What bigK is saying is don't listen to me. In that he and I are FINALLY in agreement on something. Don't listen to me. I cannot call my sitch a success story. All I have tried to relate to you from my sitch is that Plan B is nothing to be afraid of. I was afraid of it but I was wrong.

Considering what Lexxy said to the BigK, he was completely justified in what he said. Besides, his last sentence was merely colorful.

I have quit giving specific advice because I am not that well schooled in MB principles. Plus, just as you said to booka, Pio, why would anyone want to listen to me? I am hardly a living success story with regards to recovering a marriage.

If BigK were not a man I would say he has PMS episode.



Sunshine enemas! Thats a great business idea for winter season. Maybe Superman could desing the ehem, tan bed.

I never told anyone not to listen to you. I am the only one who doesn't listen to you. You seem to give really good advice to everyone else.

larousse,

I am beginning to worry about what now appears to be your obsession with Superman.

Buah.

There are not many options.

Batman is gay. Flashgordon makes love in one nanosecond. Spiderman wears his underweare in the righ order but is too controling.

Need I remind you that Superman is faster than a speeding bullet. Hardly an improvement.

If you wanted to have children, Spiderman would very likely have to go with boxers for a few months.

WW called last night. Do I need to say that she was drunk? She started by saying she was going to Florida tomorrow (today) to be with FIL for his birthday. She asked if I wanted to go. Errr…no. She then took the opportunity to blast me for exposure. I decided to copy her defense. I told her I never exposed. She said yes you did. You told friends, sons and my Dad. No, they are liars, I did not. This went on for five minutes, I kid you not.

Then she told me how stupid I was to listen to all the other stupid people on all the internet “sites”. Brace yourself: she said that the people on this site are no better than child predators. She said that the only goal all of you have is to take my money and run my life. Yes, that is how far gone she is. Going back to exposure, she said that if I had a problem with her A, I should have sought IC, Pastor, friends, etc. for help. This is ironic because this is the same feedback that I gave her about options to her A is she felt “trapped” or unhappy in the M. She said no, an A is different; you don’t think about those things. She again stated that she didn’t have an A, that OM was impotent. She said that they did “other things” and that I had no right to know what those things were. I assured her that I simply do not care anymore.

Again, going back to my exposing her A, she said if I was so unhappy about her A, I should have D her. I reminded her that is what I told her if she was so unhappy with the M, she should D me. She said she didn’t believe in D, but apparently believes in cheating. Did I mention that she was drunk? She added that she knew I was sick but had no idea that I had a tumor. It was almost as if she was expressing guilt for having the A. She said her friends told her to D me but she couldn’t so she had the A.

It went on and on. Finally, I genuinely and completely lost it. I said some things to her I have never said before. I told her to never call again. I no longer loved her and had no interest in R. I hung up. I am seriously considering filing for D as soon as my lawyer can file the papers. I didn’t want to D until after the holidays but now that I think about it, if I file, say in December, the D will not be final until 31 days have passed. It also depends on my options for health insurance through her employer.

You are a genius. Pure genius. That never would have occurred to me.

Good gawd Todd, your WW has a capacity for repetition I've never seen before. Wait...a small child will repeat, repeat, repeat until you want to run screaming the other way. Generally the small child will have some qualities that will make you want to stick around though.

We want to take your money run your life? How could we possibly do that? Can anybody see my hand reaching through the screen to take Todd's wallet? Or do we use mind control to get you to send us money over the internet. I'm going to open a paypal account so Todd can pay me by credit card this way I don't have to worry about bad checks.

Your bit about denying exposure must have had some fun attached in a way only BSs can have fun with an A.

Do what you need to to stay sane Todd.

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larousse, very funny! Is this an attempt to make SF less inviting to think about?

Just as you get the image in your, POOF!, it's gone. Barley time to have any fun.

If you want a laugh go over to divorced/dating & check out the thread about election humor.

Hi nams,

No question. I am so tired of her denying her A that the moment simply hit me last night: I will deny that I ever exposed. She even started to argue the point. But my Dad said you called him and told him about my A. No, I never called your Dad. Your Dad is what, 84? His memory must really be bad. This was an parody of sorts of her telling the exposees that I am confused because of my tumor. True enough, but not about her A. This was her puny way of validating the A.



Too late for that....

I am personally not amused. There is nothing funny about erection humor.

Todd, part of the D settlement should be that you get COBRA for 18 months. Perhaps your atty can get it set up so your WW pays for the COBRA. Look into the laws in your state. In Calif, there is a law on the books that 30 days before COBRA is up you can purchase health insurance without consideration of pre-existing conditions. You have to get the timing right but it helps in situations like yours.

OT and changing the subject. We play France at rugby again in about 3 hours.

Todd, sorry about the latest developments.

BigK, honestly, I wouldn't even bother with her anymore; it is hopeless. She does not want to be helped, she wants her WS at any and all cost. This has been explained to her endlessly and she simply refuses to listen. Her case is "different." <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

Edited out for RAGE FACTOR.

BigK, I know it kills you to watch her behave so stupidly, but please go help someone who really wants help. There are so many desperate ppl on this forum who really do want and need help.

Ok, you may have edited out the rage factor but not before I saw it and was very hurt by it.

I obviously have nothing to offer this board any more. I thought all our opinions were valid but obviously not.

TKOers I hope you all find happiness and peace in your lives.

I was hoping you would see it and will take it into consideration the next time you feel compelled to "help" newbies forgo tried and true MB principles against their own best interests just because they are scared. That is just my "opinion."

Hi Everyone,

Sorry I have not been around. I am also sorry that I don't have time to read all the many pages I seem to have missed.
I do hope that everyone is well and that you are finding peace, happiness and love in your lives.

I am heading off on to a "Retreat" for a few days. I will be back Wednesday in time to prepare Thanksgiving. My boys are all staying with wonderful friends, so I am able to go.

I had some shocking news on Thursday and am not handling it very well, thus the retreat. My PI reported that my H is the father of a beautiful little girl with the OW. Yes, he even had a photo of the happy family. My H has confirmed he is the father. I think it is the fact that I lost my child and cannot have any more that is agony to me. Seems like a double betrayal somehow. Both my body and my H.

So, I am running away for a few days to work out how to handle this. Do we tell our sons? Looks like D is now a set date in my life. Cannot think, cannot stop crying. Sorry.

Love to all Beth

Todd - at the time of my divorce, US DOL regulations said you COULD receive COBRA benefits for UP TO 36 months. They MAY be granted for up to 36 months.

I knew just a smattering about it....talked to them because x's employer was calculating them incorrectly. Called emp back w/ DOL regs and they changed their company policy (and it is a major employer in this city). So, you may be entitled to more than your ww will want you to have.