Will somebody please tell me why I shouldn't go over to the OM's hotel and beat the crap out of him?

I've forgotten why I shouldn't do that.

Because it's illegal, you're better than that, and it'll intensify the "us against him" that heightens the drama of the affair for your wife.

I won't deny that the prospect is appealing, however. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Hang in there!

Because you will be arrested.

That will hurt you in any custody hearing you will be involved with if you have to be involved with one.

What you can do is hire a lady of the night with a disease and pay for her visit to his room. The man has no moral virtues and will probably take her up on the offer.

Arrange for your W to show up about 15 minutes after the lady of the night.

Just a thought but it is better then what you want to do.

Remember that any physical altercation can hurt you in a custody hearing. Don't do that for your kids sake.

Thanks Dobie. It's tearing me up. My WS pretended to go to work today and I found out she never showed. The OM is in town and I know where he is. The temptation to make a visit is very strong.

You want I should send my friends Vinny and Gino over to visit him?

WAT

HL,

You are so right. Almost forgot about the altercation thing. I need to be near perfect for custody.

Tell your very best mean, nasty, large, X-marine friends that he is there, but then beg them not to go do anything. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />

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Good time to hire a PI with a camera.

How 'bout ordering a nice Poison Ivy bouquet and having it sent to his room.

WAT

because they won't let you post on MB from prison

Pep

Krusht,

Yeah, that would be good. Except all my ex-marine buddies have gotten soft in their old age.

Can't post from prison? I didn't think there was anything you couldn't do from "inside."

Got some money to spare? Hire some guy to go over to where OM is staying while your WW is there. Have the guy barge in and say, "Oh, nice, now your not just banging my wife you got someone else, too." Then storm out. OM will deny deny deny to your WW that there's anyone else, but the seed will be planted. Give the guy details so he can call OM by name and make comments that would tell your WW this isn't just some nut that mistook him for someone else. BIG CAVEAT - make sure the guy doesn't lay a finger on OM.

Regards,

BB

BB,

Clever idea. Unfortunately my wife is so thoroughly infatuated with the OM she wouldn't believe he was cheating on her if she caught him in the act herself.

.... because no good can come from it.

I did it. It sounds better than it is.

I went to the hotel, knew what room they were in, convinced the housekeeper down the hall that I had left my key in the room and my husband must be in the shower so she would unlock the door.

She unlocked it with her key, the little light went green and I thought I was in, but DANG IT they had the inside security thingy over the door so I couldn't get in.

I could see XH's shoes through the curtain and the room was in her name so I knew they were in there.

I knocked on the door loudly and was yelling (I'm sure I woke up most of the motel) that my husband was in the room with a 22 year old girl and his kids were at home crying for him to come home.

For all of my efforts I got the manager running down the hall yelling he had called the police. I felt stupid. I felt out of control.

I accomplished nothing because neither of them cared anyway. If they cared.... they wouldn't be having an affair in the first place.

The fantasy is way better the reality of it in my opinion.

FIM

I would show up (with cousin Vinnie, 'natch)

if I am being honest

I would show up and wait in front of the room with an airhorn

I'd blast the airhorn

when they open the door

I would hold my cam-corder out and record the visuals and the sound of them yelling

then, I'd blast the airhorn some more to see if any hotel neighbors would like to join the party

then

I'd go down to their car(s) and let all of the air out of the tires

then

I would call OM's wife and say

"wanna see some video footage of your H & my W at a hotel?"

I don't play well with others who are committing adultery....

immature of me, i know

so what?

Pep <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />

faithinme,

How has your situation turned out currently?

Wouldn't this be a good time to gather some concrete evidence? I would take my camcorder and record them. Maybe not confront them and surely not beat him, although he deserves it! But I would record them coming in and out of the hotel so you have this when fighting for custody.

I like Pep's way better!!!

I divorced him. He was a serial cheater and I would have only had a lifetime of such self defeating moments to live through.

Before I made that very wise decision though I went through dozens and dozens of silly encounters that revolved around him lying, me digging, me freaking out. Ugly business.

I'm remarried... very happily so.

He ended up marrying the trollup. Poor girl. I actually do feel bad for her. She stuck with a man who is going to do the same to her, is ruining her credit, can't support them and leaves her to take care of the three children when they have visitation with their dad.

FIM

Former Marine here, Wheres he at?? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />