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great advice as always ,but how long do you think shell be a raving lunatic after this happens?
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Probably less than a week.
Me: 56 (FBS) Wife: 55 (FWW)
D-Day August 2005
Married 11/1982 3 Sons 27,25,23
Empty Nesters.
Fully Recovered.
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but i should assume the affair will continue
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but i should assume the affair will continue Assume she is still a WS. That's where your concentration s/b. L.
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i was able to hear from my wifes cousin and she exposed the true story to wifes brother who i believe is making her mother finally realize what really happened im sure this week will be filled with alot of fireworks.what would be the best way to handle her?she also keeps asking for money i dont know if i should continue to give,any suggestions?
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ww is stating to scare me she is determined to keep this a secret but im meeting with all family one on one monday and i would like to know if theres a possibility she can do something stupid out of shame or run away ..everyone always sheilded her through out her life and now when exposure comes to light i dont know what to expect
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i was able to hear from my wifes cousin and she exposed the true story to wifes brother who i believe is making her mother finally realize what really happened im sure this week will be filled with alot of fireworks.what would be the best way to handle her?she also keeps asking for money i dont know if i should continue to give,any suggestions? No W, No $$. Ever heard the rule...... don't talk to strangers....don't give or take $$ from strangers. The Ws is strange....er. L.
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i have my anniversary this weekend and all i could think about is family deaths and faliures ive been thinking suciside all night i wont do it but is this no\rmal?
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i have my anniversary this weekend and all i could think about is family deaths and faliures ive been thinking suciside all night i wont do it but is this no\rmal? Yes, it is. but it doesn't have to be. Think about your accomplishments individually and together as a family/couple. What do you see? Focus on the positive. Be glad you have your santity and not bitten by that horrible A bug. The bug looks like that creature from MIB (da' movie). See any of those creepy crawlers in your area!??!?! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" /> L.
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today is my anniversary i didnt hear from her today or all weekend for that matter does any one think i should call
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What's a fun thing you like t/d or always wanted t/d?
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well im talkin to best friend whos ws cousin which is helpin alot today.but also she said wife is done with me is this part a the progress
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Is she really supporting you or spokesperson for the WS?
Btw, U still didn't answer my question.
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definetly supporting me known her since 4 years old..i would like to go to the bar and have a drink but not the right time u know
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definetly supporting me known her since 4 years old..i would like to go to the bar and have a drink but not the right time u know Is that the best kind of fun thing you can think of doing? Where's your support group? Howz about movies, gym, cookout, biking, golfing, bowling, helping an old lady across the street, big brother help....something constructive?!?!? L.
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i know orchid i know im just being honest on my anniversary theres not much i could do fun without her right now my support was with me earlier but they have kids to tend to and i dont want to make people have problems over me then theyll need a support group after all thjere lovebustrs....but what do you think about my ws sayin its done to her cousin is this normal or can she really be
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i know orchid i know im just being honest on my anniversary theres not much i could do fun without her right now my support was with me earlier but they have kids to tend to and i dont want to make people have problems over me then theyll need a support group after all thjere lovebustrs....but what do you think about my ws sayin its done to her cousin is this normal or can she really be Ws don't speak normal...they speak babble. Don't put your $$ on the babble. Even if it ends up in a D, it' won't be the babble way. It s/b your way....when u r ready. Now go back and contemplate how you will take care of you and find things t/d to make you happy. REFOCUS! L.
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im just having trouble with any plan a cause were starting not to have any contact we got the dog but even when i call her to see him which i know she loves to death she hasnt came any advice?
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i just spoke to wife and she had said she already inquired about divorce and got papers its 400 dollars in nyc...i dont know how to handle this i was not ready to give up please someone help me im at my last rope now and it happenening without any thought from her part
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You are still very early in this. Get yourself in a solid Plan A.
I would sure like to see a divorce that costs only $400! That must be by internet, and if the two of you both agree.
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