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Very soon my H goes to spend a month in the country where OW lives to do some bussines there. These days, H is at home to help out with the new baby we just had. After 5 months of separation this is the first time we sleep in the same bed and act very cordial with each other. I do not know now what to do when H leaves. Should I ask him if he will stay with OW and even ask him to give me the phone no in case of emergency? Or should I just act indiferent - ask for no info and behave as if it does not really bother me where he is going?<P>When a couple of days ago, I asked H what is going on with OW, he did not deny his relationship, but latter he started acting as if we are a happy faimly.<P>Any input on what to do would really help me out in this difficult situation.<P>Tara<BR>
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Tara - I'm probably not the best one to address this, but weekends are slow, so you get me first instead of our best and brightest!!!<P>I think you have every right to ask for a phone # to contact him in case you need to. You are living as a family and you do have a baby. <P>But....I don't think I would ask OW questions right now. If he's only been home a short time, things have to be a little tense. I think this might be a lovebuster. Not that you don't have EVERY right to know, but, unfortunately, we don't always get all the info we have a right to.<P>Anyway, there's my take. Congrats that he's been back at home. That's a good thing. Keep building that deposit and try to keep things going.<P>I'll be praying for you and your family.<P>Lori
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I agree with Lori. You need to know how to get a hold of him in case of emergency. If everything was normal and there had not been affair, you would expect to know how to get a hold of him. I also agree about asking him about staying with the OW. You do have a right to know but he probably wouldn't tell you the truth anyway. If he won't give you a phone number but says he will keep in touch with you most likely he will be with her. I wish it weren't true but sometimes when you ask point blank questions it just set you up to being lied to and that hurts even worse when you do find out the truth. Good luck.<P>------------------<BR>di<BR>
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