I love my h and we had a long talk i told him about my feelings and he said he was sorry !!! and he loves me and needs me he said he wants her her name is sue to come over sometimes because he has a major sex drive i just love him so much so i told him fine sure i am weak but now my h is happy and i feel he indeed loves me!!!<P><BR>the real carols22

carols22 -- I don't know what else to say except that I am sorry. I will pray for you.<P>God Bless

Ditto to ES...<P>This only confuses the issue, don't you think??<P>------------------<BR>~Sheryl<P>Marriage: the most important contract you'll ever enter into, and the most sacred.<P><BR>

Carol22-<P>I'm sorry.<P>lori

I'm going to be crass in my slight confusion over your statement. Was your H intending that you join them in their sexual adventure?<P>

kate,<P>yes, that's exactly what was going on... all three were sleeping together. <P>This is a convoluted story... look on prior pages and find posts by carol... there's been a lot of confusion on everybody's part...<P>------------------<BR>~Sheryl<P>Marriage: the most important contract you'll ever enter into, and the most sacred.<P><BR>

carols22 -- Your situation has caused me to do a lot of thinking. I thought I would share some of my thoughts.<P>I think that a lot of men have had fantasies about being involved in a three-some. In fact at one point my W and I were talking about our sexual fantasies and this particular one came up. I told my W, and I really am sincere when I say, that I no longer have this fantasy. All this infidelity garbage we have gone through has caused me to re-evaluate a lot of things in my life, and this is just one of those things which have gone away.<P>IF, and I do mean IF, you were willing to engage in this type of fantasy fullfillment with your H, then your willingness would have made things a whole lot different. With your H forcing you, literally, into this situation, I can not help but feel sorry for him.<P>To me, his actions are cowardly. I believe that he needs help. carols22, please look into finding a way out of your situation. It seems obvious to me that your H does not love you, and you need to find a way to protect yourself. Check out the library, check out your local hospital. There are a lot of resources available to help someone in your situation. I really wish you would look into this before something much more serious happens.<P>I will be praying for you.<P>God Bless

This will lead to worse destruction of your marriage along with your mind & soul. I will pray for you.<P>I am not trying to judge. I know someone who was in your possition and it indeed made it worse. Marriage was never intended to be a three some or more. <P>You are worth so much more! <P>------------------<BR>God bless you and all of us.<P>Samantha<BR>

I'm sorry. I didn't have time to read your previous posts, but I have been in the same situation as you. (Don't hold it against me-lapse in moral judgement/self-esteem). My husband wanted to experience more in our marriage (ie sexually) and began with pornography. Later he encouraged me to participate in "swinging" and I admit at the beginning it provided a sexual thrill. At that point my H told me that it allowed a sexual outlet for our marriage, but that there was no emotion involved so that made it "ok". When my better moral side slapped me upside the head and I attempted to draw back from this sexual rollercoaster, he was angry. We became very distant. I considered going back to swinging to make him happy. GOING AGAINST MORALS IS NEVER THE ANSWER! God put those in place for a reason and I think it brought our marriage to it's knees. Please consider that you are worth more than that. I know I am one to talk, but don't diminish yourself. You deserve a whole husband, not half a one. And it's only time before he becomes emotionally attached to one of them.