My plan... good question... first I told him to stop feeding the deers, that Lyme illness sounds scary.

I feel comfortable getting to know each other more. I have never 'tried' to go to live or work in US and professionally it's better for me to be here. I don't know if I'm delutional about the viability of keeping a long distance relationship for a while.

We may see each other three or four times before Christmas and then he may meet my family, ugh.

Mexican Spanish uses ustedes instead of vosotros and we don't use at all the Spain declination of vosotros and vosotros verbal conjugation. It's a characteristic of our Spanish that comes from Andalucia, the Spain state where most conquerers came from. We don't ceceamos either, meaning for us z and s have the same pronuntiation. Whereas in Spain s has an linguodental fricative sound for us is a interdental fricative. It's said that the 'purest' Spanish is kept in Colombia and Peru.

You bet. Here is how she views it.

I always wanted to marry. I was not having fun. As it happened, I married the wrong man. Then, over three decades later, I finally met the right man.

Okay. Pretty much the same story my WW tells.

Hi larousse,

I cannot go into too much detail for fear that Kiwi will scream at me again. But anyway, to be technically correct, which math is after all, the beginning sequence is 1,1,2,3,5,8,13,21,34,55 etc. The sequence is called a Fibanocci Number. The sequence was first used to define rabbit breeding. Today Fib numbers are used in a variety of applications. There are stock traders who use Fib number retracement levels to determine when to reenter the stock market after a decline. Although I am a stock trader, I do not use Fib Numbers in my trading.

Yes the Colombians are quite proud of their Castellano. It does make it hard for me to get in some conversations. When I studied Spanish, I did learn vosotros so can usually deal with in all but the imperative. "Os" is hard.



Well since you did bring it up, don't you sometimes wonder if this isn't really a protection mechanism? It forces you to not commit to a relationship so it is "safe"? How can you meet each other's EN's over that distance? I am finding that I get more disconnected from gemela every day.

It is inevitable. Y'all fills a need for a third person plural. I believe I predicted (although really, how would I know?) that y'all would officially make its way into every dictionary in the world, with the possible exception of the vaulted OED. People all over the US use it and I have seen it written by folks in the UK, Germany, Mexico, NZ, Aus and Canada.

Just a matter of time I tell you. Oops, I mean I tell y'all.

And to think that I thought it was Puerto Rico.

Actually I love to hear Puerto Ricans speak although after spending a lot of time in Mexico, it is difficult. Venezuelans speak very quickly and you get used to it. Mexicans speak relatively slowly and, when I first moved there, it was almost painful to listen to. I kept wanting to say "just say it already!".

Then get used to that and try listening to Cubans! Venezuelans can talk fast because they drop letters. Puerto Ricans and Cubans don't drop letters AFAIK. They just talk FAST.

But the best Spanish is probably Colombia. Even Argentina slangs up a bit. They use "vos" instead of "tu".

Thanks foor the explanation Todd, it's very funny the original purouse* of that.

Puelto Lico has a very nice speaking rythm.

Pio, I think you are right about me using a LD relathionship as a defense mechanism. I feel that I'm more capable of giving in a relationship than I was some years ago. As things are right now, the distance allows some kind of slow 'inmersion' or 'induction' period. Lol.

We are in touch several times a day. From early morning to late night by phone, mail and chat. That man has became an expert on cheap calling cards to Mx. Every time he finds a new, cheaper one he calls me with the exciting news. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Our main relationship issues right now have to do with what he sees in me as sadness, if I say I miss him he thinks I'm sad, it's hard to explain to him that I'm not sad, yet I miss him. From my side I tend to be a little too critical about some physical things, like he brushing his tongue more or cleaning his face morning and night. He has done everything very nicely and finds he likes them but the last day together I made a comment about his tongue and he said half joking that nothing was enough for me. I tried to joke and justify that saying that I'm woman but I know I may overstep. I know that along the years I have became more critical of some aspects of men hygiene and I'm sure it's a defensive mechanism. After a while of being with someone I'm not that critical. How much critisism about that can he endure? How much of different habits can I endure? I don't know.

Well first of all you can't use "men" and "hygiene" in the same sentence.

I was just thinking about LD relationships and wondering if there isn't a fantasy aspect to them? I mean, it is easy to overlook tongue non-brushing if you aren't there in person. The thing about the LD is that it allows you to embrace the good and neglect the bad. I'm no expert - just beng nosey. But what happens if you decide to get together and then find that little habits drive you up the wall?

This is really interesting. My WW has trouble understanding Mexicans because they speak so fast. DS2's GF is from Mexico and WW understands her with no problem but then she is Americanized. WW and her family, without the outstanding exception of FIL, talk slowly. Oh yeah, and her oldest brother talks fast. Maybe WW is somewhat out of practice.

One thing I have never been guilty of is talking fast in any language.

I agree with your perspective. I also wonder why I don't seem 'capable' of dating Mexican men.

It's a contradiction but for someone like me that has gone long periods of time, three and two years each time, without dating, a LDR gives me enough time and space to get use to the idea. I hope it makes sense or it doesn't make sense at all?

You are playing mind games.

Well way back before gemela rewrote her history and we were dating, she often told me that she never wanted to marry a Mexican man.

WW also told me that she never wanted to marry a PR or any Latin man for that matter. She saw her Father cheat for many years as well as her brothers. Duh, guess it wore off on her.

Seems 30 years of marriage will do that. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />

Pio, you have mentioned your lack of hygiene in about 20 different posts. I am taking it (hoping) that you are kidding.

When I met Rob, who is English, my father asked me why a NZ man wasn't good enough.

Todd, considering I like to play chess* but s*ck at it, at least it's a relief to play mind games. Lol.

Pio,
I have had a very different upbringing and teen years and I find hard to explain myself to Mx men.I hate when they jump to conclusions about my past. Other men may jump to conclusions and I don't notice it. Hahahaha.

I'm not catholic, neither is my family. I'm 5'6 tall which makes me tall for the medium height here. I dunno. I feel different. Maybe I'm not different, just isolated. Hahaha.

Todd, I have the impression your visit to your friend 'aired' your mind... Maybe that's what you need an interesting work project.

Not that it matters to me how smelly you are and how often you pee in the shower. Thankfully, we don't have smell-o-vision on our computers yet.

Yes I am kidding (I hope <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" />)

I think that, with the exception of my feet, gemela would have no complaints. And I am working on my feet. And no I do NOT have toenail polish on. It was a freak reflection due to the oblique camera angle and the refractive index of toenails. ToddAC can explain it better than me.