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WW's call record to OM (Flash 8 required)

What I have not shown is that on the days with frequent calls, I have a spreadsheet showing time BETWEEN calls. Many times it was only 15 - 30 seconds between calls. How does that go? "I love you, bye". [ring] "No, I love you more, bye" [ring] "Just wanted to say I love you, bye"......

Mother,

the DHL package is in Dhahran. The AWB says there is a DVD inside?!?!?!? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> That is a potentially big problem. It is still in customs. It might take a while because of the DVD (hope it is "G" rated). And you sent a sock? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" /> You are funny.

Hopefully it will clear this week. I am getting behind on homework. Vale cannot remember to bring home her glasses for anything.

Gawd Pio I think you're trying to drive yourself insane with the spread sheet & seeing what you suspect G & OM might have said to each other each time you post.

You have (had) an iron Todd? Now really, what's the use of that?

The song by the Proclaimers (thank you Kiwi <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />) is about a man devoted to his partner. The chorus goes something like this:

I will walk 500 miles & I will walk 500 more to be the man who walked one thousand miles to drop down at your door.

I hope she opens the door. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />

May not be exact but close. This is the man I want for my next partner. Is that asking too much?

All of those graphs I made prior to Dday when I was trying to get to the bottom of the unexplained phone calls. I went into the third month without noticing the calls because I generally never pay that much attention to the phone bill. I found them by accident because I was looking for something else and noticed a very larg number of call to one particular number. I called WW to ask if she knew anything about the calls. Of course she said she did not. The calls also stopped immediately (they found another method - secret prepaid cellphone). Even so, since WW denied the calls were hers, I launched a security investigation. I also began look at the phone calls to see if maybe someone was using out phone when we were not around (house maid?). That is why I plotted them so many ways. It was when I saw the call by time of day that I knew it was Karla. I called her and she confessed the A. So those graphs are over a year old. I only post them because of something KiwiJ said the other day. The one I find interesting is the calls to BF spiking right before calls to OM start.

One of the reasons I thought the calls were a mistake initially is that on many days there would be a call of 1 minute or so followed by another 2 minute call 20 seconds later followed by a 30 second call 10 seconds later. It was just WEIRD. I couldn't imagine anybody making calls like that. Since our ADSL and phone lines run through the same box, I was afraid I had a computer virus that was making the calls. I never doubted WW. Dummy me.

Like I said, all that stuff is from 2005.

I thought that too (that he just wanted to talk to me). A friend of mine, who just went through a similiar situation with her BF said that even when he calls and is upset with me, sometimes all they need is to hear your voice. I think she may be on to something.

BTW bigk...you SUCK!!!! I knew you were going to do that to me. 10 more days shouldn't be TOO hard, but, I can't believe you think I'm going to be tempted to have SF with him Wednesday. That hurts...it really does. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" /> (JK, BTW)

Besides, shouldn't I be meeting ALL of his EN's???

Dear TKO group.....I am still behind about 10 pages on this thread and do intend to go back and catch up...and I have decided to cut back on my 'hosting' duties, which I did again this weekend... I like a large lively group...with good food on the table...but it IS a lot of work...before and after.....

...in the meantime I would appreciate your feedback on an 'issue' I am having.....

This weekend, like out of the blue, I have started to fantasy about MEN...without going into details...just let your own imagination do the 'walking'...like I did way back when.....and this made me realize that I had actually been faithful both physically and MENTALLY...in ma M....

...well...that has changed for now if only mentally .....after not seeing WS for over a year....and therefore not having had any sex for over a year....and actually....when I learned of A....any sex I had with WS that overlapped with A all of a sudden, retroactively, had become ...yuk!... and so for the mathematically inclined.... statistically I have not had any for about 2 years.....and although SF was not THE top need for me in M.....it was being met over the 20 years being married...

....as it has been discussed just recently..... needs DO change... and since it is not being met AT ALL now...it seems over the past weekend....SF is hitting
the top of the chart for me! (....maybe I can blame it on you guys, LOL!)

Now...as you all know, I am in PLAN B....and as suggested.... have committed myself to 'stick it out' the 2 yrs mark before 'moving on' and give up on M... but if I keep up the direction I have taken this weekend.... that will have to be shortened...by a lot!

So...would other PLAN Bers lurking here....and MB oldtimers (edited: or newtimers for that matter!) please remind me WHY would a perfectly healthy woman with healthy needs vow celibacy for any length of time...while WS, not only gave himself permission to start an A over two years ago while married to me, and handle any problems created by it with LIES, and basically 'dumped me' over a year ago by chosing to move out so as to feel less guilty and have a field day with OW?

...I am figuring my TAKER has had enough and wants to take charge!

...and please BigK....suggesting that a buy a vibrator...as you did to stph20...will not do...because my logic right now is getting to the stage where I would ask: why get a 'mechanical' one when I KNOW I get a 'live' one? See?

I may be older.... but I still spot a lot of men in whose eyes my 100 lbs on my 5'3" frame is not lost.... all I would need to do...is turn my 'ON' button on.... and all ****** would break out.... I have been a 'head turner'.... and like riding a bicycle.... don't think I have lost my touch!

...this is your chance to convince me...before like Darth Vader....I am lost to the Dark Side....why should I do otherwise? ...I know there are reasons....but right now none come to mind....

