Take your time, and think it through. I really hope her parents can help her get it. Usually she will "spin" it and try to blame you for everything. See - if you are a monster, then what else can she do but fine someone else to comfort her?

Be prepared for it - know it might happen. You can even tell them the truth - that when people have affairs, they often say those things to make them self look better. There are always two sides to the story - make sure your side gets presented too.

Hope you are still holding up well. It's always hard.

Hi BB! You seem to be doing well lately.

SS

Thanks for checking up on me!

Well it all went as expected, she lied, lied, and lied some more.
I'm not sure how much they believed but I don't feel it matters anymore.

I know I said I would wait a couple of weeks but I did go straight into plan B last night. I just couldn't bring myself to plan A anymore after seeing her yesterday. I still love her, but not as much as I once did and I think it's better for me to just get away from it.

I gave her the letter and made it very clear that she was not to contact me directly. She said that she is going to start D proceedings next week so I will wait for that. It was all done very in a calm way, but she did start shouting from time to time.

I'm at my parents now and although I do hope she comes out of the fog and that one day we can work things out, I do know that I have a good and exiting life ahead of me with or without her.

I will check in from time to time and update if there are any changes.

Thank you all for your help (especially SS <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />)

Mintol

Nothing about this is easy.

Let us know how you do from week to week. She could still come around, but it often takes time. The sad part is that you may be already gone by then.

Don't be afraid of marriage, there really are good ones out there. If you "buy in" the the MB methods, and live the 4 rules, it does make for a better marriage experiance.

Take care of yourself.

SS

Well I'm definitely finding this harder than I thought it would be.

I've not heard from her since last thursday and it really hurts. I still love her so much because I know what a good and decent person she can be. Only last night did I dream about us being together and happy again. It felt so bad once I realised it was just a dream and I'm still feel awful now.

I really don't think I did a very good plan A, infact I know I didn't, so I can't see my plan B being very effective. Looking back I wish I would have left it a couple more weeks, as the last thing she remembers is the anger felt after I exposed to her family. I can see why it would look desperate to her.

I'm certain she is now going to file for divorce as her parents advised her that she can't keep stringing me along, and if she is so sure of her lack of feelings for me that it would be for the best. I don't agree but I can understand why they would tell her this.
What should I do when the papers arrive?

I have taken most of my things from the house incl the pc which she does use a lot. I'm not sure if I should have done this, as I don't really need it but she does as it's the only pc she has access to. I was thinking of taking it back this weekend when I go round to get the rest of my stuff while she is at work.

She is still actively seeing OM#2 and now with me out of the house I know it's only a matter of time before they are both sharing our bed. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" /> I see it not has a romantic relationship, but just as a bit of fun for her, so I can't see that she would change her mind about us if it ends.

I'm going to see a solicitor about a LSA and get them to state that I do not want a divorce.

It really all does feel hopeless and like it's the end of the road.
I miss her so much <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/teary.gif" alt="" />

There is a withdrawl for you too. You just have to find a way to get through it.

The fun will end when she realizes there is no future in what she is doing. Who knows how long that will take? It takes some people a very long time.

You should still be working on a plan. Plan B is supposed to save your love for her while OM is forced to meet ALL her needs.

As you probably understand, sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't work. Often it takes longer than the BS's patience lasts.

Since you are now in plan B, you should be working on yourself. Overcoming bad habits, staying healthy, and fit. Excercising your mind, and your body.

If you just lay around and feel sorry for yourself, I'll have to come round and thump you on the head. (Of course, this is just a figure of speech, you might be bigger and stronger than I am.) <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

We want to hear about your personal progress in plan B. At least we an keep your fingers busy typing.

SS