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NICE to "see" you here !
I'ver been wondering about you ....
How's life?
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Pep,
Were did you see HINC? I have been wondering what has happened to him.
JL
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Hey yeah, Pep!
Where is Hink?
JL: How YOU doin'?
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Hey 2L, Good to hear from you. Been very busy fighting with codes and heavenly bodies. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> I haven't had as much time to hang out around here. Hopefully, as the summer goes along I will have more time. Hope things are going well for you. JL
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Hi JL! Good to see ya. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> -HD
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Pep, JL, 2long and others,
I am fine. I am still hopefull just for different things than I was 2 years ago. Yes it has been 2 years since D-Day. My WW has moved to another city 300 miles away, found herself a job and is living there. I gave it my best, I gave it 2 years but alas reconcilliation just didn't happen.
I don't think the A is on going but I think it is because of OM not my WW. But all that matters little these days.
As I have heard on these boards that the opposite of love is not hate but indiffence and that is where I am. I did file for divorce last month and things should be final in another couple of weeks. Sad but necessary.
I am surviving and starting to feel good about life again. What a long strange trip this has been.
I read here everyday just haven't had anything to say.
D-Day 5-22-04
BS(me) 52
WS 49
Divorced 7-26-06
3 adult children (28, 25 &18)
5 year A
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We care about you hunny
so shout out every now & then !
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Hopeful, Good to hear from you and that you are doing okay...often wondered how you were doing....we went through this nasty experience about the same time. You fought the good fight and gave it the best possible chance to turnaround....now it is time to move on...FOR YOU...it sounds as if you are ready to take those next steps.....hope you and your golf game are doing well! Here's to the future right around the corner. Stop in every now and then. ss <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
BS/me: 65
FWH: 75
Together: 36 years, no kids
D-day: 3/04
Plan A: 7 mos. Plan B #1 & #2
Recovery:11/04
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HINC,
You have more to contribute than you realize. You succeeded in ways you don't understand yet. You gave your W every chance to come back, you did your best to save the marriage and you have hung in there for 2 years. I'd say you have a lot to offer here.
I am sorry to hear about the divorce, but I hope it goes smoothly. I am sure your life is not as you expected, and yet it has the potential to be very very good.
Hang in there.
God Bless,
JL
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JL,
I had been quiet these last few months but when I saw the post about the high school reunion, I just had to post to the guy.
As far as my situation, she would have to intiate any reconcilliation. Of course she would somehow have to convince me of what she was going to do to protect me and agree to NC for the rest of her life with OM. The door is still open and I expect it to be left open for a while but not forever. I guess OM figures that my ww wasn't worth the money it would cost him, as you remember he is loaded, or she is not worth breaking up his own family. Any man that has an A with a married woman is not a "man" in my book.
But like the Brooks and Dunn song....It's getting better all the time.
D-Day 5-22-04
BS(me) 52
WS 49
Divorced 7-26-06
3 adult children (28, 25 &18)
5 year A
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