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stph20 #1691138 09/28/06 10:48 PM
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Ok, guys over and out from me.

No computer now for 2 days.

But it is Friday evening so things aren't all bad.

See you in the funny pages.

larousse #1691139 09/28/06 10:58 PM
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I won't buy a tequila bottle so you don't feel tempted to drink anymore Coronas.

Ohhhhhh I was Sooooooooo tempted to post a link to the 9 coronas song too. But given the subject matter and the audience it thought nah.

Stef rolls off the tongue much easier than stph20. In fact if her name is in fact stph20 I am not surprised her husband left home.


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I'm not looking for an explanation from God, I'm saying that maybe this needed to happen to me in order to figure out who I am. A wake up call, if you will.


Okay but that could have happened in other ways. Do you think God had WH commit sin just to get your attention? Doesn't work that way. Do you believe God wanted your marriage destroyed just to get your attention?

Sometimes I think like you do. Sometimes I think maybe all this happened so I would find this website, link up with a poor German woman and help convince her not to jump off a balcony in Kuwait. I don't know why this happened and it doesn't matter. A lot of good can come out of it. Maybe things lie in your road ahead that will be impacted by this event in your life right now. I don't know.

Don't analyze it - just learn from it.

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HEY!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" />


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Stef rolls off the tongue much easier than stph20.


Sneeze it - don't say it. Comes right out.

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In fact if her name is in fact stph20 I am not surprised her husband left home.


This seriously pisses me off.

piojitos #1691143 09/28/06 11:04 PM
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And to add insult to injury, those Australians created a hole in the ozone layer over themselves.

Pop Quiz - what is the biggest cause of ozone depletion?


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2muchhrtbrk #1691144 09/28/06 11:08 PM
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Any other hot tips for the ladies BK??? Have you been conducting research on this topic???

Bwhahahahahaha

I'm only repeating what I heard a BW saying in a chat room. (we were not alone BTW). Wow. Talk about an education. Have I ever lived a sheltered life.


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piojitos #1691145 09/28/06 11:12 PM
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You're right, it could have happened in other ways, but we don't know God's plan. Maybe He knew this was the only way to get me to realize that we didn't have a healthy marriage, by slapping me in the face. The sin was not God's doing, but maybe He used it so I would wake up and seek Him and learn about myself. And I don't know yet that my marriage is destroyed...maybe God saw how destructful it was and is using this to make it better...I don't know, these are just my guesses.

All I know is that by having to deal with this has brought me closer to God, by praying for the strength to handle all of this, for guidance in what's best for me and WH, and to help save my marriage.

I'm not trying to analyze anything, I think everything that I have learned from all of this is a very good thing.

It's going to make me a better wife, a better friend and overall a better person.


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Pop Quiz - what is the biggest cause of ozone depletion?


Well since the hole occurs only over Australia and nowhere else, the only logical conclusion is aboriginal ceremonial dances.

piojitos #1691147 09/28/06 11:21 PM
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This seriously pisses me off.

Hey lighten up guys. I didn't use a smilie but it was a joke. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />


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bigkahuna #1691148 09/28/06 11:26 PM
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This seriously pisses me off.

Hey lighten up guys. I didn't use a smilie but it was a joke. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

I took it as a joke, it's OK. Now if he had said it last night, we would have had problems, but I'm feeling a little more secure now.

Now let's calm down, it'll be OK. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />


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bigkahuna #1691149 09/28/06 11:30 PM
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I thought it was NZ sheep.


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bigkahuna #1691150 09/28/06 11:35 PM
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Like I said Stef - It is NOT your fault in any way shape or form. Never ever.


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bigkahuna #1691151 09/28/06 11:46 PM
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Hola, todo mundo durmiendo? Bien <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

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Like I said Stef - It is NOT your fault in any way shape or form. Never ever.

What?

Do I keep sounding like I blame myself for his stupidity? I don't mean to, I know it's not my fault, honest I do!

Where did that come from?


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No it's OK Stef - I made a joke that was misunderstood. You don't sound like you blame yourself at all any more!! I was just emphasising for Pio's benefit that it was a joke. That's all.

I'm really doing so well today.


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Todd, I tried to cook whole grain rice and the results were, er, how to say it, let's say the original intention didn't match the results. There goes my new habit of good nutritive cooking.

Congrats BK, you emotional? Can't imagine that !

Pio, the hamster story is great, you could do a short story with that. Well, it's there, just some polishing.

About men and tools:
The first time I really saw love for me in the eyes of BF was when I handed him a can of WM-40 to clean the bycicle; he couldn't believe I had bought it on my own. Hey, we have Costco too.

Another time he was repairing the dush and wanted to buy teflon tape and I told him I had already. I got a passionate kiss for that.

Finally he asked me to help him to take away the plaster of a wall. I covered my hair, sit in a chair in front of the wall, took the hammer and the other tool and did the lower half. He even took a picture.
That day he realized we may be compatible. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smirk.gif" alt="" />

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Hi Stph20, you were in bed already. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> Glad you feel better.

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No it's OK Stef - I made a joke that was misunderstood. You don't sound like you blame yourself at all any more!! I was just emphasising for Pio's benefit that it was a joke. That's all.

I'm really doing so well today.

I'm glad you're doing well today.

I'm so confused...

When you grounded me from relationship talk, does that mean ALL relationship talk?


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Don't worry Stph, periodically Todd and BK wonder if they have been to rude to the women on the thread. First BK gave a sui generis welcome to T&L and now he wondered if you didn't understand his joke. I think you did, and Pio was only pulling his leg of course

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