Well Luna - we do so LOVE the FWS's here. It's the current WS's we aren't too crazy about.

Pio , sometimes it's the "little" things that get us to act. I know this isn't "little" but while I was married it fit in as more of a quirk than what it is which is the inability for ex to be emotionally connected. ex did not call me by name for the entire time we were married nor did he have a pet name for me. Cold, cold, cold. Thisis why if refer to him as ex, no capital or the in front of ex. It shows the disrespect he showed me for 21 years.

Shawarmas sound gross. Between the flys & the added fat, ick. They sound like the Greek gyros except gyros are tasty. Do gyros pass your food names test Todd?

2much, yeah the white stuff in panties made me LOL & snort tea through my nose. What was the term starfish used...clittly litter? Hysterical. {{{2much}}}

Tripe IS NOT food. Once in Spain ex & I went out to lunch. We ate lunch together almost every day & that was great. I digress...While in a restaurant where English was not spoken we ordered the daily special. We saw people looking at us but thought it was because we were so clearly not from the neighborhood. We were served a mass of fat with sauce. We picked through it to find a speck of meat hidden within a honeycomb of fat. Makes me want to vomit just thinking about it. Thank goodness dessert was included in the meal or we would have starved. Well, that & wine.

Jen, you are mistaken, you do indeed have hicks in NZ. They are easy to spot & you have one fairly close to home. They wear black socks with sandals. I know you've said it's only the British who do that but I'm quite sure you're wrong.

Todd, thank you for the lyrics of the Jackson Brown song you posted, even if Pio objects. The verse that starts with "How long have I been sleeping..." hit particularly close to home.

I'm sorry to hear about the side effects you're experiencing from your treatments. Losing teeth is especially hard. Those can be fixed but how about the bone loss in the rest of your body? Does that limit what you can do on a daily basis? Is it something you can build back up?

Yesterday I went to my Dr. & had the whole array of STD tests done. Even though having an STD would prove ex was unfaithfull it would be too high a price to pay so I'm obviously hoping they come back negative. Send your positive thoughts my way please.

Time for bed. Tomorrow I start a new teaching job with 2nd & third graders. It's an enrichment class at a multicultural magnet school. Should be fun.

Here is something I'll throw out. I'm not totally convinced of the idea. I never used to do it but decided to try it once and it seemed to work. Part of it may depend on the climate. I think the colder it is, the better.

Gemela found years ago these design books for jack-o-lanterns. Really creative and intricate designs. While they look good ob paper and obviously sell books, they are really difficult to make. The books also come with dozens of plastic "needles" to punch holes in the pumpkin and a little saw to cut through like connect the dots. Sounds great and the 2 year old doing it on the book cover makes it look very simple - but its not. Pumpkins, like ToddAC, have very thick hides. And even after I finally made my first pumpkin creation this way, the light inside didn't show the design all that well.

So one day I got the bright idea to scrape the pumpkin very thin from the inside when I gutted it. First I took out all the intestines and then used a spoon to scrape and scrape the rind from the inside until it was only about 3/8" thick. Only then did I start punching and cutting. And it really does work. It is much easier to cut and look a whole lot better. The only problem is that in warm weather, it tends to shrivel much faster and look like Granny without her teeth in much sooner than an unscrapped pumpkin.

What I have not yet tried is to use my Sears Rotozip tool to carve out a jack-o-lantern but I am dying to try it. We are not getting any actual pumpkins this year because it is still hot and pumpkins here cost about $40 a piece.

Apparently I'm the only one "home" tonight, but welcome back, 2regret and I'm sorry about your sitch, but I'm glad you feel OK about the decision you made and I hope you are at peace with it. (((((((2regret)))))))

Pio, forget how WW feels about you eating the shanaigans, they sound very yucky and I wouldn't eat them either! I would fight her on it too.

I hope everyone else is OK, even though you are far away right now and not here in TKO land! I'll see you all in my morning!

Hey Stef - I'm here!!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />

BigK and Luna,

Thank you so much for your concern and the hugs - they certainly are appreciated.

Luna, thank you for trying to help but my H has never been honest with me and it took the PI to unearth the truth. He has already moved his OW once to a new location. I know he would just do the same thing again.

I'm writing tonight to say goodbye to you all and to wish every one of you the very best. I have made my decision regarding my marriage and feel that I no longer have the right or need to be here on this board. Plus, I want TKO to return to being the happy site it once was. I am sorry that my post hurt anyone, that was my last intention but I'm glad you let me know.

I wish you all happiness and each of you will always be in my prayers.

