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#1685391 06/22/06 02:05 PM
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I've been incredibly upset recently because I wasn't invited to WH's cousin's wedding. Since WH moved out, the invitation was sent to in-laws house. Of course, if we were happily married, I would have been invited. After all, I attended the bridal shower.

Anyways, I was devastated to learn that I was not included in this family event. I suppose it was natural for them to exclude me. It's not their fault that WH is an idiot for being in an A.

I want to send WH's cousin a wedding gift on behalf of WH and myself. Is this is a good idea? If so, what should I include as the message inside the gift? Should I write something like "I wish I could be there to celebrate with you but the circumstances aren't ideal..."

I want his family to know that there are no hard feelings. I am still committed to my WH and his family, regardless of his stupid decisions in the A. Why can't I turn my emotions off? I hate getting so caught up in the roller coaster ride.


Looking forward to a new chapter since D was finalized on 4/24/07 from WH.

"I can do everything through Christ who gives me strength." Philippians 4:13
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Send the happy couple the book "His Needs, Her Needs."


BS (me) - 33 FWH - 33 Dday - 5/2/04, he confessed to a PA Together 10 yrs, M 4 WH moved out 5/23/04, moved home 11/29/04 DD born - 12/7/04 In the process of recovery, taking it one day at a time...
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And inside the book, include a nice portrait of your nuclear family, and another portrait with your photo x-ed out. Put a heading "insert latest bimbo photo here."

Sucks the way family can be so blind to the immorality of their own.


Me:BW, FWH 1DD 1DS
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You Act, You Don't React...You be the person that you want to be, now and always...Send what you would have sent before, and let the card read Best Wishes, Congratulations or some other pat wedding salutation...Being the wonderful person that you are blows to bits any of the ridiculous rationalizations or justifications that your WH has spewed about you...Be you and be proud of that! No matter what happens here, how do you want to be looked at or remembered? What legacy will your life leave here???

Mrs. W


FWW ~ 47 ~ Me
FBH ~ 50 ~ MrWondering
DD ~ 17
Dday ~ 2005 ~ Recovered


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