I have posted more tonite more than I have ever (been here since Feb). For the first time I know that if I should be so lucky, and she should return, I could care for her and work this through, like I could never have before. At the same time, if not, I can and will do what I have always wanted... raise two happy kids AND accept my W for who she IS. Right now they are over in their room with full bellies, including the popcorn while watchin' Scooby-Doo. With a "Alice in Bibleland" book and prayers in their heads. Safe, secure and happy; because of what we've done. I wish that they had an intact family, I believe strongly that that's the only way to be raised... but. If you're gonna do it (divorce), I wish I could show you all. Feeling this way, gives me my only hope that we can truley work things out. <P>I went to a Football game today, with a woman. We have dated for a month and haven't kissed. She is my friend, and yes I am aware of the danger to everything. My W knows of her and we have talked of her. BTW, Go SPARTANS. The headlines read MSU crushes IOWA!<P>My point is, she is divorced and it wasn't an affair that ended it. She said to me "Why can't they just change, why can't it just be different." Made me think, that's honesty, someone she dating and we talk so frankly. I end up wanting to help her fix her marriage despite dating her. Hmmm... She told me that she might even consider reconciling! Very cool! To be honest, this guys a [censored], but I do recognize (from what she has said), he is trying. Those of us who are secure with what we are don't understand how much work this is. Realize that we have choosen folks (I am sure I'll hear it for this ), that haven't gotten in touch with who they truley are. I know that (speaking for myself), I made a bad choice, but I am not giving up altogether. My W is not a person of good character, she is sooooo close. I have friends like this, and I give thtem the benefit of the doubt... why not her? I wait but, if someone comes along that connects, I will go there. I will say, that won't affect how I treat my W. If she hurts because of it, I will not take advantage of it to serve my soul. I say now that noone will supercede my first commitment... that to my W and God.<P>Eric32