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KiwiJ #1690318 09/24/06 03:38 PM
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They've given up the crossing USA by train idea and think they'll fly instead.


Good decision. Train service in the US is awful.

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Hmm. I never realised SF was a geographic location. LMAO

Pio - what's this banter about breaking Forum rules? I can't keep up with all this.

Todd - Pio is right. Focus on NC. That's first. I don't think your position is at all unreasonable. NC drives everything.


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Thanks for the advice, Pio.... are you still mad at me, and if so, for how long?


You say I can come here and vent and then you slam me for venting. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" />

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And the foolies did not like pleasant places. Any place that smelled good was not a place where you would find a foolie.


You know that might kill two birds with one stone. It might get her to shower more frequently so her bed didn't smell bad. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

piojitos #1690322 09/24/06 04:13 PM
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Todd I answered you on page 244, lol.

That Grisoft info was very useful. Ty. I tried the antispyware fist, it worked great.

KiwiJ #1690323 09/24/06 04:15 PM
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Pio, I apologise. I'm sorry, it was mean. I just know how careful you have to be.


Don't apologize. I said you were right. I know how dangerous it is to talk about personal issues and many of us are in especially vulnerable places. I know my EA with ToddAC is in - what? - month seven? I know it's wrong but I just can't stop.

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Pio, I think it may be useful to find your EN, there must be there somewhere. I gave a try to what your need may be:

Honesty
SF (Pasionate)
Companionship
Admiration
domestic Support


Okay this might be the most useful post I have seen since Myrta. (and it is still related to that same theme). I was dwelling on this most of last night. The thought that occurred to me is that if I can't find those EN's that my marriage might be doomed. I mean the A has caused serious devastation. If I don't find an EN and have gemela start meeting that EN, I might never be able to reconnect. So yes I think this is a critical thing that now has some urgency. I am going to read HNH this weekend.

I think I will skip the raisnettes and junior mints though.

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Surely, DD is going to the Athens. It is the pop music capital of the US.


Oh PLEASE don't get him started again.

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Luna,

I have to disagree with ToddAC.

If you are really going to enjoy SF, DON'T remove the Trojan.

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Is Pio sulking?


Pio was sleeping.

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Kiwi - if they get to the Athens of the South, I will show them around. Do you have my email address? AIM? Any contact info?

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Shhhhhhhhh Todd, you should not mention the T word unless you have your hair spray ready.


I am lost. What is the T word?

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What do you think are your main needs Todd?


1.SF
2.SF
3.SF
4.SF
5.SF

Okay, all kidding aside:

1.SF
2.Companionship
3.Friendship
4.want her to be proud of me - what is that called?
5. Domestic support

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It is very true. Not only did huge names get their start in Athens, other groups have moved there after having years of non-success and overnight they are a sensation. Widespread Panic is a great example of this.

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T the over self steemed state of Tejas

4 is called admiration I thin

2 and 3 seem very close, lol.

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Hi larousse, Todd, Pio, Cinder, BigK, luna, 2much,

Todd for someone whose top five ens are SF I have to believe "...you're in for a treat with SF." & "remove that trojan" are intentional. LOFLOMA

Kiwi, where in the U.S. will your DD & her BF be going? Trains here are horrible. I've wanted to take a train through the Hudson Valley up to Canada for years but it's a pain in the a.s.

larousse I like your definition of affection & what it does for you. Affection during the day makes passion ignite at night. Not that I have recent first hand experience with that <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />...but I remember many years ago... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />

I haven't thought about my ENs for a while but honesty is up there somewhere.

Pio, I don't think not knowing your ENs is a bad thing. ENs can be somewhat changeable over time & changed by circumstances Now that you're a BS I would expect that to influence you ENs. I know it did for me.


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Luna, the file with the .exe might be the trojan, meaning it's not one of your operative files. Have a look at your windows files in the my pc files, programs, windows files and look for it, see if it's attached to another file or alone, compare the name, etc. several trojan files go to that windows file by default. Don't worry too much about the X rate, if it's a Trojan it could be several kind of Trojans including cookies that help to mesure the frecuency with wich you use certain page or service.
Let Norton destroy the trojan. Also see in add, remove programs if a program has installed itself without your consent.


Larousse???....I really appreciate your advice....but.... you lost me....at about the first line! ....uhmmm.....I think I will be inviting my 'techie' friend for supper this week....haven't seem him for a while...it will give me a c h a n c e to catch up and see what's up.... he does enjoy my homemade spaghetti sauce very much!

...and thanks to you, too, Todd...I will look into Grisoft...

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You are in for a treat with SF.


Todd...may I suggest you SPELL out the name of the city next time... I almost had a heart attack! ...and Kiwi is going to think I am having SF with a Trojan.

Kiwi, I now what this means...'LMAOPMP'

Thanks for the link, Todd.

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You say I can come here and vent and then you slam me for venting.

Oh..that was venting? ..OK, Pio...now I know...go ahead.....CAPITALIZE EVERYTHING...if it will help....no problemo!


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Piojos.....I think you are one of those few men, that really cannot pin point to a specific EN. I think your ENs are more abstract, more diffuse. You, my husband too, were men, that were really easy to please, basically, just being a good wife,woman,mom to the kids. You were not really telling Gemela, or Stanley to me, "YOu have to do this or that, for me to be happy". Thats why you cannot think what your ENs are.

Gemela, me, others, were sooooooooooooooooooo lucky to have you as husbands,but.......we really did not appreciated <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" /> what we have. We were really stupid women, that wanted more, and went the wrong way to look for it.

I thank my lucky stars EVERYDAY that Stanley has stayed with me and we are doing so well. But I made really ,really good deposits all thru our marriage. I think Gemela has been too inmersed in herself to do good love deposits with you. And now that you are going thru this affair crap, you are noticing, that you can do probably better with out her.

Of course, again, lets give her the benefit of the doubt, and wait till she gets back, and see what her attitude and words are to you. If you really see a change, and its a change that you like and would like to explore with her, then maybe you can give her another opportunity. But if you are dreading so much her coming back <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />, gosh, I think Gemela is in a no win situation.

Right now you are doting so much into your two little girls and thats so admirable, so sweet of you. Gemela should be proud, that she chose such good man to be the father of her kids.

Thats my take in your situation, Piojitos. I hope you really make the right decision, thats best first for you, then your girls, then Gemela. Because if YOU are not happy, you will not be a good dad to your two little girls. YOu can be sure of that.

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luna, are you upset with me for being a bit..pissy... the other day about my dating situation?


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Todd...may I suggest you SPELL out the name of the city next time... I almost had a heart attack! ...and Kiwi is going to think I am having SF with a Trojan.

Why spell it out when an abbreviation can be a double-entendre? See how inexact words can be?

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Hello all,

I also busted a gut when I read Todd's SF dialogue...

Pio, don't you think Honesty is your #1 EN now? I think it is mine...if I had total honesty I could start building from there. Maybe I am confusing you with your wonder twin Todd but he has already identified SF to the 5th power as his top ENs...

I am up to my eyelids in deadlines tonight so can't play

Hope you all have fun; I'll catch up later

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