....because where I am right now....protecting my "weaknesses"...means literally to never be in a room alone with a man....and that's going to be hard to do for whole other year!

...Does anyone remember the play\film 'Cat on a Hit Tin Roof'....and when Elizabeth Taylor said that to Paul Newman character?...well...I now know what she meant!

I thought maybe, if Lemonman is lurking, I could ask him to provide me a link to see the effects of STDs on the genital regions....now...that should be a turn off!.....

Believer??? are you out there??? ...did this problem come up with you?

...good thing my milk is no longer being deliver...oops! ...but my mail still is!

....and....not having MBers of opposite sex emailing each other privately...is a very good policy..... for just these kinds of moments.....because.... Todd....I hate to say it.... but where I am at right now...I could totally 'abuse' the privileged information you provided on here: SF being #1 for you....ARGH!....because all of a sudden...Atlanta doesn't sound so far away and I could be at your doorstep propositioning you like your WW's friend....LOL!

...in the meantime...I will go and take a shower to cool off!

Luna, Believer did indeed go through what you're going through.

Yikes. I think a couple of showers might be in order.

Pio, I didn't look at the records but I have a feeling mine were nothing like as bad. After d-day I told Rob he could look at all the records and I highlighted in yellow highlighter the calls to the OM. There were never any calls at night and they were mainly calls to say I was on my way to meet him.

The interesting records are the calls to Rob first to say I'd be late, then the call to the OM.

No.

Hi Luna,

Wow. Sorry for what you are going through. All my showers are cold these days. They turned off my hot water. They have removed all heat sources from my apartment. It is just as well I suppose. But cold showers only work for so long. Trust me.

OK...I am caught up.

Nams,

Just wondering...maybe I missed a post...but what happened with your 'man up your sleeve'? did you ever date him? ...as you can see from my last post.... I've got MEN on my mind right now... hope it's a passing phase... I could be very DANGEROUS were I to be let loose.... I think it wise fro me to keep away, for the time being, from cruiiissing bars....don't think I would even need to go in one.....the outside waiting line would suffice...LOL!

stph20,

...sounds you are catching on real quick....keep up the good work....and, for the time being, I will let BigK advise you on the SF issue...as you can see...given my current phase...I cannot be much help to you on that issue...LOL!

Pio,

I see from your graphs that you have put your skills to good use!... I know you are concerned about G's return....but if you can keep away from LBusters I think you will be fine.....

Todd,

...no talking to WW.....means NO TALKING! ...if not, we will have your phone disconnected!

....boy...what's left to take away...your electric shaver!

OK....decided to go for a walk to get some fresh air...will make sure to wear DARK glasses so the men will not notice that I am CHECKING them out...LOL! ...heaven help me if I were to dust off my 'teasers' file in my brain from way back when...that I promised myself I would no longer use again.... the day I came to the conclusion that my seductive ways were no more no less a very 'manipulative' way to get to men and quite unfair...by 'appealing' to their weakest link....and no...unlike Achille....I am not referring to a heel....

I would very much appreciate being told that it is a 'normal' phase for a sex-deprived BS to be in... thank you, very much! ...so that I will have one less thing to worry about....and can continue to go about my merry way!

Don't think Pio will let you borrow his heated blanket... since it could actually be a dealbreaker in his case!

Well I am apparently evil because I did not let DD1 play goalie tonight. All the girls all want to play goalie so we have to take turns. Me being coach for my side, I can't play favorites. Most of the girls like playing goalie because they don't have to do much of anything. We have very few legitimate shots on goal in any given game. My DD1 is an exception. She screams at the defenders to get out of the way so the other team can take shots on her. The more - the better. The defenders just shrug and go sit down. They would rather just chat anyway.

She did score a goal though. I have really drilled into her to go for the corners. Most of the girls kick as hard as they can right at the goalie. DD1 is learning to go where the goalie is not. She kicks pretty hard though. If she does kick at the goalie, most of them just dive for cover. She's put girls out of the game before.

Anyway she is mad at me and refuses to play Wednesday night. We'll see.

Dare I ask BigK for suggestions? ...as I may have insulted him by not wanting to seriously consider his suggestion to Stph20!

I would think about bigK's suggestion. It doesn't forget to put the toilet seat down. It doesn't sit around watching TV all weekend drinking beer. If it complains about being too tired, just pop in a fresh battery - and the energizer bunny's your uncle.

I forgot to mention that WW always called me at the office right before running off to see OM. She wanted to be sure where I was.

Pio...our criteria differs....by a lot!

I think they come in multiple sizes.

BTW, Pio...just because I suppose you have looked into it...who gets to decide a thread's rating?

...as I don't think the additional star was at your request!

I don't know how the rating system works. I did use a special "trick" to try to get it back to two stars and I got a message saying that the rating was accepted but it remained at three stars. So I got this theory that the stars are an average of all the ratings that have been given to the thread. I think in order to go from 3 to 2 stars, one or more people would have to rate it very low (i.e. 0-1 stars) to get the average down less than three.

To be honest I find it much harder to see the thread with three stars. Sometimes I almost post on IV by accident. I catch myself though. Then there's that supermarket aisle with the tampons. That's a whole nuther story.