per my story, i did call law on wife instead of doing something very stupid to her, they took her to evaluation in mental ward , she resisted cops and assulted 2 of them so charges are on her now . shes never been that violent , so i get out , now she will not communicate with me at all. i offer money to pay bills , want to talk to son , beg, whatever , she will not utter a word at any time on phone , e-mail, im. whatever . she did say to daughter that she would kill me if she sees me , how can i get around this withoutt losing my sanity and my cool. i am a pretty calm person , but this is a little much even for me . oh she has alienated our older daughter, middle daughter ,her mother , my mother . this is a tough one guys , need help

cant believe that i cant get any suggestions on this

I went through about the same as you long ago with my WH. I don`t know if it was the fog or he was on drugs? I got a PPO angainst him,changed the locks on my door, had NO contact what so ever, then a few weeks after that he was himself. We were able to just a little then and got back together. I can tell you from my experience we should have went right into counseling then but did`nt. The same things kept repeating over and over for years with him.Hence MC today.

What kind of advice are you looking for? If you want someone to tell you to hang in there stop reading now.

Your wife sounds just like my mom. She was violent and threatened to kill my father. She even tried to stab him one time. Mentally ill people are not to be reasoned with.

I did not read your whole story but why are you begging her for anything? Do you think you can reason with people who are sick? Do you have children that are living with her? If you do why? I could ask a lot of questions but just this short bit that you wrote does not make a lot of sense to me.

It sounds like she needs help. If there are any children they should not be with her. Stop your begging why are you begging?

Let me refresh your memory. You have a wife that is sleeping with another man or men. She treats you with disdain and contempt. She has threatened to kill you and was looking for a weapon to do it. She assaulted 2 police officers and you are begging and offering her money? Do you want her to go out and buy a gun with your money?

I know this sounds harsh but you need a wake up call. Go to a Counselor and get some help for yourself. There is no place in a marriage for abuse and what is going on with you is beyond abuse.

She needs help. My mom was just like this and she sucked the life out of every person that was close to her at all. My Dad was such a good guy and he had to endure her for too long until she left.

Get PROFESIONAL HELP! Your wife may be able to be saved but she has to want too and she will need professional help. Good luck to you. It really bites when someone you love goes off of the deep end.

YEA IT DOES , THE MONEY DEAL IS JUST MY OBLIGATIONS TO THE HOUSE, NOT TO HER. YEA I THINK SHE CAN BE FIXED, SHE IS REALLY CONFUSED AS I AMBUT I KNOW I DO LOVE HER AND WANT TO HELP HER AND MYSELF FOR WHAT ITS WORTH