I don't want to be near exploding potatoes thank you. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Y'all should be proud, I don't LB anymore. I'm impressed with myself. Is that considered an act of Plan A? If so, then I'm really impressed with myself!

No I don't. I won't go into details but the behavior was really strange. Why log on and off and on as various people if all you want to do is read? Why log on at all in that case?

She was either here trying to delete everything she could delete or it was her BH logging on as her. There was a great deal of "searching" going on.

I also never knew before that she has been here on MB since 2004. I always had the impression that this was a fairly recent thing but it has been going on for years - if it ever really happened at all.

In one way or another, she is obviously addicted to the internet - either for porn or attention (or both). As vindictive as she is, I am just copying everything in case I need it. I have also downloaded all her threads and am getting email updates on everything she posts so, whether she posts and deletes or not, she can't delete the email copy I have.

She has been at this for years. Apparently people have been telling her to confess to BH since 2004. She is not nearly as "innocent the victim" as she let's on to be. Tear never had a PA. Regreted had 3 PA's and curly17 had 5 PA's. Explain that to me.

Well I can! And it involves an inflatable children's swimming pool filled with mud! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" />

Gemela did this to me way back when. Either to make her feel less guilty for the A or less guilty for leaving.

Yes I came to that same conclusion that if BigK can do it, anybody can <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smirk.gif" alt="" />

Was he always like this or is this recent behavior? Think before you answer.

He's always gotten upset over bills if they were late or we didn't have the $$ or whatever the situation was. It may be a little worse than it was, but not much at all.

Most new microwaves have a "potato" button. Do poke holes. I always put mine in wrapped in a moistened paper towel. After I take them out, I wrap them in aluminum foil and let them sit for a few minutes longer to "repose".

If you cook them for 30 minutes, poke holes in the microwave itself so IT doesn't explode!

Thanks but your advice came a little late. I'll get back here after I talk with the fire marshall, homeland securtiy and the maintance man. None of them seem very happy right now.

That being the case, IMO it is a very good indicator of how he viewed your relationship pre-A and may be a contributing factor to the A. I am not saying he has affairs because you don't pay bills. I am saying that you said he had you on a pedestal but my take is he viewed you more as a pet. I don't think I am explaining that well. My point is that he may have always viewed you as inferior or else needed to try to feel superior. It is not a matter of being a gentleman or not. Okay maybe he shouldn't yell. But even if he is polite about his abuse of you, the attitude is still there.

Nah, they love this stuff. They'll be talking about this for weeks.

Just to be clear for the NEXT microwave. I put the foil on AFTER I REMOVE the potato from the oven. Don't put the foil on BEFORE zapping the potato. On second thought, try it. those guys will be back and have even more stories to tell their buddies <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

First of all, what does IMO mean? Before I get made fun of again, bear in mind I haven't been here long!

And I had kind of thought along the same lines as you. The longer our bills are behind and I'm the one paying them, the angrier he's going to be and that's just going to push him further and further into divorce.

I think a big part of my problem is that I am so emotionally drained, that I'm not thinking straight about anything. Hense my confusion about everything.

Let me guess - your German heritage showing through? I bet the dark owl runs faster.

I don't make that connection at all. On the contrary - feeling superior to you may be an important EN for WH. If OW doesn't let him do that too, it might be a turn off for him.

My point is that IMO it is an indicator of one of the fundamental problems in the M.

IMO = in my opinion
IMHO = in my humble opinion
IMVHO = in my very humble opinion

OTOH (on the other hand) that is JMO (just my opinion) - FWIW (for what it's worth).

OK guys, he'll be here in, like, 5 minutes. Tell me how to handle this!

Oh, we'll make fun of you a lot. As I have said many times, if you can't laugh about infidelity, where's the fun in it?

I don't think he does want to feel superior to me though. If he did, he would take over paying the bills. He wants nothing to do with it though.
I totally agree that our finances are a HUGE part of our problem. I honestly don't think any of this would have happened if our $$ situation was straight.

Ok, no time for a potato.

Be pleasant. No fighting. No LB's. Don't talk about D. If he brings it up, tell him you don't want it and that will be his choice alone but son't say more than that. Don't talk about the A and leave OW alone.

Well, at least I know up front what I'm in for...can't blame anyone but myself now!