Call the police if he gets physical again. I know that women don't want to do that and are afraid, but calling the cops can STOP the violence.

Getting away from him is a good plan. Be very careful and get some support. Insist that he get some anger management counseling before you agree to work on the marriage.

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Keep posting. We'll be praying for you. I'm sure everyone will.
He's a downright jerk, if you ask me <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" />. My H and I don't even hit the kids even when we get very angry. Let alone something done out of love for the younger baby. And you can't blame a young boy who just wants to kiss his sibling.
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Thank you believer and winth for your support.

This past week has been horrible. Child Protective Services went to my 5-year old's school last week to talk to him. Then, they wanted to talk to me. I was so scared when I met with the social worker because I thought they would take my children away from me. As it turned out, she closed the file. I was relieved. However, all the social worker knew was that my H pushed me. She didn't know about my H hitting my son, and I didn't volunteer the information because I was afraid.

Now, I'm not sure I should have kept quiet. Last week, my son had a cut above his eye and I asked him what happened, and he proceeded to tell me a very detailed story about how his dad slapped him. When I confronted my H, he angrily denied it. Last night, I had my son try to tell my H what happened, and H got so angry at me for even bringing it up. He even yelled at our 5-year old, why are you lying? H also accused me of poisoning my son and lying too. I was just trying to find out the truth. I wasn't accusatory; I was just trying to find out the truth. He told me he never wanted to talk to me ever again. He is so angry!

When I told him about the social worker interviewing Kai, he told me that was "f***ing bull****, and then got mad at me for even taking my son to see a therapist because I should have known he would say something (obviously he didn't even care that his son was going through a lot of anger issues so my first concern was to get him help!!!)

I am at the end of my rope. He has been blaming me for everything, and I am just trying to hold everything together. I feel so horrible, so guilty as a mother, and yet I don't want to get him angry because for some twisted reason, I still want my family back together again. What is wrong with me??? Has he made me so crazy that I can't think straight?

Who do I believe? My H keeps telling me he didn't hit my kid; yet, my child has told me a detailed story of how my H hit him. I don't know what to do. I want to believe H because it's possible my son could be confused. The physical evidence doesn't make sense. He has a cut right above his eye below his eyebrow. A slap on the face wouldn't produce a cut. I just don't know though because I've seen him hit my son before.

Help.

have you heard those stories about young girls molested by their fathers or stepfathers and the Mother doesn't believe the girl? Therefore the young (defenseless) girl has NO ONE to protect her, help her, or get her OUT of that horrible situation.

Your situation is no different.

Your loyalty belongs with your child.

YOU HAVE AN OBLIGATION TO PROTECT THAT BOY. If you do not step up and do it, LIKE YOU ARE SUPPOSED TO, then the POLICE and the STATE will do it for you when they take the child away and place him in FOSTER CARE. If you FAIL TO PROTECT THAT BOY, you are guilty of NEGLECT, and I believe can be charged.

Your H is an established LIAR and has a motive to lie, your son DOES NOT.

Well, a if a slap is hard enough, it can in fact produce a gash, it's called blunt force injury. And it means your son was slapped HARD.