Hello,
This is my first post!
I am getting getting married in a few weeks and I discovered back in December 05 that my Fiance been talking to her ex-boyfriend(first sexual partner). At this point we've been engaged over 1 yr. Now it wouldn't of been a huge problem except, I found out coincidence. My wife left her instant chat on and a message came across the screen and said "Sorry about last night" Now that night she told me that she was going to her girls house, and when I saw the message I told her someone was I.M.ing her and when I went to respond(jokefully) she pushed my hands away. Right then I knew something was up. One day she goes to work(we don't live together) and leaves her cell behind. I went through the text's and found a message that said "I told him everything except that we seen each other" Boy was I furious. Once I told her, she downplayed the whole incident telling me that he's married with a kid and they are just talking. So I investigated and saw out phone bill and traced numbers, they talked everyday around the same time(noon) and the crazy part is right after of before she talks to me, she talks to him... When I mentioned that, she stopped calling and they started texting. She always erase her messages when she come and see me. But I was able to see a few on times she slipped up. It sound like they just do a lot of B.S. talk. Now I have done some things in my past, BUT NEVER GOT CAUGHT! Maybe this is Karma, or maybe she's up to something. After all this, she tells me if I don't want her talking to him, them she will stop, but I feel like it's not what I want, she should do what she feels. I never had any problems in our 5yrs of dating her until 6mos. till our wedding.
Maybe my experience's with women is making me think to deep on this situation. I should be the happiest man on earth with a beautiful bride to be.
Is this a sign to call off the wedding? Or just a case of bad Karma?
