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#1683276 06/18/06 03:32 PM
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Never celebrated one(married 31 yrs) hubby was`nt and still is`nt into stuff like that, never pressured him to even remembering.He never remembered my birthday, I bought gifts for myself.He would ask my kids or my sister when was my Birthday.
Heck I can remember him working late ,fixed a nice dinner for his Birthday,candle light the whole thing, he came in and said WHAT THE HE77 IS ALL THIS STUFF and turned on the lights.Don`t know why he was ever this way. As I look at him now laying on the couch asleep, I think what in the world did I EVER see in this guy? I know I don`t want him, he fulfills none of my needs. AHH I guess HAPPY FATHERS DAY,HAPPY Anniversary, WHAT EVER

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Wow, that is so sad. I am so sorry to hear it. He has never once celebrated your anniversary?


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He never has even mentioned it, ever, he does`nt even remember what year we were married

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I'm sorry, I only just read this thread. Oh my, this is so so sad. You make me want to cry. I'm sure this has affected your self-esteem/self-worth somehow. What can you see in the future for your marriage?

Somewhere in the middle of our marriage [color:"purple"] [/color] , my husband was almost the same thing. He would never remember our anniversary or do or get me something special. But after complaining about it a few times, I see now he remembers my birthday and Mother's Day and stuff like that. Although last year we didn't do anything special or go anywhere. We're heading now for our 10th anniversary on 28th September. Wish me luck.

I do hope things begin to look up for you guys.


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I think he is selfish if he doesn't realize the impact his thoughtless behavior has.

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I am so sorry...I know how hurtful this must be.

My ws was always so considerate and did nice things on those special days. This past November after he confessed his affair I received a neclace at Christmas only befcause I think he thought he had to buy something since I did. I received a valentine card simply with his name at the bottom. My birthday nothing...one of the most hurtful things through all of this.
Our anniversary is next Tuesday. We have reconcilled and he has been home fo two weeks. It will be interesting to see what happens. I do not need/want a gift per say...a few nice honest spoken words would mean so much more.

My prayers are with you.


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aptiva,

I think you mentioned on the recovery forum that you were foolish or tolerant to endure 30 years of marriage.

But you did not mention what you had to tolerate. Wow! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/shocked.gif" alt="" />

How long can you endure such lack of respect and caring?

My H was sorta that way.....even gave me a mother's day card one year that said "from your wife" instead of "for my wife"....just bought the first card that said Mother's Day without even reading it. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />

I chose not to tolerate it, though. You can do the same if you want.

Ace


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4 D-Days: Jun-Nov 06 E/PA~OW#2 (OW#1 2000)

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