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nams #1689798 09/20/06 06:00 PM
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Here's my latest thinking about the man from the date on Sun: I'm sick & tired ("tired always follwed sick in our house" ten points if you can name who said that) of going on first dates. Most have resulted in nothing more a couple in another date then nothing more. So, when this guy & I had a good date & we both said we'd like to see each other again I wanted to even though he's not a good fit for what I think I want.

I wanted someone & he was looking pretty good. It's not a good idea to go ahead & risk getting attached only to see that down the road what we want for our futures couldn't be further apart.

I don't know...sigh...


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Since nobody seems to be around I think I'll check out t.v.. 'night all. Pleasant dreams.


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Hi everybody,

Welcome back ToddAC, missed ya, hope you enjoyed your geek escape. I agree with whoever said to buy the friends business...why would you want to partner with someone who fights you all the way???? Isn't that why we are all here? Am I on the wrong board?

BK,
Luv your sense of humor!

Nams,
I give you great respect and a certificate of courage...can't even imagine going back to dating...if I D, I swear I'm going to be a missionary or something. Although I detest loneliness almost as much as organic chemistry and symbolic logic...I think I'd rather determine my own fate than have someone helping with that. Not sure I'll be able to trust anyone again after this nightmare.
Kudos to you. Don't settle just cuz you are tired. If you are brave enough to be out there then hold out for what you want, you deserve it.

Luna,
I'm jealous...I love parties almost as much as leftovers...I love not cooking the best! Glad it all went well.

Kiwi...how snooty are you really? My guess is it's all for show and you are really very down to earth. Am I dead wrong?

Pio,
Soccer coach...my H did 4 years of coaching and this is the very first year he has not...it made my kids sad but at least he is going to the games after 6 months of nothing.

Tell the truth, you buff your nails or get manicures right? Nothing wrong with well groomed hands...just don't branch out to your favorite, the French manicure...frog fingers

You should have some kind of plan for G's return...you have plenty of time to think and prepare. I saw your 3 options and I understand you apathy but I think once she is back in your space you will have lots of feelings and emotions and should be prepared to handle them. I believe you are living through the toughest challenge right now; the unknown. At least when G returns you will have some direction to start moving toward.

I am currently loosing my mind keeping my deal with you...as if I had much to loose! New issues brewing if you can believe that but I am sitting on it for now...I am going to look back at LA posts b/c I think she mentions my new issue as common in recovery...just when you think things can't get any more interesting or challenging...you turn a corner and the view is very different

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So, when this guy & I had a good date & we both said we'd like to see each other again I wanted to even though he's not a good fit for what I think I want.

Nams, why did I add bold to the selected phrase? You answered your own question.

Particularly in the early stages of a relationship, we wage a war between our emotions and our logic. This is the prime time to listen to your logical side. He doesn't want to get married again. He just broke off a six year relationship because he didn't want to get married. You, OTOH, do want to get marrued,

Danger Will Robinson.

Nams, this has trouble written all over it. Sometimes you can change people but most of the time you cannot. Don't bet a relationship and potentially years of your life on a gamble that you can change him.


[quote] It's not a good idea to go ahead & risk getting attached only to see that down the road what we want for our futures couldn't be further apart.

You took the words right out of my mouth.

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I don't know...sigh...

Nams you do know. You choose to fight your logical side with your emotional side. Don't.

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Welcome back ToddAC, missed ya, hope you enjoyed your geek escape.

Thanks 2much. Good to be back. Yes, enjoyed my "geek" escape.

The phrase welcome back reminds me of Welcome Back Kotter. Do you remember that TV show? At the beginning of each show, Gabe Kaplan would tell his television wife a joke in the form of a story. This is my favorite.

He went back to visit his old neighborhood and he happened upon Mr. Schulman who ran the shoe repair store. Gabe went in and Mr. Schulman said he remembered him. They caught up and traded a few stories. Then Gabe opened his wallet and pulled out a claim check for a pair of shoes he had dropped off much earlier. Look Mr. Schulman, this is for a pair of shoes that I left here for repair in 1983. I'll go ahead and pick them up. Mr. Schulman went to the back and came back empty handed. He quipped: They will be ready next Thursday.

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I agree with whoever said to buy the friends business...why would you want to partner with someone who fights you all the way????


He is only interested in selling half the business. I think he will come around; it will just take longer than I had thought. The problem is one of control. He likes to massage every little piece of the business and knows that if I grow it in a big way, he won't be able to do so. Comfort level concerns and all that.

Anyway, there is a lot of potential in the business. He mismanages it but has the right industry contacts and good products along with contract manufacturing which is an excellent sign.

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Kiwi...how snooty are you really? My guess is it's all for show and you are really very down to earth.


er, taking the bit about me out of 2much's post and nothing else. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" />

Todd and Pio have mentioned their backgrounds which seems ok to do if you have survived odds against you and made a success of yourself but sounds like bragging or posing if you have a different background.

My background is: My dad was an attorney (solicitor here) in a top NZ law firm. My mum was a stay at home mum. Money was never a worry in our house and I went to a private girls' school from 5 onwards. I grew up without a worry in the world and with a great, loving, supportive family.

When I left school it was the first time I'd ever come into contact with anyone with a different background from mine.

But, you're right, I didn't fit in with the girls who've gone on to be "ladies that lunch", although not many of them are - most of them have very good careers. I was always too down to earth and couldn't be bothered with all the striving after material things.

