I see that I have very poor timing.....

gonna go and hide, now!

Yikes! By passing this mine field.

Hi Luna! OK let me see what I can do to come off as less hysterical here.

I had one date with a man who interests me. We both said we'd like to see each other again. I thought great! Out of many first dates here's someone I'd LIKE to see again VS yeah, ok, we'll see what happens on a second date. Fine & dandy, no problems, he goes to Italy we see each other when he returns.

I'm NOT planning on marrying this man, don't want to marry this man, gawd, I were even thinking along those lines I should be locked up.

It's quite simple: Should I continue to see a man who has clearly said he doesn't want to remarry when it's likely I do? Do I continue to see him, get to know him, develop a relationship then be hurt if I want marriage & he doesn't? Or do I nip it in the bud now so as not to end up in that position?

I know I could casually date him, see if we even like each other. I did mention he's conservative so there's always the chance this won't go any where any way. After a few dates we may decide fagetaboutit. Fine, no harm done another learning experience. But if it goes the other way...well you get the picture.

We can drop this now that I look like I'm ready to run to the alter with a man I don't even now.

No, not the vines, just the seedlings. It is done all the time. Have you heard about the bagged spinach fiasco? It has come out that the same producer/packager in California bags spinach for Dole as well as other companies. The Buick that you drive probably has a Chevrolet engine. And here's the real kicker: Juan Valdez is from NYC, not Colombia. It's a global economy; labels don't mean much anymore.



I agree that Bill(ie) Joe is a he. The person who wrote that Bill(ie) instead of Bill(y) Joe must be a girl hence young lesbian love is ignorant of Southern idioms and spellings. Billie is perfectly acceptable for a boy's name, especially in Mississippi.

On second thought, wait a minute, where is Bill(y) Jean King from?

Well if I read between the lines, regreted's husband now knows the whole truth about her affairs. Now he can make his choices based on the truth. I am glad that regreted told him the whole truth. Good for her.

It's not lesbian love Todd. It just isn't. I just know it isn't.

nams,

I am telling you that a man coming off a severe pain will always say he will never marry again. It means nothing. It is a caveman thing. We do this.

Well everyone from Arkansas has his or her middle name as "Bob". Billy Bob, Jimmy Joe Bob, Linda Bob, etc.

regreted,

You have it backwards. You don't build your love bank to be able to tell the truth; telling the truth is a prerequisite to building your love bank.

Rest assured that everyone in this thread is aware that Pio is not a pefect person. There are no perfect people regreted. We expect candor and honesty. Short of that, we are not much help.

Regreted, I am going to go back to what you said about both your BH and you having dominant personalities. You have to choose what your goal is. If you want to be "dominant" and that is your primary goal, fine. If you want to save your marriage, back up and try to think about the big picture. You strike me as a person who always has a need to be "right". You need to sort out what your goals are.

Doesn't it mean you're aristocracy if you have three names like Billy Joe Bob

I am glad you confessed to your H. He deserves the truth. Now try to rebuild your marriage on honesty.

Yeah, buy this guy just broke off a six year relationship because he didn't want to get married. That's pretty good proof.

You really need to do some homework. Google Arkansas. We can't even spell "aristocracy"

Wrong woman Todd. The right woman makes all the difference.

I read that differently. If you are right, he must be gay.

Oh, I know Jen. I simply marvel at the world today and how so many try to fit unrelated situations into their own philosophy or preferences.

Me? I am simple. I long for the days when professional tennis players could whack a tennis ball without grunting. How did John Newcombe do it? Amazing.

Okay KiwiJ,

Let's start the MelodyLane debate again. Did I have the right to (re)post regreted's email so people could tell her H the truth? I have no idea what he got sent but I hope people sent him regreted's graphic posts of her A.

I mean affairs. There was more than one.

LOL Pio

Oh, to answer above. It was pretty obvious from the way I'd talked about Rob that he wasn't going to kill me or harm me. I think Mel did the right thing.

However, we don't really know what the truth of regreted's situation is. It's always dangerous with the internet. Who knows what the real truth is.

Hello y'all,

I was trying to find out how long could I stay away from MB. (Talk about addictions) Then I saw Regreted posts...

Regreted, I'm sorry you are in pain but one of the main concepts of MB is that affairs grow in secrecy and the BS or BW has a right to know what's going on with his marriage.

You are not the first that has taken G posts as another version to Pio's situation, I made the same mistake. Maybe G posts have some true in them but they are mainly the posts of a WW woman trying to justify her affair.

I've read most of your posts and you confirmed to me that you had been in contact with 3 men, not 2. The details of the affairs, how long, what they involved... are not as important as the fact that there is adultery, emotional, physical of both. I believe you have a right to tell as much as you want about your situation on the forums but you have tried to gain support manipulating the information about your situation.

I think that Pio was trying to point out to you that sexual fullfilment was not the main problem in your marriage, just that. After a while of posting in the forums other posters hold us accountable for our mistakes and weakness.

Regreted you are making a fool of yourself reacting with so mean words. I think you need MB and you look for their acceptance and comments in the forums but you are just making your situation more difficult.

Look, Todd called me a toad and he thinks I'm you when in reality Kiwi's me and I'm still here. There's a lot of words games here but are mainly done to enjoy ourselves.

Hi Nams,



...I would go for 'nip it in the bud'.......but before doing that.....why not ask him how he ended up with that decision about his life? .... is it possible he may WANT to but has written it off...because he got burned?.... why does he only see the combination marriage + children?
...got nothing to lose if you are considering not continuing seeing him......

Nams? Is Pio right? One date? Might need to learn to stay 'detached' over a few dates..... at least enough time to 'figure out' a person.....that is, if the initial 'chemistry' is there.... one date is cutting it a little too short to make a decision.... but BSs have 'special status'..... we have big wounds that need healing....can't risk HITTING the wound too often nor too soon......

Etu Brute?

Now even my best friend is DJing me.