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Do you smell what I'm stepping in?

OK Folksies. I was away for a few days. Today (11/27) is my 24th Wedding Anniversary and MrsK and I had a dirty weekend away. Thanks everyone for your concern.

I am really looking forward to meeting Stef in February. Who else is coming?

Will you be posting any videos? I'm not sure what your definition of a "dirty" weekend is but I can come up with some...

I went and looked at j2006's thread. It's locked so isn't very long. There are three "new" posters on that thread but could all very well be the same person. It looks like advertising for an investigative service that now possibly may sell handbags on the side. Diversification. The j2006 thread is interesting because "she" says on 4/8/06 that if she ever finds more evidence of an A, her M is over. On 4/9/06, she posts that she was divorced 10 days earlier.

Glad you're back bigK. I thought maybe stph20 had run you off...

You mean the BigK has been gone?

Happy Anniversary BigK!

Where is the big hootenany in February?

Yeah, I think it's in a box...I really don't remember. But I know I had it at some point! WH is going to have to hunt it up soon, I'm going crazy! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" />


Hey naughty! You were missed! You are not allowed to leave without notification to us! It's a new TKO rule. We worry.

It's still 11/26 for me, so happy early anniversary from me, even though it's already you're anniversary to you...that's confusing.

I'm really looking forward to meeting you too, BigK. But...er, can you leave the 2x4's at home when you come?

Todd's taking me and luna out to the fancy restaurant in Atlanta (Todd and I can't go alone) that he was supposed to go to for Thanksgiving when I drive through on my way to Florida to meet you.

nams, you're right, Kiwi posted me the same post jennifer2006 did, although I don't know who jennifer2006 intended it for, me or Pio? I thought it was familiar, but it was a long time ago and I didn't remember. I'm still confused about why she's doing that. Is it just to advertize her whatevers in her sig line? Is she allowed to do this?

STBXW (her new title, richly deserved) called earlier tonight.

Sober.

Yes, sober.

But, still full of denial and venom.

She started by saying she wanted to R. I told her that her lack of honesty is one roadblock to R. She said that she had been honest and that I did not need to know "details". I figure the word "details" came from one of her best friends. For the record, I have never asked for details. I told her that my primary concern is that as long as she remains dishonest, there is nothing to prevent her from having another affair in the future. I asked her how can I feel assured that she will not have another A.

Her answer: the way you prevent me from having another A is to make sure we have a happy marriage. So, dear STBXW, you are saying that if we R and you get unhappy again that you could have another A. Her stunning answer: yes, if the right man was there to give me attention.

Speaking of honesty...

The remainder of the short conversation, she spent telling me how her A was my fault. She also said that her BF, during the time I was ill but undiagnosed, told her I was fine, just needed to get my butt out of bed and face the world. I asked her what her BF thought now. She said that she seems people in ICU every day who are there because of lifestyle choices.

That was it. Short and unsweet. Honestly, I think I prefer her drunk.

And speaking of R, I have zero interest.

According to your timetable Stef, I should not need any 2 X 4's in February should I????

Todd - Orlando I think.

Well, I should hope not, but just in case...I would prefer to go home unbruised and unbeaten. Leave them home, it's too much baggage to travel all that way with. I don't think you could get through airport security with them anyway, so there! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Todd,

Sorry but it seems to me that STBXPRW has been calling for weeks with the very same offer. This is odd that she won't budge on her T's & C's. Something is not right about this. I don't really see this kind of behavior in other threads with other sitches. Why do you think that is?

Stef - MrsK will be with me to keep me in line - have no fear.

Todd - I cannot believe your WW. She is incredible.

Hey TKO,

looks most of you had a restful weekend.

Good to see you Stph, BigK.

Luna your new ordenances are too cute.

Todd,

is it really that impossible to discuss with your WW?

Pio,

The honest answer is that I don't know.

Guessing, I know that she parrots her two BF's quite a bit. They prop her up and she repeats what they have told her. Have I ever mentioned that she is stubborn? Also, we have discussed how Latinas are brought up so conservatively and I think it is impossible for her to accept the fact that she had the A, or at least honestly face the reasons why. That would explain why she blames it on me.

What do you think?

Todd,

I'm not going to give you the quick answer. But there is more here than meets the eye. I have to be away from a computer all day but I will come back to this because I think it is very much worth discussing. I also need to relate to you a comment that SIL made to me a while back that I always thought was a bit odd. I may have to do that by email. It might be relevant.

You really cannot "discuss" anything with my STBXW. She takes after her Dad. Everything is a lecture. When I talk, she interrupts. Today, I blew a gasket and when she kept interruptinhg, I started screaming. Not proud of it, but I am at the end of my rope.

Todd,

I'm sorry about you WW lack of comunication abilities.

It does seem she's coming around.

She's coming around? Huh? Larousse?

Coming around? I don't think so.

My impression is that Todd's WW wanted to control how and when they would recover. I think by now she got the message that R won't be on her terms and she may get more open to Toddac needs and requirements.

Todd,

I'm so sorry your WW still cannot admit the truth of the A. Would you try to R if she admitted everything? I am facing a similiar quandry at the moment. Even if my H does "come clean" I think it is too little, too late, now.
Yes, they can drive you to the screaming point.

BigK, I hope you had a wonderful "dirty weekend". I presume that means spa and mud baths? It's good to see you back.

Larousse, I guess I had to miss it at the start of this thread but what country do you live in?

Glad the Kiwi mystery was cleared up.

Goodnight everyone. Beth.