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piojitos #1689678 09/18/06 03:27 PM
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Just your luck Pio - it should be 8 20yo Girls. LOL

Nams - Scrapbooking in a SPA - now that really is funny.


Me: 56 (FBS) Wife: 55 (FWW)
D-Day August 2005
Married 11/1982 3 Sons 27,25,23
Empty Nesters.
Fully Recovered.
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Regretted----Yo se que es un alto riesgo revelarle al esposo algo asi, pero en realidad si quieres tener un matrimonio que valga la pena, hay que hacerlo.... Mira el matrimonio que tienes ahora, te gusta? estas disfrutando estar casada? Tu hija esta feliz con sus padres con una relacion tan tirante? No es nada facil ver a los padres pelear como gatos y perros y no demostrar amor. Eso no es vida para una nena, pues va a crecer con tapujos y miedos.

Stanley se puso bien deprimido y perdio mucho peso cuando lo supo todo...Pero despues del shock inicial, empieza una aceptacion o rechazo total de la pareja. Ahi es que el BS empieza a ver con claridad que quiere hacer, si quedarse casado o no.

Pero solo TU puedes tomar la decision de tu futuro, y la calidad que quieres en tu vida, no?

Stanley y yo estamos de lo mas bien, pero ya llevamos 2 anos y 3 meses en esto. Ya yo creo nuestro "rollercoaster" termino!! GAD

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Ladies,

You are free to continue to post here siempre y cuando regreted tells the truth. I cannot support her belief that she is doing any good for her marriage and family by hiding her acts. It is her husband's right to knw and his decision as to whether he continues in the M. Things are getting better are they? What does that mean? He is not sleeping on the floor any more? He is not beating you? If that is your benchmark for marriage, fine. But your marriage is a complete and total lie. It is based on nothing. It is the proverbial house of cards. So please do go a continue your pathetic justifications on your own thread. When you start telling the truth to us and to your husband, you get my full support.

One other piece of information you need to be aware of. I always had your thread(s) on my favorite topics. As a result, I got an email for every post you ever made. You may have deleted those posts in your thread but guess what - I have every single one on my hard drive. So if you wish to haggle over what you have and have not said, I will be happy to refresh your memory by reposting what you have so carefully deleted and, unfortunately for you, you can't delete mine. Since I know your H checks all your email, if I ever do get your email address, I will email you the whole lot and see if he notices. That's because somebody needs to tell your H the truth and you refuse. I'll be happy to help you out and tell him for you.

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But I think he has a right to know the truth.

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Italian or Latin.


Okay Italian works. Now I am impressed!

Do you know I studied Latin for three years in school? I, like Dan Quayle, wanted to be able to communicate with the people in Latin America. I remember having to read Caesar's Gallic Wars in Latin. Hey, wait a minute - maybe that's where I get it! I studied French bashing in Latin for three years! Do you think that Caesar was the first documented French basher? I had never made the connection before. Interesting.

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Pio with all due respect, Gemela did not have a romantic affair. She had an adolescent fantasy and it could have been Daffy Duck.

I keep trying to say how dangerous "non romantic" A's are. That is A's that have no little love notes or silly pet words or any of the other adolescent stuff that marks most A's.


KiwiJ,

You have lost me here. It seems you are contradicting yourself. They did have love notes and silly pet names and secret signs. Can you explain what you mean a little better? I keep rereading it and I am still not sure I get what you are saying.

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Now I am impressed!


You mean you weren't impressed before. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />

I don't really want to use myself as an example. The thing is that the OM and I had a very long history together, including my father stepping in as his surrogate father when the OM's father left the family for an OW. When we met again we didn't have to go through any of the getting to know each other or all the other "silly notes" and "pet names." It was two people who behaved as though they'd known each other for years (as we had). There was no romance which, as I said before, made it that much more dangerous and hard to let go.

I think that an A based on love notes and pet names is doomed to run itself out as soon as reality intrudes.

Is that any clearer? I seriously don't want to sound like I'm justifying anything which is why I didn't want to use my A as an example.

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I seriously don't want to sound like I'm justifying anything which is why I didn't want to use my A as an example.

It never occurred to me to take it that way. We all speak best from experience. You are expert in your type of affair are you not? You know much more about it than most so it is invauable info.

I am still confused. Please go back an reread your post in question. Maybe you didn't really say what you think you said but, to me, it is contradictory. OTOH, I do have to consider the fact that, while our languages are similar, they are not exactly the same. Yours is [color:"red"] coloured [/color] with way too many letters in words that serve no purpose, for example.

What I read from your post is that, since G did trade love notes and have pet names, that it is a romantic affair.

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BTW, soccer practice went okay for the most part. In two separate incidents, two different girls tackled my poor Valeria from behind and made her cry. I gave them both [color:"red"] red cards [/color] so they are out for a week!

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It depends on the definition of romantic affair. Sorry, if I went on too much and sorry about using u in the middle of words where they properly belong. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

I am taking the definition of a romantic affair as that in which the people have an emotional bond.

I don't think that what gemela and pool boy had was an emotional bond. What they had was a pretence of romance that was as insubstantial as a puff of wind. (Hey, just call me BobPure <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />)

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I used "unfinished business" as the justification for my A (OM and I never had SF as teenagers) both to Rob and on MB.

As JL succintly pointed out to me (as did Rob), unfinished business finishes the day you marry someone else.

That really hit home to the (then) foggy me.

That's neither here nor there, it's just always stuck in my mind.

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Okay Bob,

Thanks for the explanation. I understand now.

I once did a study in graduate school regarding deforestation and the print media and estimated how many acres of trees could be saved annually if you and the French would stop throwing useless letters about while refusing to pronounce them.

What I discovered is that it would devastate the economy of Brasil. The paper was quickly quashed.

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I once did a study in graduate school regarding deforestation and the print media and estimated how many acres of trees could be saved annually if you and the French would stop throwing useless letters about while refusing to pronounce them.


ROTFLMAO

I've always wondered why Americans use a z when a perfectly good s will do in words like recognise and polarise and antagonise and....you get the picture.

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However, I presume you mean Brazil.

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Do you say "re cog NICE" or "re cog NIZE"? Just curious. We Americans view the use of "s" as snooty. We Americans are, as Bill Murray said in Stripes, mutts. We be simple folk and we ain't got much use fer that hi-falootin stuff.

Well I am leaving and going to the desert for a meeting. I hope I get back before I see the sunset.

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However, I presume you mean Brazil


Is that how you spell it or how they spell it?

Anything south of the border, for me, is ambiguous.

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Midnight at the oasis
Send your camel to bed
Shadows painting our faces
Traces of romance in our head

Heaven's holding a half moon
Shining just for us
Let's slip off to a sand dune Real soon
To kick up a little dust

Oh, Cactus is our friend
He'll point out the way
Come on 'til the evening ends
'Til the evening ends

You don't have to answer
There's no need to speak
I'll be your belly dancer
Romancer
And you can be my sheik

I know your daddy's a sultan
A nomad known to all
With fifty girls to attend him
They all send him
Jump at his beck and call

But you won't need no harem, honey
When I am by your side
And you won't need no camel
Oh no
When I take you for a ride

Oh, Cactus is our friend
He'll point out the way
Come on 'til the evening ends
'Til the evening ends

Midnight at the oasis
Send your camel to bed
Shadows painting our faces
Traces of romance in our heads



I say rec cog NIZE. A lot of New Zealanders say reckanize.

Not me, I hasten to add. I am snooty through and through.

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Brazil - how we spell it.

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Midnight at the Oasis just popped into my head.

On reading the lyrics, it probably wasn't very appropriate given your sitch.

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