2much, I don't think I've commented much on your sit. but it sounds like a nightmare. I think if I were in your shoes I'd be nuts by now.

I'd love to stay & chat but I'm tired & want to go to bed. Good night!

I tried to let DDs call mommy last night when I got home from work but the phones are just messed up. I had to run off to school to DD2's parents night. Children were not invited (although some didn't read the memo too closely). I sat there in the lobby in a room full of people and I felt like I was completely alone. I could hear the noise of people talking and then I couldn't. After a bit, I didn't really see them any more either.

So I get home and check the phone and discover that G called while I was out. Nobody is home so I walk to the park and find DDs and take them home to do homework. I ask DD1 is she talked to mommy (because it was the time of day she is usually outside playing). If she hadn't spoken to mommy, I was going to try to call mommy back. She says that she did talk to mommy and that mommy will be home on the 30th.

I think it is great that G and I can communicate so well.

Sorry. Editing so as not to bump the thread.

2much,

You say you were unhappy in your marriage for 8 years prior to the A? Do you think H was unhappy all those years too?

OT:

I just got an email that I am so excited about! I have been waiting so long for this and now I can't believe it has finally happened! This day I had hoped for for so long is finally almost here!

yes, in about 15 days my new scrapbooking stuff will be here! I am agog and I don't even know what agog means!

Oh, and once it gets here, I have a special treat in store for KiwiJ but it is going to be a surprise!

t/j:

I clearly told gemela in my email(s) that I wanted her to stay in Mexico until she could decide on M or D. I also told her not to come back until we discussed it. So, since she knew all that and is coming back anyway without one word to me, I have to assume it is going to be D. Any ideas?

nams,

I am really happy or you. I bet you sleep great.

sorry - editing once again. I just wanted to say that I really like suzychapstick's screen name. Am I the only one who remembers who suzychapstick is/was?

Pio - I hope your scrapbooking does not involve Pink Shorts... or anything at all pink actually.

There Pio - I bumped it.

Where is everyone anyway?

BigK it is SO obvious to me that Pio is a closet pink short wearer. It's why he kept trying to deflect the issue back to Rob so we wouldn't find out his ghastly secret.

Er, Pio, scrapbooking by men is sorta weird. Some do it but it's not a very manly, sweaty thing to do if you get my meaning. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

So what do you tell DD1 now. That mommy isn't coming home? Why did g do that? To put you over a barrel so you have no choice? She can't just turn up back in SA. What a mess.

I'll be making my paper edge cuts with my combination miter saw. I don't know if I'll be using the router to make the frame cuts, the jig saw or just a simple plunge cut with the circular saw. I'll try various techniques and see what works best. I am working on a way to make my brad tool pneumatic and hook it up to my 5 1/2 Hp compressor. My rough calculations have me bradding about 3000 pages (more or less) in one shot. [Note to self: verify yield strength of 1/8" brass brads]

Sweat stains will give the pages character. Forget that whimpy spray-on glue. I am talking high temperature thermoset epoxy.

BTW, any thoughts about G telling DD1 she will be back in 12 days? Just seems strange to me that she has not said anything to me about it.

arf arf arf.....

I edited my post above.

It scares me that you know so much about scrapbooking. LMAO.

Okay before you tell me to go back and read a post. You edited and I have the proof.

Yes it is a mess. I am really at a loss. If I tell her not to come, I become the bad guy.

Did Gemela indicate to DD1 where she expects she will be sleeping when she returns? Like she's made motel reservations right?

Yes you do become the bad guy and your DD will be distraught.

It was manipulative and selfish of g to do that. It beggars belief. But it's also not that surprising given her past behaviour.

WHAT DOES THE WOMAN WANT??????????

Let's not forget "excellence" theory. Yes I know a fair bit about scrapbooking and I have never done it. Amazing what you pick up when you have to.

Let me make a point of something which is more or less a question.

I play golf. Sometimes I play well and other times I don't. I'll never go pro. When some people swing the club and hit the ball, they follow it, moving their body to help guide the ball, worrying about where the ball is going to end up, will it clear the water? will it go into the trap or stop short? what kind of lie will it end up it?

When I hit the ball, I don't think about any of that. I understand that wherever the ball will end up has already been decided by the way I struck it, angle and velocity of impact, direction of flight, etc. Everything else - wind direction and velocity, humidity, fairway hardness, grass length, etc. is already there. I no longer have any influence whatsoever once the ball leaves the face of the club. No matter how badly the ball ends up, I never get angry or discouraged because I was the one who swung the club. The only time I ever do get disappointed with myself is if I am playing in a very very strong wind and misclub for the wind but otherwise made a great swing. In that case I realize I should have been smarter.

Different scenario. Say you are on American Idol. You are in the final two and it is the night of the big announcement. The votes were cast the night before and have already been tallied. This is the big night. Are you nervous? If so, why? Nothing will change anything at this point.

Okay, so what do those two things have to do with my sitch and do those things make me an inadequate person? That is the question.

I hope ToddAC comes back pretty soon because I think I need an inventory system for all my scrapbook materials.

Once DD1 said that mommy would be here on the 30th, I changed subjects. I don't want to grill my daughter. I wasn't even trying to find out whether mommy said she was coming back - I just wanted conversation that they had actually spoken. DD1 first said mommy will be back on the 20th. I asked if she was sure. Then she said: no - the 30th - the end of the month. I stopped that conversation then and we talked about homework.

What does G want? I have no clue. I am in NC.

Deep but I'm not sure I get your point.

Sort of like "the die is cast". It's out of your hands, what will happen, will happen.

Doesn't that mean you won't/can't step in to change things while they are in motion?

Quite frankly if I were you at this stage I would call her, NC or not. Only because of DD1 and what she may be expecting, thinks is happening.

Good question. I don't know. I am not talking about curling where I could affect the results with my broom (assuming I knew anything about curling). No. There is nothing within your power to affect a golf ball. It is in nature's hands then.

All I know about curling is that it involves ice, brooms, a big heavy thing and copious quantities of beer. this from a Canadian friend of mine who is apparently an expert.

But am I curling or golfing? That is my dilemma and my problem. Okay I am speaking in metaphor (or is that allegory?) but I am quite serious. I don't know what is the right thing to do.

And from now on I will only speak in metaphor because I don't know how to spell allegory.

And on a separate note, I must have stood up for myself pretty well yesterday because techie never came back to DJ me some more.

Good to know though that you always have my back, KiwiJ <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Hey Pio - I'm up for DJ'ing Techie some.