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cinderella #1690998 09/27/06 10:13 PM
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"Mammaries (All Alone in the Moonlight" is just one of our favorite song parodies. Nothing more complicated than that.

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or is this really a confusing post?

Cinderella, Cinderella...what's with you, girl? You didn't catch the joke about Teddies, either! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> You're apparently going to have to try just a little harder to keep abreast <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> of the humor around here!

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Is it that muscle relaxant injection talking

The only muscle relaxant injection that bosoms ever need is really a very common drug. The technical name is called "Passage of Time", and it's available without a prescription, too! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" />

t&l

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It's us that's nuts, not you.

Speak for yourself, Neak. As I told Pio, I'm only related to you by marriage! And several stretch marks with your name on them! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" />

t&l

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D-Day=Discovery Day=Day your heart is extracted through your [censored].


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piojitos #1691001 09/27/06 10:19 PM
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but you never lose sight of the other side. That's your motivation - always keeping your goal in sight.

I don't even know what the goal is anymore. I do know, but I can't do it alone and H doesn't want anything to do with it.

Aren't you people exhausted?!? You've all been dealing with this longer than I have and I'm just drained...I can't imagine dealing with this any longer, especially over a year (not that I'll get that chance)!


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stph20 #1691002 09/27/06 10:21 PM
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So, what keeps you hanging on and not divorcing, or her from divorcing for that matter?


two things:

1) When I married her I didn't say "love, honor and obey until you have an affair" (I did go back and check just to make certain).

2) If my daughters can have a complete and loving family, that's what I want for them. Neither gemela nor I ever had that. I guess I just watched way too many "Father Knows Best" reruns when I was a kid. Believe it or not, that was my greatest fantasy - to have a wonderful family. I never missed an episode. I especially liked Frahnk Smeeeth - the gardener. That's Frahnk - efay erray ah enay kah - Smeeeth - Genuine USA name.

Hey, you don't suppose there was any funny business going on between Margaret and Frahnk do you? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />

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D-Day=Discovery Day=Day your heart is extracted through your [censored].

you guys are a bit...graphic on this post, aren't you.

But thanks for the explanation.


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stph20 #1691004 09/27/06 10:25 PM
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but I can't do it alone and H doesn't want anything to do with it.


That's because he is still seeing OW. NC is a critical stage in the process. That's why I only count from that day.

Unfortunately for all of us, the initial responsibility for trying to save the M is pretty much all on our shoulders. Didn't you see that in the brochure? Travel agents - I swear.

Reminds me of the time gemela and I went to Cozumel. Everything was great until we started to get in the water. Filled with millons of jelly fish. The guy on the boat said - oh that happens every year in April - that definitely wasn't in the brochure!

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extracted through your [censored]


I'm very sorry stph20. You are so right.

bigK,

please try and remember that there are ladies present.

Actually in my case it was more like Indiana Jones and the Temple of Doom where the guy sticks his hand right into your chest and rips out your beating heart and holds it in the air above his head laughing while you look down in utter disbelief at the open hole in your chest and realize in shcok that your heart is no longer there.

Mine never came out the gluteal region.

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I don't even know what the goal is anymore. I do know, but I can't do it alone and H doesn't want anything to do with it.

Aren't you people exhausted?!? You've all been dealing with this longer than I have and I'm just drained...I can't imagine dealing with this any longer, especially over a year (not that I'll get that chance)!

Stef - you've been at this for how long now? 5 milliseconds? This isn't going to get fixed overnight.

STOP acting emotionally
START thinking
DEVELOPE a Strategy
STOP feeling sorry for yourself
STOP blaming yourself
STOP talking about divorce
START reading EVERYTHING you can on this site.


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you've been at this for how long now? 5 milliseconds? This isn't going to get fixed overnight.


May be - but the first 5 milliseconds are the most painful. Don't forget that.

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D-Day=Discovery Day=Day your heart is extracted through your [censored].

you guys are a bit...graphic on this post, aren't you.

But thanks for the explanation.

Well OK Stef. I promise I won't use the word Discovery again. Whoops. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />


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OK, so you never wanted a divorce, just like I don't...did gemela ever want a divorce?

The theme I keep seeing on these posts is that the WS wants the marriage to work and is remorseful about the A. I very rarely have seen a post that the WS wants a divorce as badly as my H wants one.

What does POJA mean?


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Just a thought...What could possibly be more graphic than what your WSs have already done to you? Does it really feel better if you say your heart was extracted with the assistance of a sigmoidoscope and extended forceps? Or is it just ripped, no matter how it's expressed?

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D-Day=Discovery Day=Day your heart is extracted through your [censored].

you guys are a bit...graphic on this post, aren't you.

But thanks for the explanation.

Well OK Stef. I promise I won't use the word Discovery again. Whoops. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />

It's OK this time. Just beware of "virgin" eyes!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" />


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piojitos #1691012 09/27/06 10:37 PM
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stph20,

Just remember that everyone here not only wants to help you but many have been there, done it and saved their marriages.

Maybe because it does hurt you so much that sometimes you just have to go on faith. Trust what is being told you is really sound advice.

I will warn you though - if you start to feel too sorry for yourself, we can be pretty mean. We all want to feel sorry for ourselves at times. The rest of us won't let that happen for too long. And I feel a good 2x4 whacking from bigK coming so I am going to get out of his range.

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What could possibly be more graphic than what your WSs have already done to you? Does it really feel better if you say your heart was extracted with the assistance of a sigmoidoscope and extended forceps? Or is it just ripped, no matter how it's expressed?


Sorry but the clinical description just doesn't QUITE capture the moment. In my case my heart was "arrancado de mi pecho".

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Thanks for having my back Pio.

And admit it, I've been fine all day long until I talked to him.

I just have questions, that's all.

And I keep telling you people that I'm confused. You were all prewarned so I don't want to hear it!

And I have read and reread everything on this site and SAA. I'm still not grasping or comprehending his actions and I probably never will, because I don't have the mind set of, "I'm not happy, so I'll go have an A".

AND, have I mentioned that I'm an impatient person?! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/tongue.gif" alt="" />


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See Pio - I like Stef - she has a sense of humour

Stef - My wife left me to shack up with OM. She sure wanted a divorce although not as badly as your H does. Like we said a bazillion times, ignore what they say. Only look at what they do. You'll keep much saner that way. Trust me on this.


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did gemela ever want a divorce?


Not in the correct order. Gemela just wanted to abandon her family and run off and live with OM. I don't think divorce ever crossed her mind. It wasn't part of the romance.

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stph20,

Just remember that everyone here not only wants to help you but many have been there, done it and saved their marriages.

Maybe because it does hurt you so much that sometimes you just have to go on faith. Trust what is being told you is really sound advice.

I'm trying really hard to trust you guys and your advice. I want to really badly, but you all know how hard this is to deal with...especially the first 5 milliseconds...I'll get there.

I will warn you though - if you start to feel too sorry for yourself, we can be pretty mean. We all want to feel sorry for ourselves at times. The rest of us won't let that happen for too long. And I feel a good 2x4 whacking from bigK coming so I am going to get out of his range.

Don't hit me too hard BigK!! I'll do better, I promise!


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