O.K. I filed for D recently, but I miss WH touch, kiss, hugs. How crazy is that?

I am VERY jeaulous that he's getting his needs met by OW now...physical and emotional, and I am home with the children.

Sorry for the pity party.

CatGirl,

It is not crazy at all. I too miss my husband's touch, kisses and hugs. The way he used to be. I remember all the good times, while it's so easy for him to forget.

OW makes me sick. Breaking up marriages seems to be a hobby for her. Many have tried talking to my husband about OW and what she is like. He's in such denial, and saids she is not like that. How can he think that when she is having an A with him, MY H. YES she is like that.

He let my youngest daughter (3) speak to her on the phone this weekend. The oldest refused. This makes me sick. He told my oldest daughter (7) that he may marry OW after mommy and daddy divorce. What is he thinking?

I don't like that there is nothing I can do about it. I think for the most part, this last week, I have began to accept that there is nothing I can do. I am trying to be a better stronger person. Not so needy and weak towards him.
The D has been started already, and I will have to just try to make the best of it for me and my girls, and let the A run it's course. I don't know how it will all turn out in the end.

I wrote in another thread that WH told DD that he is shielding OW from things being said about them that aren't true. They are only "friends" Sure! Livng together while each is still married. Tell me another one!

I wish I could see into the future if this will last or not. OW is 17 yrs., younger than WH. They say A's burn out. I don't see this happening.

WH told DD why would DD want to break up 2 people that are happy?

I agree, what are they thinking?

Catgirl,

Of course you aren't crazy! The man who committed to love, honor, and cherish you for the rest of you life betrayed you and disappeared almost overnight. He is your H, the father of your children, and you planned on being together forever. You'd be crazy if you never missed him!

I have always heard that a D is like a death and must be mourned. I think the reason it is even harder to lose someone to an A is that there is nothing natural about it. It is just so sudden and you feel helpless to change it. Also, you hate to be alone, knowing that you are mourning & and the WS has seemed to move on.

If it helps you to know, your WH may not have dealt with his loss yet, but he will 1 day. The A may or may not burn out, but he will eventually wake up and realize what he has lost.

My WH went into a panic when I proceeded with plans to move 1,000 miles away to be closer to my family. Suddenly, he wanted only me for the rest of our lives.

It's torn me up, but I am still moving. The truth is, I am glad to have the option, but I think he may have finally killed my love with all his coldness and lies.

I know its different with kids, but you may not even want him back at this point. It just stinks that the decision isn't yours. So mourn and miss your H, but try to accept that the man you married just isn't there anymore.

AM

AM,
Thanks! Some days I think I'm losing it. One minute I want a D to just end the torture, and the next I want him back.

I really can't say how he feels. He told DD he was happy with OW. But he's still in denial over the A. Won't admit it. Says they are "just friends" even though they are living together!

I think I shocked him by filing for D. Don't think he ever expected me to do it. I had always said I wanted to save M, but it just got to be too unbearable for me.

He has no shame, taking OW around town etc. Emotionally I had had enough.

I do hope the A burns out and one day he realizes what he has done to his family. Guess I want him to go through the he** I've gone through all these months.

Guess I am mourning the loss of my H. Never in a trillion years did I ever think he would do this. I don't even know WH.