Built a house 2years ago, suffered through depression because my Dad died in the middle of the project, got counseling for depression and finally came out of the greiving in a very positive ligth, find out my mom has cancer a year ago, asked wife to join me in counseling so we can focus on reconnecting with each other and building on our relationship, find out in March of this year she began an emotional affair with a total stranger she met at a conference in January of this year, asked her to go to counseling did everything rigth in surviving an affair and today she wants a divorce. What else!

Wife met OM in January at conference, within six weeks I saw emails from her asking other man for a passionate affair. She said she checked out of the relationship and was seeking feeling good about herself. She has never broken contact with OM but they never took it to the PA level. She siad she ended the EA but she still has feelings toward OM. She spent 4 days with him in a conference a couple of weeks ago and came back with the anouncment that she wants a divorce. From a voice mail that I heard from him to her it is obviuos that they had stopped taliking for about a month. However after she spent time in a conference were he was keynote speaker and she was conference organizer her feelings for him are rekindled. She called him and told him she misses the conversations they use to have and announce to me she wants a divorce on the same day. I cannot prevent her from filing. We still live together and I am still treating her with care, love and being a great husband. She even says I am everything she ever wanted me to be but she does not feel emotionally connected to me and does not feel like trying. She to be a single person.

I still have hope but I am out of options that I am aware of. She refuses to go to counseling with me (she has been in individual counseling 2 months). She says her hearth is hard and she will not let me in. She feels resentment and anger for me not meeting her needs after our second child was born and when I built the house. Says that I have changed and I am a better person today and for the past six months. Says I am only like this because she had a EA. What can I do at this point if she still has feelings to OM and she wants a divorce. She is a social worker with a masters degree in early childhood deveolpment. OM is a director of a political DC job for childhood development. I can't beleive that she wants to go down that road of tearing up our family of a 6 and 4 year old.

Exposure would wreck his little world.