BigK, I do have an insatiable need for admiration.

Rob meets that need. Sheesh, he meets it constantly. Maybe he doesn't say it without prompting. Read "am I smart, really, really, am I smart, go on tell me, am I smart, seriously, am I smart?"

I should have got the freaking degree, then I wouldn't feel like this.

That's almost an endorsement of affairs. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" />

Um Pissing you off wasn't my intention Jen.

We might need a translation Pio

No, in fact, I wasn't. From what stph20 says, WH is very happy with her in that regard. I thought it would be something else.

Bien sur mais c'est la joi de vivre du francais mediterrain.

It's a song with Greeke music and French lyrics.
It pops in my mind every time I try to write French.

Sorry.

lol

Translation

We have all the life to enjoy ourselves, we have all the Death to rest ourselves.

LOL BigK, you haven't pissed me off at all.

I'm p'd off with myself.

Pio, I read stph20's EN's and SF wasn't one of them. I assumed.... but then I haven't read the thread.

I was referring to WH's EN's. I haven't read the thread either. I am curious why stph20 thinks WH stepped outside the M. I think I remember that WH is 27 but don't quote me. Do you think stph is 20? I guess I need to read the thread.

But a 27 yr old man who thinks his wife is really hot and can't get enough SF with her? What is wrong with this picture?

larousse,

Cœur qui soupire n'a pas ce qu'il désire.

Do you agree?

I just downloaded stph20's thread. I can view it more easily that way.

I think stph has been very abusive verbally to her H. Not that there is any excuse for him having an affair. An affair is a poor way of coping.

Todd,

I agree partially, lol. Sometimes we sigh for persons we 'have' but for the time being are not with us. Dunno. do you agree with that?

Kiwi,
Why you didn't get your degree?

Pio,

What are the studies of G?

larousse,

Yes, I agree.

Well here is the hottest pic,

Pio and Todd after a night out, you can identify Pio by the shinny toe nails.

Pio&Todd_pic



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Okay I read most of stph20's thread.

Stph20,

I hope you have finally read SAA. You said you had no clue what WH's EN's were/are. How is it a much older woman with a child can meet those? You need to do your best job of identifying your WH's EN's to better plan your Plan A.

I see lemonman set you straight on STD's and MelodyLane lectured you not to file for D. I agree. If he wants it, make HIM work for it.

I think his anger could be his confusion or simply him trying to make you hate him to appease his guilty conscience. He wants to be the victim. That is what all WS's want.

One thing you are confused on though. You CANNOT MAKE your WH fall in love with you. Doesn't matter if it is 3 weeks or 300 years. That is his choice to make. You can't force him to do anything. Your Plan A should be about correcting those negative behaviors in you. So you don't know his EN's. You do have some ideas of what you did wrong. Try your best to work on those.

As long as WH is still in contact with OW, the A will not stop. The only way to kill the A is with absolute NC. What do you think will happen in November when she leaves? Since they apparently had SF on the job, I would go as far as to report it and get your husband fired. I know you are short on money but what is more important? His job or your marriage?

I think you have been getting some really solid advice. I think you should keep posting just to air your thoughts. You will find that many here understand exactly what you are feeling and that will help you not feel so alone.

The STD possibility would really scare me though. There are many of them out there and many have no cure and some can cause cancer. You are very young (not 20 like I had guessed). You need to protect yourself.

What I want to know about is fear. Fear seems to drive most of our actions very early on. You got some great support to help you past some of that. I am a little surprised you are not totally furious with WH. You seem to have completely bypassed anger and that is unusual. Maybe you are still into bargaining/denial. Do you know the 5 stages of grief?

Do you understand Plan A? What is your Plan A?

Oh and do NOT file for divorce unless that is what YOU want.

test

Nice Hooters....

Working

Thank You Ladies and Gentlemen! He's here all week! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

TY <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

larousse,

Is it safe to assume that you have a new bottle of tequila this week?

Is it further safe to assume that you have put a large dent in it?