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So I am an official divorcee. I have an ex-husband. I'm an ex-wife. The divorce was finalized Tuesday, and I had no idea until today.
While I am relieved the legal crap is over, I'm feeling pretty unhappy right now, thinking about the failure of the marriage, XH's affair and wedding plans, etc.
So now what??
(Formerly SadMommy05)
BS, 29 (me)
XH, 27
DD, 1
M, 2001 high school sweethearts
OW, 36, divorcee, "we have a friendship people can't understand"
WH left out of the blue 9/5/2005
I filed 11/1/2005 D finalized 6/20/06 
XH and OW married 1/6/07. Ugh!
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(((((SadMommy05)))))
I'm so sorry. I can feel your sadness and pain. Time, give yourself some time...that's what I think. Be nice to yourself and DD.
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just to let you know sadmommy05, i am in the same boat you are in. only i don't believe i am dealing with marriage plans. that must really hurt! not sure what to tell you about moving on, but you are not alone. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
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I am so sorry. I will be in the same boat as you in about a week. Mine is almost over and it does not get any easier.
I am having to deal with the maybe that the OW is moving into my home after my H buys it.
My heart goes out to you.
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Thanks, all. On top of all that, my mom passed away Monday. I've got a thread going about that in the General Q II forum under infidelity. Very sad and very tough time I'm having right now... please keep my family in your prayers!
(Formerly SadMommy05)
BS, 29 (me)
XH, 27
DD, 1
M, 2001 high school sweethearts
OW, 36, divorcee, "we have a friendship people can't understand"
WH left out of the blue 9/5/2005
I filed 11/1/2005 D finalized 6/20/06
XH and OW married 1/6/07. Ugh!
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at least your still young you got your son,im 29 and ive been stressed all day about signing divorce papers uncontested so im gonna be in the same boat i know alot has happened to you with your mom and all and ive lost relatives too recently all i could say is god has to have a plan and just keep faith that everything will work out in the end one day hopefully youll look back at the divorce as something you did once the hurt cant last forever that aint what lifes supposed to be sorry for all your lose and ill keep you in my prayers
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I WAS in the same boat, or I am in the same boat (divorced)......its been 5yrs. Let me tell ya, it gets better. Everyday you open your eyes all that past mess starts to fade away. God is good, and he will take care of you.
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It does get much better. The actual divorce is a letdown. In many cases, there are still unresolved issues.
You will heal in your own time, and your child is the gift from the love of the marriage. You will always cherish her.
It was a marriage that never really started.
H: Conflict Avoider, NPD No communication skills (Confirmed by MC) Me: Enabler
Sep'd 12/01, D'd 08/03.
My joys and the light of my life: DD 11, DD 9
*Approach life and situations from the point of love - not from fear.*
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There is a verse in the Bible that I lean on when I simply do not understand........
[color:"blue"]The secret things belong to the Lord our God, but those things which are revealed belong to us and to our children forever, that we may do all the words of this law. [/color]
Sometimes we don't understand. Sometimes we just need to hold on and do the best we can and not worry about the WHY
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