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bigkahuna #1697698 06/20/07 03:00 PM
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Ok, my last word on the cable ties. Pio, you only have one life and you deserve what you want. If your current cable ties don't do it for you just ditch them. You've already listed a host of reasons why your old ties don't excite you any more so move on. After all,this life is all about you and your desires, so experiment, try other ties, keep your original ones around just in case you're feeling nostalgic.

Bottom line: This is all about you and your happiness so indulge your desires, you deserve it.

The seat in the sun?...well deserved payback?


Formerly nam here since 07/31/03 coastal, CT
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Bottom line: This is all about you and your happiness so indulge your desires, you deserve it.


Well glory be! Finally someone understands!

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I have wondered if the discussion about cable ties is a metaphor for other aspects of life.

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I…I…I’m sooo sorry! I know I’ll never be able to face any of you ever again. I’ve done a very bad thing. I still can’t believe it. I’m not even sure exactly how it happened. I’ve betrayed my principles. I’ve gone against everything I believed in! I’m not a good person.


Don't ever think it can't happen to you - because it can.

It all started out innocently enough. My goal this morning was to take the car out for new tires.

The day was going great at first. And then…it happened. I swear I never planned it. I wish I could explain "why" but I know there is no why. I am to blame.

I got to the tire shop to buy new tires and….I….I…NO! It’s just too horrible to speak! I’m sorry….

piojitos #1697702 06/21/07 03:50 PM
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LMAOPMP!!!!

KiwiJ #1697703 06/21/07 06:44 PM
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It's true!

I bought m..m..m..michelins.....

I don't deserve to live!!!!!!!!!!

piojitos #1697704 06/21/07 08:40 PM
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**** you are ignoring this user ****

Pepperband #1697705 06/21/07 08:45 PM
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ROTFLMAO


Me: 56 (FBS) Wife: 55 (FWW)
D-Day August 2005
Married 11/1982 3 Sons 27,25,23
Empty Nesters.
Fully Recovered.
bigkahuna #1697706 06/23/07 12:09 AM
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Well WW and DDs left last night. I was wondering how I would hold up these last few weeks. I keep reminding myself that I cannot control WW's actions and I wanted to avoid all LB's. I think it went even better than I could have hoped. I think even I would want to be married to me.

PB's xGF contacted me again last week. She is here and wants to talk. I'm not sure what about but every time she has contacted me in the past, it has depressed me. Maybe I'll just avoid her.

I know that WW could easily contact PB. If she does, I'll know it by the way she acts. I'm just going to see how I hold up the next 5 weeks. If I get down, just give me a good thumping. Right now I feel great. I have a bright red CBR1000 calling me right now.

I didn't go to the airport with WW yesterday. I said my goodbyes here. DD1 has been depressed and crying and begging to stay with me rather than go with WW. So WW and I talked about it and agreed it would be better to avoid the potential of a nasty scene at the airport. Last time that happened, it didn't work out so well.

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It didn't work out so well.


Ya think!!!!!!!!!

Sorry, is it funny yet?

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This is what xGF told me last week. She says that PB did go to Mexico for a year to teach English expecting gemela to leave us and run off to him. Also according to xGF, PB recently left Mexico and sent a message to one of their mutual friends here saying "slap the Mexican for me" as he was upset she didn't comply with his plans.

What bothers me about it is that, unless the guy is just a complete lunatic, for him to have done that makes me infer that there was some level of contact between the two. Maybe not too often but maybe once in a while a common friend would pass gemela a message. I don't know. If that did happen, gemela has certainly lied about it.

OTOH gemela's actions and attitude don't indicate anything like that. It is surreal. I'm still not sure that xGF isn't just trying to cause trouble. I know she has issues with gemela but why would she want to hurt the DDs and me?

piojitos #1697709 06/23/07 12:35 AM
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Pio, I honestly don't know.

Personally, I don't think the xGF has your best interests at heart. I think she'll lash out at anybody out of bitterness. I really don't think you should be in contact with her.

FWIW I think you can trust Gemela now.

KiwiJ #1697710 06/23/07 12:38 AM
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"Slap the Mexican for me"

What a catch.

KiwiJ #1697711 06/23/07 12:45 AM
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Being pragmatic, what piece of information can she possibly have for me that will help my situation? If she wants to bring up historical information, what good is that now? If she wants to prove to me that gemela and PB are working a major conspiracy, what can I do about it right now? If she wants to convince me that PB is stalking gemela, again - what can I do?

I don't see any upside. I have to admit that I sometimes imagine an international DD hunt with gemela and PB stealing the DDs. But my DDs wouldn't allow that. Get DD1 anywhere near an airport and someone will call the SWAT team. And it gemela did that, she would never be able to see her beloved family again - ever.

I think it is more likely that PB is just a lunatic. If he did go to Mexico, he did it in his own fog and on a lark. He as no roots and no career and no future. He could easily live in a palapa on the beach for a year and have a hundred girlfriends to keep him warm while he waited for gemela.

But at the end of the day, gemela's choices are hers. I'm not her keeper.

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I think PB is so long gone it isn't funny. Seriously, he'll have moved on to many more married women by now.

I can NEVER forget those photos of him. I have never seen in my life before such a pitiful specimen of a man.

He was a pathetic, dumb, northern English plonker.

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I do believe that if someone had tried to pass a note to gemela, she would have thrown it in the trash. I also think it is likely he has tried to contact her. She swears he hasn't. Doesn't really matter.

Yesterday was funny. She was the one who didn't want to go. I was okay with it. We'll see how I'm holding up in a couple of weeks but right now I feel pretty well balanced.

I can't really explain it but I'm not the slightest bit worried about anything.

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Gemela has always said she wanted to learn to ride a sport bike. (Okay she said she wanted to learn to ride the Harley I bought her but never did even try) So day before yesterday I told her to go for a ride with me. We went out into the jebels were there isn't much traffic and I stopped and got off and told her to ride. She was hesitant at first but I reminded her she always said she wanted to ride so do it or shut up about it. She got on and asked about the gears. I just asked her to please try not to drop it.

So she puts it in gear and goes on off. She stayed in 1st gear for about 1Km. Joggers passed her. She turned around and came back and says she got up to 3rd gear. When she got back to where I was standing, she held the clutch and stopped with the front brake which, on a honda, would stop a train on a dime. So she starts to go over the handlebars. She stops herself but is holding the clutch, bike is in 1st gear because she missed neutral, her hand is holding the front brake so tightly that she also has the throttle red lined. I hate to think what would have happened if she had let go of the clutch. So I hit the kill switch. I calmed her down and took her home. She was shaking like a leaf all day long.

I told her she did great. She had survived and it would just get easier each time.

Now, if you're a guy, you will understand how difficult that was for me. I'm not sure I could have done it with the Harley though...

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Sorry, is it funny yet?


Seeing DD1 bawling and yanking suitcases off the scale?

No.

Not yet.

piojitos #1697716 06/23/07 10:06 AM
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Does anyone know where I can get illegal LAUP in Houston? I am willing to go with a coat hanger. I'm on a budget.

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I'm sorry - that was insensitive of me.

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