steam cleaning the carpets yesterday, with all the other mess that I'm having to deal with? I had scheduled it last week when I got back from PA to get the house ready for sale.

Our settlement agreement says he has to pay half of any costs of $250, but he's trying to tell me he owes me $25 instead of $150... that it's only half the difference. That just doesn't sound right. Grrrr. I've emailed my lawyer about it for clarification. If he's right, fine. But if he's not, why is he being such a jerk?