Well, July 21st will be the final day of my marriage....
FWW phoned yeaterday and wanted to know my work schedule as for the first time in weeks she needs to come to "or" home and get some things.
She don't want me to be here as it would be hard for her to see me....I guess seeing me in court....won't be as hard?
Heck...right or wrong....July 21st it's over.

{{{Welderboy}}}

I'm sorry you are going through this. My D will be final this week.

Sometimes I still can't believe it really, that it's come to this. But I'm doing OK, and I know I have a great life in front of me.

You have too. Thinking of you!

Alph.

Welderboy, the WS just don't like to come back to ground zero and see the destruction they have caused. They do know that what they did was/ is wrong and yet they still continue. She just cannot face you.
Just as I know my STBX cannot face me. Besides he has too much pride as well.

It's not what she will be doing/ does or does not do that matters now... it's whether you know you will be "OK" with a D when July 21st comes.

~A

No...I realize I'll be OK....just never the same.
Truly, it's not the worst thing that could never happen to me...and I feel that I'm really a better man...just a real hard "life lesson" I suppose.

Again, thanks all.

Well, for one thing I think it'll be boring if life is always ever the same <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> So continue to be positive about the "never the same" part. Perhaps the "never the same" is just better. As you have already wisely pointed out yourself.

~A

Thanks....I found ot tonight at work from a lady that happened to sit at the same table as her....my FWW that is attended a birthday party last weekend with OM....so much for the last 2 years of no contact.

I need this over ASAP.

Wow....folks, the real true her has reared it's head. Now that things are starting to end....allot of things I've never even guessed are starting to come to light.

I heard rumor of a close work relation? with a security guard at her prior job.

Talk of a appartment she had that came from the mouth of OM....

Heck, no wonder things couldn't be fixed....she never started with a clean slate...cause of not ever telling me the truth.

I'm going to make it!!!!

liars lie

Yep...she even said...."if keeping the truth from you....as not to hurt your feelings...makes me a bad person....so be it." Wow....I guess any way to make it seem OK to them...WS's is the only thing they need.
For the last 2 1/2 years everyone including WW said I deserved better....I always felt....they was wrong to make that comment without loving her the way I did , was trying to give me good advice.

Thank God to the many on here that make it....but only those who both want and are the same will.....sad but true.

"...."if keeping the truth from you....as not to hurt your feelings...makes me a bad person....so be it." Wow....I guess any way to make it seem OK to them..."

You are absolutely correct in that statement.

Translation
If keeping the truth from you.... means I can avoid the consequences of hurting your feelings.... makes me a bad person so be it.

Big difference. Stupid justifications.

Keep your head up. Because you have tried to do the right thing. She has not.

Thank you...Hurtin'...I've truly tried with my all.

welder...this statement...

is one of the BEST OF THE WORST WS fogspeak I've heard in a while.

Let's nominate her for the "wall of shame" here at MB!

Her quote:"if keeping the truth from you....as not to hurt your feelings...makes me a bad person....so be it."

wow! she is saying it's ok to lie! I'd print this off and have your lawyer read that to the judge...MAYBE THAT WAY YOUR WW WILL HEAR HER OWN FOG AND THINK "NOW HOW STUPID IS THAT?"....???

you WILL MAKE IT <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Yep....I guess, it may never come to light for her.

Just got off the phone with my Mom....then went about my chores....hey BH's it's been on and off for over 2 1/2 years and I just finally folded my 1st fittinf sheet...,perfect that is!!

While I was doing my laundry....that Brooks & Dunn song. "I Believe" was playing....and I'm starting to see the faith that "I Beleive" things are going to start getting better.

Guys, that are in this same boat, as far as cooking ,cleaning your home and clothing etc....you might start even liking it....don't be scared.

Welder,

I like your upbeat attitude about this.

But don't get crazy on us here especially the ones that are still trying.

If the women hear that we might start liking, cooking, cleaning etc we might have to start while we are married. LOL.

BTW what is a fitted sheet and how do you fold them. Before I was married I took mine to the laundry and had them do it for me. My clothes organization was clean stuff on the side of the bed I didn't sleep on, dirty stuff was on the floor. I know they have those fancy things called dressers and closets but who need that fancy stuff.

Only bad part of that system was some mornings I woke up and I was using 3 pairs of boxers, a polo shirt and some sweat pants as a blanket.

Just kidding. I do most of the cooking, FWW doesn't let me clean because when I do I go over board. LOL. But when she wants the couch pulled out and the cushions pulled off etc she asks me to vacuum.

Any pointers on how to fold a fitted sheet? I've never been able to get them to look like anything other than a shapeless lump of fabric. I do fine with all the other stuff.

Hey Hurtin, the fitted sheet is the one that goes on the mattress....with the darn elastic it's not square so you have to tuck em' together just right.....
I really like the quote you have about an honest person....doesn't need a good memory. Where that come from?

Hey, I had a close call on the Harley yesterday evening....I hit something in the road, at about 70 resulting in a rear tire blow-out.

I used up all the incoming lane....thru the turn, and got it stopped.

Weird thing was the guy driving the roll off wrecker that hauled me and the bike home was talking....and he also been through the WW thing....he's happily married now, and told me to remember..."we are all individuals, and perhaps another lady will be your most trusted friend someday.

I thanked the Lord for my safety and years of experience to keeping me off the ground or on the front of another vehicle.

Looks like my "ridin" weekend is over....til I get a new rear tire!!!