Beth, when you return please reach out to those of us on the pregnancy/child board. We have been where you are now. I am very sorry. Very sorry.

MEL!
Please please tell my why its your belief that Steph should go to plan B.
I am usually in sync with your advice. In fact I usually don't bother posting a lot of times, because you just said what I would have said.

However, in this case -- based on what I've seen on her threads here, I'm the opposite of what everyone else is saying. Now I'm not privy to whatever has been said or posted on some other board -- so please tell me why are advocating Plan B after 8 weeks of a so-so Plan A, with her husband home and saying he wants to end the A????
I'm not getting it.
And BigK is not very eloquent in explaining his views.

Lexxy, first off, this is his SECOND AFFAIR. She has been in some semblance of Plan A for much longer than 8 weeks, closer to 4 months. Her H had left her for the OW, moving out, and recently came back home to reconcile. WITH NO CONDITIONS.

He refuses to end contact with his OW, snickering at Steph's requests to end contact. He is in contact with the OW every day at work and still takes her calls. He is in full cake eating mode and she has NO boundaries. He is under no pressure, whatsoever, to end his affair. To maintain the current conditions of Plan A, is, IMO, detrimental to her position. This is why I think she needs to go into Plan B NOW.

Or she could stay in Plan A until she doesn't give a SH*T anymore, like I did.

2regret,

I'm really sorry to hear that news. How are you holding up? Do you think WH wanted a child or is OW using this to tighten her hold?

Todd,

My memory is a little fuzzy but when I left my last job and took this one, I was uninsured for something like two months. So I remember asking about the COBRA insurance and effectively got it without paying for it. What I am fuzzy about is the timing but I remember that, in my case, the COBRA insurance was fairly expensive. What I was advised to do is write a letter to HR telling them I wanted the insurance which required them to write me a letter regarding the case of pre-existing conditions and that I qualified. I think they had to write that letter within the 30 day window. OTOH I didn't have to pay the premium for 90 days. Long story short, I was "covered" but would only pay the premium after I had any expenses that would cause me to need insurance. In your case, you probably want the insurance longer than that but I only mention it because it was something I didn't know about the insurance and the HR lady was very sympathetic to my cause. She resigned shortly after I did BTW. She hated the company worse than I did.

I found my sling psychrometer the other day. Can we talk about wet bulb temperature and relative humidity?

WW got us an invitation to go to the Commodore's Ball hosted by the yacht club. We bought the tickets last night. She told me it would be at the Gulf Hotel in Bahrain. She told me this several times. I got reservations at the Gulf Hotel so we don't have to come back so late that night. She also mentioned that if we buy a boat we can save 200 SR on the ticket price. So far I haven't bothered to calculate the ROI on that investment. Anyway, I'm looking at the ticket and it clearly says "Radisson" hotel. I don't even know why I decided to look at the ticket. I'm glad I did.

Hi Todd,

Here's my COBRA experience. I was entitled to coverage for 3 years. Quite expensive. I ended up with other insurance for a lesser cost but also lesser insurance. My mistake was not acting on it sooner. It was three months after the D that I decided to check into it, I [censored] u med I could just pick it up by a certain date. That date was the date I had to say yes or no. I could still get coverage but I had to back pay the three months. Pissed me off so I went elsewhere. Stupid on my part.

Kiwi, come back! Can I email you?

nams is right. I would have had to back pay but I didn't actually have to send a check for 90 days. Turns out I never needed it so never paid but I had my ducks all nicely lined up just in case.

I can't wait to get to the office so I can see what ML said before the edit.

Todd,

I have a real problem with you as a libertarian taking a new government job. I would prefer you run for president. Since that job already exists, you can be president without actually expanding government. Give it some thought. Do you have a platform (other than shoes, of course)?

Beth, I'm so sorry to hear about what your H has done. The fact that he didn't have the decency to tell you himself is, well, unforgivable, but that's not my call to make.

Take care of yourself & your boys.

Can one be President and not be a hypocrite? But, by popular demand, here is my platform:

1. Reduce federal government spending to only include national defense of which intelligence would be a component. There would be no social programs, education "help" by the fed government, etc.
2. Cut taxes such that tax receipts would equal defense spending.
3. Cut waste in defense sector of government.
4. Eliminate corporate income taxes. Guess who really pays them?
5. Greatly simplify the fed income tax. You pay 3% of your gross income. No deductions, offsets, credits, debits, etc.
5. Bomb the following countries into oblivion: Irax, Syrix, NK and Cuba. Cuba is not a military threat; I simply want American developers to go in and build world-class resorts. In fact, I would oversee the first carpet bombing done with nuclear bombs.
6. Eliminate government schools, road programs, safety programs, etc.
7. Eliminate the federal reserve;
8. Eliminate the SEC
9. And so on and so forth...
10. Repeal all laws which do something other than protect our life, property and liberty. For example, gambling would not be illegal. Nor would prostitution, drugs, etc.

After so much bombing you won't get to see Hotels or anything else in Cuba.

Why all places have to look the same to American turist?

no, the bombing would merely be the grading for new hotels.

Why places all have to look the same? Does not compute.

Now this really annoys me. For the record I consider both Todd and Pio as success stories. Very much so.

I have NO axe to grind against Lexxxy. She started it. Honestly because I disagree with her suddenly I'm not supportive. Gimme a break!!

Same hotels, same shopping malls, same restaurants all over the world.

I don't have anything against BigK, except he doesn't like koalas.

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Todd - and in just what conference would Alabama, LSU, UT, Georgia, Auburn, Vanderbilt, Florida, and the rest play after you eliminate the South Eastern Conference.

Not an absolute requirement but it will definitely hurt you in the large electoral states. I recommend you spin it or play it down as best you can. Even so, you can probably write off California.

Exactly how close would you be? Get close enough and the radiation might just wipe what little remains of your tumor right out. Cut medical costs too, IOW.

Okay now I know Lexxxy is a "she". I was curious. Thanks for clearing that mystery up.

I read what ML edited out. Gotta love email notification.

bigK, I was not criticizing (criticising?) your post. Only the DJ. But now that you opened the door, what can I criticize you about? Koalas. That's it. Koala hater!

Todd,

I recommend daisy cutters. That way you save excavation costs and are already on the way for underground parking garages.

If you set off a nuclear explosion in the desert, would the land turn to glass?

Why would I eliminate the strongest conference in college football?