Hoopsie, Do you really have 40 of 'em?

IMWTK.

-AD

Peachy, you are awesome!!! I always look for your posts, because I know you've usually got something really inspiring to say, and I always take something useful from them, even if they're not addressed to me!

Thank you for sharing that with me tonight. I definitely needed to hear it, that he isn't my problem anymore. I know, know, KNOW I should be relieved that I'm out of it. And to some extent, I am, but I can't help but mourn the loss of H (not the freako WH, but the H I knew and loved). It's especially tough, since I can't talk to Mom about it, since she is so sick right now. She's been my biggest supporter through this. My other biggest supporters are on a cross country road trip right now, moving to California!!

One thing that I thought of today. Not that I'm even close to being ready to dip my toe in the dating pool, but I really don't have many single GFs to hang with to get the opportunity to meet guys. Most of my friends are married mommies who don't go out. What's a single mom to do?

uh...well I live in the same town and am not a wallflower...and I am a single mom.

so you have one new single friend <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

a single and confused friend...dating the guy i've been dating and now confused over a guy friend tonight...wierd things are afoot...

and yes..one day like me now...you'll say that "when it rains it pours." and you'll be confused too. in a good way though. not a bad way to be confused I can say.

SadMommy (I agree you need a new screen name!),
I'm so sorry this has happened to you. You didn't deserve it. It isn't fair. It isn't right. Your WH made terrible choices that have adversely affected you and DD. You did what you could to prevent it, and I think you did it admirably. They are HIS choices. He will have to live with the consequences.

If it's any consolation, my girlfriends who went thru your situation all say that eventually their XH's were sorry and regretful for the A's and the D. It is something the FWH's have to live with. However, I must also point out that without many exceptions at all the BS's are all remarried, to Mr. Right this time. Just take your time to heal, and let God help you through this difficult time.

MSA

I have to say, I'm confused already! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Thank you, MSA. You're right. It's XH who'll have to live with his actions... he's not my problem anymore. In a way, I feel very relieved about that. Like a big burden has been lifted. Just trying to be hopeful about the future, and trusting God to see me and DD through.

I posted to you (I thought) earlier, but I've seemed to have lost it.

I'll be joining you and peach soon, as soon as the lawyers get on the ball. I've been stalling a bit to see what kind of job WH gets, as he has lost his due to his contract not getting renewed.

I just wanted to say that though I am sorry, as well, I know you're gonna be fine. I know you KNOW that, but I also know that if you're anything like me, sometimes you might need to be reminded of that as well. This is not an easy road you're on now, but you're tough, and I admire your strength. That little girl of yours, despite her dad's actions, is gonna have a wonderful life because you are in it.

I hope you still post and keep us up-to-date, as I will as well and will look for your posts.

Who knows, maybe one day we (us non-marital recovery'ers) might need to get together for a girl's weekend. I think we deserve it after what we've been through together. Crazy, isn't it, how I've come to view those here as friends and familiar.

Also, hope your mom is doing better. Can you go see her again soon? Do you think after this she'll consider moving by you again? I remember an old thread where this was discussed.

Thank you, intexas. YOu yourself are a very strong person. Your boys are so lucky to have you! I swear, we're on the same time table just about... Scary!

DD was baptised this morning. XH came but didn't sit with us. He sat behind us, and DD clung to me the whole time... didn't go over to him. When it came time for the baptism, he stayed in his seat and didn't go up with us. Baptisms usually make me cry anyway, so I was sad but I held it together.

During the "share the Lord's peace" part right before communion, I turned around to do that with him, and he squeezed my hand hard with a sad look in his eyes. He wrote stuff in the register at the end of the pew but ripped the page out.

I have been praying for him to come to church, to listen to God. I don't know if this did him any good or not. At least he saw how DD and I are loved by our church family. I'm sure he felt left out... didn't have to be that way, but it was his choice. I will continue to pray for him, and OW for that matter.

Hi SM -

HUGS! You sound so strong right now and I will tell you that you are amazing! Just thinking of ya!

You and DD are going to be just fine.

Kim

PS - Perhaps a small tatoo on the ankle if you are thinking one.......

Dang it, dang it, dang it! I lost the condo. Turns out the sellers got another offer, and since mine was contingent on the sale of our house, I had to let go of it. I'm upset.

But to be honest, maybe a little relieved. I was wondering how I was going to afford buying a house AND paying off the lawyer... Really stinks, though.

I'm just trying really hard to believe the "everything happens for a reason," and "God has a plan." Not easy right now, b/c EVERYTHING seems be going wrong.

Hmmm... XH informed me yesterday he's "going out of town" this weekend. Said he's going to look at doing a design job for OW's XH's business in another state. I know... huh??!!

The day before, he asked me for his grandma's diamond anniversary band, saying he'd gotten a safe deposit box.

What if XH and OW are really going out of town to get married this weekend??

In a way, it would be hilarious. But then, poor DD will be the one to suffer.... Please cross your fingers and hope with me that I'm wrong on this!!

Was the ring adressed in the settlement?

If not I'd not give it back.

I'd say it's in YOUR safety deposit box, and you cant get it till Monday...

I am sorry about your mom. Take good care of yourself and dont worry about him... - Dru

The ring was specifically addressed in the agreement. And I'm really not upset about giving it back. I don't feel it's right to keep it, since it did belong to his grandma (although she was my grandma too for years and years... awesome lady, she was!) Although, I'd rather see it go to Jessa, not skanky OW. His poor grandma would be rolling in her grave, and I told him that!

Hey. I just realized that now it's two weekends in a row where XH has "had plans" and can't see DD!

He picked DD up from daycare a little early yesterday and brought her back home by 6, then started loading up some of his junk from the garage. I have to say, I'm excited about him taking his junk out of there... he's such a packrat when it comes to stuff like that!