Thanks for everything. Love Beth.

Noooooooooooooooo Beth. We did NOT give you permission to leave. WOW. Why would you think you upset us. We value you and your input here.

Please don't leave really. You need friends to help you through this.

Please stay. You sure didn't drag us down. We have Pio and Todd for that.

{{{Beth}}}

Beth,

You cannot leave. You will need MB/TKO more than ever now. This is not the end for you but perhaps the beginning.

What BigK said except the part about me. The part about Pio stands.

Okay?

Hi BigK,

You are a great man BigK and I wish I knew you, your heart obviously matches your name and your wife is a lucky woman.

I was sent an email from another poster which I very much appreciated. The poster pointed out how my post could be very hurtful to others on TKO. I am in a very good frame of mind BigK and have much faith in my future. I was being too selfish when I posted and only thought of myself and not the impact my words could have.

Please leave it alone now BigK as I don't want to be rude and ignore you if you post to me. I will actually be removing my name from the site as soon as I work out how to do it. lol

God bless you and yours BigK

Todd,

Sorry, I did not see your post I was too busy writing mine. I thank you also for your kindness to me. I am so happy that you had such positive news this last MRI.

I haven't managed to work out how to cancel my registration yet. It appears easier to join. Perhaps you are all correct and I will regret leaving. I will leave it a few days and see how it goes.

I know I am pretty emotional at the moment and maybe I should sleep on it. Thanks all, I am not normally a drama queen.

Love Beth.

Can't sleep....thought I would join the 'night shift' for a while.



Exaaaaactly, BigK.



Done, Roger.



Sweet dreams, Nams....uhmmm...guess you should be asleep by now!



Beth...why????? Who did your post hurt???? Hate to be a party-pooper...but I think your journey may have just started.... and you haven't quite yet gotten off the rollercoaster...although it will get better.....and it might be helpful to you to keep sharing with us...



Yup....I am with BigK....can't leave without our permission.... so there!

Hi Beth,


I am sorry to say...but I don't quite understand this..

...but if you don't feel it is helpful to you being here...that I do understand....

...please take care of yourself and remember that you are welcome to visit anytime...I for one would certainly like to hear how you are doing from time to time....

(((((((((BETH)))))))))

Larousse???? Are you out there?? How are you doing?

Todd...sorry to hear about your teeth.... uhmmmmm.....now if we add that to the list: knuckles, elbows, knees....

Actually if Todd is losing teeth it means he won't be losing any other body parts now. So it's a 2 edged sword.

Excellent point, BigK...

...although being the smart man he is, Todd will find a way!

Luna,

Thanks for pointing out my last post was confusing. I did an edit which I hope will clear it up. The person that emailed me wanted to remain anonymous and I was being careful to honor that.

I'm glad you all posted to me, I thought I had found a time that everyone was sleeping and I could just sneak away.

I can't work out how to resign so have decided not to be so emotional and act on the spur of the moment. It's nice to know that I can come slinking back with my tail between my legs.

Thanks. Beth

What "upsetting" post is 2regret talking about? I leave for a few hours and I miss EVERYTHING!!!

How can you email someone and remain anonymous? Doesn't that kind of tip your hand? Well, actually I do have (stole) an email account that gemela and OM used. They don't seem to need it anymore so I figured - what the heck?

2regret,

This site isn't only about marriage building - it is just very inappropriately named. Don't leave. You may need friends through the pain/learning/pain/growing/pain process. Did I mention pain?

TKO would be a happy fun place if people would STOP POSTING COUNTRY AND WESTERN LYRICS!!!!!!!!!! My neighbor's wife had an affair. She left him. Then he lost his kids. He lost his job. I told him if his dog died, he would have a Country and Western hit. Guess what? His dog died a few days later.

You know Pio what happens if you play a country and western record backwards?

You get your dog back, your job back, your wife back, your kids back......

I guess this is the 'missing' link....I certainly can't think of anything you said that would be upsetting to anybody!



Beth....Why wouldn't you be? ...Yeap...sounds like a good plan...I'll go get some sleep, too, if I want to be 'functional' tomorrow....



I agree with Pio...keep this in mind...


Why the need to resign? ...if you want to take time away from us...fine...and then come back whenever you want.... like...when you need.....a cyberhug

((((((((((BETH)))))))))))

Hi Pio...see you're quite busy with Halloween....Bye Pio!

I am confused. No comments from the peanut gallery, Pio.

Beth, did someone email you and ask you to leave TKO/MB?

If so, ignore them. Seriously, once you separate, you will need support more than ever. Unless you are just sick of us...