....Uhhmmmm, yep, 8 months ago FWW was doing EXACTLY what mine was doing!!! And now, FWW is finishing up at her "old" place, has about 95% of her stuff back in the house!! We haven't spent a night apart in about 6 weeks now....and she is deeply in love with me right now!!!

I say this now to boast....but to say....I WAS THERE!!! Please continue with the pricipals to build YOURSELF and your marriage will follow...or at least have the best opportunity to be recovered!! Best of luck!
MWIL

thanks man i love ya i needed that

wife will be coming back in a hour to get more of her stuff out today.
i thought yesterday was hard today is worse.
i dont know how to deal with this?
i feel this is the doomed period ,i dont want to just sit there and not say anything ,but i know the talk would do no good any sugg?pleeeeeeese this is hard

Breathe!!!!! Of course this is HARD!!!!! VALUE YOURSELF!!!! NOW!!! She is in the fog, dude!!! Please, I've been there, AND NOW I'M NOT!!!!! You have the chance, but your hurtin', and it sucks.......it gets better.....you can learn to trust again....start with us...it gets better!!! BE strong as you can be. When you are with her...keep saying in your head......be strong, be strong.....at least early on......as you disconnect from her a bit, it will be more natural to you to be strong, and finally, you will have grown.

You are in the first or second practice of spring training on an NFL team in your rookie year. Plan for the long haul, learn, and get better!!!
MWIL

thanks but i think i ruined it already.
this had to be one of the worst fights and lovebusting days i think ever!!!!!!!
she was moving everything out with her sister in law and the dog was cryin,and cryin ,and cryin.
i couldnt take it any more and told her if she dont bother with him get the ****** out ,and ill have your stuff sent to you.
she just said lets just let this be easy and over and done with.so i enraged myself.
i asked her why does she need all these pictures if things were so bad,and she didnt answer.
then she brought up the divorce and i told her im gonna contest so the other guy is on public record for the adulterer.she got enraged after this,and so did i
i told her you havent been here since memorial day so i dont [censored] need you here eather
i also started going crazy about the om sayin im gonna wire his mouth shut ,so she said that wont bring me back,and i said i dont want ya back and slammed the door in her face.
so i guess its all over now and i do love everyone of you who have helped me but i didnt stay the course so i guess i lost but to everyone else dont do what i did and keep the plan.
thasnks again everyone

just had another blow out on the phone
i give up!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

NEVER GIVE UP!!!!!!!!!

step back and pray and BE STILL!!!!!!!!!

wait and say nothing. maybe the W's or 2long can give input here. but dont say another WORD.

EVEN WHEN IT SEEMS DARKEST.........still give.

nc007 thank you for caring and i hope all is well with you ,but ive been good for a while and i havent had an argument like that since d day so i feel everything went out the window.
and even at dday i was talking about fixing our marriage,today i agreed with her and told her i dont want to be with her either.
i also threatened the om and she went bezerk!
so it looks like there getting closer,and it is hitting the 6 month mark and ive exposed so i dont know if my case will work.
as she left she called me a low life and ill never change,after i said i will name the homewrecker in the divorce.
she also stated he aint a homewrecker cause she choose to do this and move.
today i hate her guts and wish ive never met her,i gave her everything watching her walk out with thousand dollar bags from louis vittion etc. and tons of designer clothes with tags still on it ,had the nerve to call me a lowlife
i dont know how itll change after this,she wont even give me stuff we had stored in her mothers house until we bought a home....she becoming more deviuos than i couldve imagined

JM,

Take care of yourself, man. If you see my thread then you'll know that I found out alot of stuff that was hidden. Unfortunately, I won't be able to have that beer toasting our marriages. Maybe just a virtual one, to you bro. No matter what, make sure you are happy.