Hello. I've been with my fiance for 10 years now. We got engaged 3 years ago, reason for long engagement is lack of $$ reasons. I'm 28, she's about to turn 30. 3 years ago or so, before we were engaged, she told me that she felt as though we were just good friends, rather than in a relationship. we gave it time, and we survived. We then got engaged, got a home together. This past weekend she told me she feels the same way again, only stronger. She told me that it's not anything i've done, or not done. She's told me she doesnt want to give it more time and end-up being 35 feeling the same way. I've asked if we could try counceling, but she doesnt seem to think they'll help. What is ripping me apart is the fact she says i'm a good person, i'm not at fault, i've done nothing wrong, i dont know how to accept that she just doesnt want to be with me. She is the single best part of my life, without her i dont know how i will manage. I've told her i can change, i can do anything that is needed to help, but she goes back to saying i'm not doing anything wrong now.

My question is, is it normal to feel as though your just friends after a long relation ship. I wonder if where she's turning 30 soon, if that could be part of it. I do feel like this is over, and am completely grasping at straws to try and make this work. Thanks for reading.

I think that was very decent of her to tell you how she feels BEFORE you ended up getting married, lokie. It sounds like it is normal for her to feel like just friends in this relationship and that is what matters. At least she is being honest about it. I am sorry this happened to you. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />