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thndrnltng #1691118 09/28/06 07:43 PM
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But not of the tonsils.


That would be syrup of ipecac.

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Yes I did Jen. Thank you.

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Is this a thread of constipated toothpaste wasting dishwasher loading loonies or what?

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Is this a thread of constipated toothpaste wasting dishwasher loading loonies or what?


Yes.

And your point is.....?

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you can afford a new Bosch DW


A Bosch would be far more expensive. Since it is a German brand, I would have to buy it in the USA and freight it, pay customs, etc. If I bought it here, it would be the wrong voltage.

I guess German things are naturally quiet. They sure snuck up on the French alot.

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You will also save on water and electricity.


My water and electricity is free of charge. I tried doing a ROI calculation but I keep getting an error. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" />

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My computer monitor at home is being repaired and I will be computerless for TWO WHOLE DAYS.


My computer monitor at home is currently still in Mexico.

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They sure snuck up on the French alot


LMAOPMP

DD leaves Europe for the States tomorrow. Just thought you all (y'all) might be interested.

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I saw that about the sauce bottles on the Discovery channel. So I didn't even need to go to school to learn about viscosity.


Doesn't really matter - with squeezy bottles, I realize that my education is obsolete anyway. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />

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DD leaves Europe for the States tomorrow. Just thought you all (y'all) might be interested.


Finally reaching civilization! Woo Hoo! And now you sign off for 48 hours. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" />

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Squeezy bottles still need a shake and a smack on the side so your education wasn't entirely wasted.

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thanks, 2much.

Ya know, I've been thinking...again. This whole fog and babble thing would a whole lot easier to believe if the WS's actually had, like, a different voice or something. A special WS voice a normal S voice. Wouldn't that be fun? Then I wouldn't be so confused because he'd be using the WS voice and I would know it and I wouldn't listen to him.

But good twin and evil twin...they're too much the same and I don't like it. It makes it hard when they look the same, talk the same and everything is the same!

Well, BigK grounded me from any relationship talk (and SF!!) for a week, so I should be OK...I'll think of Pio singing Small World when I talk to WH next time.

And I can't forgive him yet, apparently, but I'm not holding it against him...yet. Still waiting for the anger to hit.

And I agree with you...I am (kind of) glad this has happened. I've found I've got friends and family and a support system all around me that I could never have imagined. Obviously, I wish he hadn't cheated on me, but maybe this was supposed to happen for me to figure out who I was, that I am more than a wife, who my friends are, how much I am loved by those around me, and to get closer to God.

Sometimes, it gets easier to believe that I will be OK, if divorce does happen.

This is how I feel tonight. I'm sure I'll be all over the place again tomorrow...sigh.


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but maybe this was supposed to happen for me


I'll accept that. I won't agree to the rest of your statement - but I'll buy this part.

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Sometimes, it gets easier to believe that I will be OK, if divorce does happen.


After a while, you begin to detach youself emotionally from the WS. It is natural and the only way to survive.

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And I can't forgive him yet, apparently, but I'm not holding it against him...yet. Still waiting for the anger to hit.


I guess that is what people are trying to tell you. Only after you have reached the acceptance stage of grief will you be in a position to forgive. Don't worry about forgiveness right now. Your time will come and you can decide then.

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If I bought it here, it would be the wrong voltage.


And before you say "hellooo, tap into the oven circuit", I will use transformers or 220V circuits on many things but not on motors with pumps attached to them. If you take into account the affinity laws and the fact that the motor would operate at 60 Hz rather than 50 Hz, the increased load relation of pump HP requirement to motor load rating increases by the square of the speed ratio. So it is obvious that I would be overloading the motor at 60 Hz regardless of the voltage. Come on! puhleeeze!

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but maybe this was supposed to happen for me


I'll accept that. I won't agree to the rest of your statement - but I'll buy this part.

What don't you agree with?


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What I need from WW in order to forgive her is to see genuine remorse and regret for her affair. I have not seen anything close to that. When she has done that, I will forgive. If that is not forgiveness, then fine. I don't really care. It is the way I approach it and it works for me.

I find it very interesting that in SAA the entitled biatch NEVER expressed remorse or asked forgiveness. Certainly I sure wanted to see this from my FWW. We were about 6 months into recovery before I knew she really got it.

Late on today - My eldest son just graduated high school. Very emotional day.

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What don't you agree with?


because God doesn't usually lay all his cards on the table. He is a great poker player and always wins. The Bible only says that all things work together for good. It never says God has to explain why.

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Proud day BigK. Well done your son.

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What don't you agree with?


because God doesn't usually lay all his cards on the table. He is a great poker player and always wins. The Bible only says that all things work together for good. It never says God has to explain why.

HUH?

I'm not looking for an explanation from God, I'm saying that maybe this needed to happen to me in order to figure out who I am. A wake up call, if you will.


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Congratulations to your son BigK! Yay for him!


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