Hi all!

First and foremost I want to say that you are all a wonderful group of people. The support and advice you offer is trully amazing.

This is my first post here and would like some advice.

My boyfriend and I have been dating for 2 years. We met shortly after a series of terribly absusive relationships and before long I realized that he is the one. I've never shared such respect for another person and i've never had the honor of being respected, admired and treated as I trully deserve. In a nut shell we both agree that we are a perfect fit.

There is a 5 year age difference between us as he is the older one. Within a year of our relationship the topic of marriage came up and I stupidly dismissed it by saying that i didn't beleive in it.

The truth is that i'm the product of a broken home. My parents divorced early on in my life and i've been scared by that.

I want nothing more than to share my life with this man, go through the ups and downs and life a great life.

I suppose that i'm embarassed to bring it up again annd explain that I was scared to admit that in the long run I would want to be his wife. I suppose that the fear of rejection is what held be back.

We are now 2 years into our relationship and he is convinced I do not want to marry. Part of him is actually comming to terms with the fact that we will most likely live together but that is it.

How can I approach the topic without sounding pushy. If we do discuss marriage i do not want to stress him out or make him feel that we must get married soon.

Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

If you really want to explore marriage be honest and open the discussion. Honesty is the best policy. You have to express what you want in any relationship. If you want marriage and he doesn't you should move on. Even if you have changed your mind about if you beleive in marriage or not. My moto is "Risk not gain not". Step out and take the risk.

God Bless
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I agree that honesty is the best policy, however if you think you need a way to "open the door" to this conversation you could grab a bridal magisine in grocery store or something and make some comment..."Oh they are so pretty" or read an artical somewhere about a great wedding and comment on how much fun that would be.

Things like this may cause him to say something like " I thought you did not want to get married" Then the door is open. Just say that you were young, and never thought you could love someone this much, ect ect.

Hope this helps!