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Sorry for being a spoil-sport but...

All these discussions on how to confront OM, what to do with perfume and so on... How do these ideas chime in with MB principles?

As far as I have read revenge is not on the agenda. I do not see how any of these suggestions will fall within Plan A, Plan B, depositing in the LB, EN or anything like that.

Scaring OM, putting vinegar in perfume and so on might be mental masturbation but it’s not fulfilling or leading to any positive goal.

Scaring the OM? I don't think anybody set out to scare him, just to let him know that other people know what is going on so that they don't think their great secret is such a secret after all.

I spoke to Dr. Harley about contacting the OM and he said by all means to do so, just avoid anything illegal like harassment, threats, etc. In his owns words, "This is war and utilize any fair means of breaking the affair."

If contacting the OM stresses him out and he breaks off the affair, my WS may or may not begin working on the marriage, but she will at least begin thinking about it. That's something she hasn't done up to this point.

LOL. That might work. Does she smoke? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />.

If you "spike" the perfume, I'll bet that the next time you smell it on her, your main memory will be of you spiking it, not where she got it from (that's why I don't recommend that you "spike" it with something pungent or very noticeable: she will definitely notice - and you don't want to turn this into a version of the "War of the Roses"!).

Your WW is probably going to wonder why you seem to be smiling when she's wearing it... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />.

Wow, Hiker - I wouldn't have predicted OM's reaction, but if you consider he has no permanent interest in your wife, it makse sense.

Just shows to go ya that sunlight is indeed the best disinfectant and sometimes ANY disruption of the perfection of the fantasy can send it spinning out of control.

The call was a form of exposure. Exposing to OM that the secrecy wasn't as air tight as he might have assumed.

Please consider re-telling this story in the exposure thread linked in my sig line for archival purposes. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

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I'll say that "scaring OM" or any infidel is 100% in line with MB principles - if you simply equate "scaring" to revealing consequences. (This does not include threats of aggression.) I'll go further and say that what took place wasn't "scaring" at all - unless you're an infidel and you're scared of your nasty little secret being revealed.

As for the perfume shenanigans - lighten up. She's wearing her "scent" around the house, flaunting her affair, or at least showing her teenie bopper affair behavior. Spoiling the scent without causing harm is truly brilliant and ripe with symbolism to soil the fantasy of the "aroma" of the affair.

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WAT,

I couldn't figure out how to post this on the old forum pages.

huh? Surely you jest? Scaring the OM is a VERY EFFECTIVE tactic has run off more than one cowardly OM. SH has recommended clients to confront the OP so they could put a FACE to the person they are victimizing and shake them up [ie: SCARE THEM!]. As you can SEE, contacting the OM in this case has caused CONFLICT in the affair and that is VERY MUCH in line with our goals here.

You should be able to go directly to that link and reply just like any other thread.

Please try again. This story is too valuable for future newbies not to hear!

WAT

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Will there be another call?

What was the phone operator character's name played by Lily Tomlin? I can't remember. I have this image of (Lily) placing the call - or transfering the call:

Lily: Hello? Is this Mr. OM?

OM: Yes, who's this?

Lily: This is your operator. I have an important call for you. Please do not disconnect your instrument.

OM: Huh?

Lily: Yes, please do not hang up, the call will be coming through in just a moment. It must be important because the callee specifically asked that you be fully clothed. Are you fully clothed?

OM: What?

Lily: Are you fully clothed? You don't know? How can that be? It's vital that you be fully clothed to accept this call. State law prohibits certain calls to customers from the establishment of the callee.

OM: What establishment?

Lily: The escort service, of course. Didn't you request an escort?

OM: NO!

Lily: Are you sure? Isn't there a Mrs. Hiker there with you? She specifically requested a male escort to be sent to your location, but the assigned escort needs to know what type of costume to wear.

OM: Costume?

Lily: Yes, of course, does Mrs. Hiker prefer a biker motif or redneck with a shotgun and a hound dog?

OM: <click>

Funny. I need a laugh.