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ToddAC #1691698 10/02/06 11:49 PM
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Hey - since when did I become the kill-joy around here? Sheesh.


Me: 56 (FBS) Wife: 55 (FWW)
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Empty Nesters.
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bigkahuna #1691699 10/02/06 11:51 PM
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Hey - since when did I become the kill-joy around here? Sheesh.

Awww, it's all in good fun! We do it because we care. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />


BS (me)-26
WH-27
Dday-August 2006
0 kids
Married 4 years
NC established 1-26-07
status-working on it

"Sometimes, I'm afraid and I don't feel that tough...but I'll stand back up."
larousse #1691700 10/02/06 11:55 PM
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'I am the rule maker next month. hehehe'

After second treatment Todd I would be very afraid of you as rule maker.

Hahahaha

Geez thanks larousse. That brightens my day!

Or as Alan Parsons put it in "Eye in the Sky":

I am the eye in the sky
Looking at you
I can read your mind
I am the maker of rules
Dealing with fools
I can cheat you blind
And I dont need to see any more
To know that
I can read your mind, I can read your mind

bigkahuna #1691701 10/02/06 11:55 PM
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A quick Google Todd and I found this on Plan B Letters...

http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum30/HTML/000177.html


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bigkahuna #1691702 10/02/06 11:55 PM
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I searched for "Plan B Letter" site:marriagebuilders.com in Google. The link doesn't seem to work.

Last edited by bigkahuna; 10/03/06 12:11 AM.

Me: 56 (FBS) Wife: 55 (FWW)
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Married 11/1982 3 Sons 27,25,23
Empty Nesters.
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bigkahuna #1691703 10/02/06 11:58 PM
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And Stef - just so you know, I do intend on keeping grounding you. You just may save your marriage. Can you see how your husband is changing and you are becoming attractive to him again? You have the upper hand Stef.


Me: 56 (FBS) Wife: 55 (FWW)
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Married 11/1982 3 Sons 27,25,23
Empty Nesters.
Fully Recovered.
bigkahuna #1691704 10/03/06 12:00 AM
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Hmm. I dunno if I would let him stay the night either Stef. WH I know you would like to stay the night and enjoy our airconditioning but I feel that you would be happier if you did not stay here.

How's THAT for reverse babble.


Me: 56 (FBS) Wife: 55 (FWW)
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bigkahuna #1691705 10/03/06 12:01 AM
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...to avoid an indefinite period of suffering while a wayward spouse vacillates between spouse and lover, and to avoid rewarding the selfish behavior of having needs met by both spouse and lover, if plan A does not work within a reasonable period of time, I recommend plan B.

Plan B is for the betrayed spouse to avoid all contact with the wayward spouse until the affair has completely ended and the wayward spouse has agreed to my plan for recovery. In many cases, once an affair has ended, a betrayed spouse makes the mistake of taking the wayward spouse back before an agreement is made regarding marital recovery. This leads to a return to all the conditions that made the affair possible -- love is not restored, resentment is not overcome, and there is a very great risk for another affair. Without agreement and subsequent implementation of a plan for recovery, the betrayed spouse is better off continuing with plan B.


Plan A and Plan B

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Wow BK that was reverse research, lol.

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Yeah - I was trying to find some sample letters though..


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Empty Nesters.
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bigkahuna #1691708 10/03/06 12:11 AM
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Todd, but we know you really don't want to read minds just, ehem, the Superman vision.

Humor aside I hope you remain positive and pro active about your next treatment Todd. I almost feel like saying if all this WW stuff is like a hot potato drop it completely. Your physical recovery is paramount.

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stph20 #1691709 10/03/06 12:11 AM
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That makes me a little nervous. What do you have up your dirty, wrinkled sleeve?


Hey! Yes my sleeve is wrinkled but not dirty. I take a shower every day with my shirt on.

ToddAC #1691710 10/03/06 12:13 AM
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Todd you never have slept with your wet clothes, have you?

The wrinkles would last weeks.

If you want to follow Pio's example then you have to jump to the drying machine as DD's. Don't forget the pillow.

larousse #1691711 10/03/06 12:14 AM
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Well, I am done with treatments. It is simply a matter of gauging the success of the treatments. And yes, this has to come first.

larousse #1691712 10/03/06 12:54 AM
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Pio, if you were in SLP, were you in La Huasteca Potosina? or were you in some christian tour to el Valle del Silencio?


¿con qué se come?

I was in a gas station filling up my motorcycle after which I immediately left SLP.

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[color:"red"] I know I shouldn't but...
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Larousse and friends, pic.

larousse #1691714 10/03/06 12:58 AM
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You need new friends...

piojitos #1691715 10/03/06 01:02 AM
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La Huasteca is an area between the states of San Luis Potosí, Veracruz and Tamaulipas. It has a very fertile land and the main activities were breed of cows, horses and agricultural activities, the music of the region is called huapango. Huapango to me is the best folcklore rythm of Mx.

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San Luis Potosí also has an area visited by riders and hippies and all kind of people. It's el Valle del Silencio, where peyote grows or used to grow wildly.

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