The main legacy of it all is the "voice". <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

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The main legacy of it all is the "voice".


I'm lost. What is the voice ?

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LOL Todd.

Best example I can give is that most New Zealander's would say "emma chizzit?" for "how much is it?" I say "how much is it".

It's funny because Robby once took off my accent brilliantly on Idiotville (we've spoken on the phone). I do say "ekkadimic" for "academic" as he pointed out but I didn't think it was that noticeable and he couldn't for the life of him work out what I was saying when I said "guitar". Apparently, I was pronouncing it "kittar". And I talk proper, so you can imagine what the rest of the country sounds like.

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And I thought they spoke Engish in NZ.

Thank goodness I live in the American South where we still know and respect the English language.

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LMAO Todd.

I also don't use expressions like "Crikey" and "Mate" and "g'day". I say "goodness me" (or sh** LOL) and "friend" and "good morning." I'm sure it's the same in the States, it's not just how you say it but what you say.

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You are not going to challenge my claim that the American South speaks the King's English? Okay, not the King's English, but close. Also, a little known fact is that the Southern accent (actually a drawl) is the closet American accent to a British accent. Now my American friends, before you laugh, think this through and it will make sense.

Jen, I lived in the People's Republic of Massachussets for two years and will teach the group some Bostonese. Just say the letters:

P S D S

Can anyone figure out what this means?

And here is a little Jeff Foxworthy humor. Do you know who he is?

If you think Taco Bell is the Mexican Phone Company, you just might be a redneck.

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Just don't ask her for fush and chups or sex of anything.

Crikey mate. G'day.


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I can't work out the P S D S.

I was listening to a Jeff Foxworthy piece on the car radio on the way home the other night. I'd heard it before but it was still laugh out loud funny.

I've just been consulting Bill Bryson again in "Mother Tongue."

Here's what he says about NC and SC.

People in SC say "vegetubbles" but in NC it's "vegetibbles". North Carolinians give themselves away when they say "She's still in the bed" and "Let's do this one at the time."

Research on dialects in North America found there were 78 names for the dragonfly, 130 names for oak trees and 176 names for dustballs under the bed.

He also says you can find out where almost any English speaking person in the world is from by their pronunciation of cot, caught, cart, bomb, balm, oil, house, horse, good and water.

Interesting, in fact FASCINATING stuff.

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Todd, you can't live in the South....because I do. Well, maybe you can....but I bet you still live a gazillion miles from me. I've only met 1 MBer who lives w/in hours of me.

Kiwi - I'm sure you talk most properly. However, I found people from NZ even harder to understand than people from Australia. I think the dialect is a bit 'heavier' or more pronounced.

That having been said, I have had people almost argue with me over my accent. Some say there is no way I can be from here. You wouldn't believe the variety of places they think I come from. Always amazes me. But there really is quite a bit of difference in the regional lables given to things in the US. In Tennessee, you can really tell an Upper East Tennessee native from a Middle or West Tennessee native. There is quite a Gaelic influence in the hills of upper ET.

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LMAOPMP BigK. Oh yes, sex, the Aussies find that hilarious. And I'll remember to order seex dollars worth of feesh and cheeps next time.

We say sex instead of six (apparently <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />) And pin instead of pen which can cause confusion when you ask a foreigner for a pen to write something down.

Cinders, sorry you couldn't understand us down here. It's a plot you know. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

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Or as my buddy in Boston says: People from Oklahomer sure talk funny.

As for SC and NC, or any other state, it is not that simple. I can name three cities in SC where the accent is very different. In my own state, we have what we call the "Atlanta accent". Very refined and cultured of course. Not surprising considering that Atlanta is a business and educational center. I was born and raised in Georgia and have lived here my entire life except for my military duty and being held POW in the People's Republic of Massaschussets. There are people in the North Georgia mountains whom I cannot understand. I can pick up every fifth or sixth word, that's it. In our former home, crews from N. Ga. would drive thru in their trucks full of pine straw (landscape mulch), ring your door bell and asked if you wanted pine straw. The first time I answered the door, I thought and concentrated and then asked: "What?" He finally called another guy from the truck to try. I understood every second or third word that he said and quickly calculated that was the best I was going to do. The parts I didn't understand were the prices. I paid $400.00 for pine straw that day. Yes, learned my lesson.

And here's a little trivia about Chicago. Might as well offend everyone. Chicago has only two seasons: winter and the Fourth of July.

PSDS = pierced ears. It is exactly how they say it in Boston.

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Todd, you can't live in the South....because I do.


I live in the ATL.

If you live in the South, I cannot be a gazillion miles from me. Wait, now how much is a gazillion?

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LMAO Todd, very funny story and so is this ->

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Very refined and cultured of course.


I can understand that being pierced ears (just).

While I'm on a roll. At a family wedding recently there were two young American men (in their 20s) invited. We thought it would be very funny to say to them we'd heard they were from Noo Joisey.

Apparently you pronounce it "Noo Jarrsey". <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" />

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I wanna do a dustbunny survey.

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I could understand you...Just had to listen carefully.

Had a fabulous CocaCola - made w/ cane sugar/syrup instead of corn sugar/syrup. Thought it lots better than what we have.

One of the funniest signs I have ever seen was in front of a construction site where they were, apparently, building an office building. It said "Another erection by BloMax." I thought I would die. I laughed so hard the construction workers looked at me like I was crazy.

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