raining??? whats that..... its been around 95-100 all week out here in cali....was at lake mojave last week catchin rays myself....(and a buzzzzzzz!!) <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />

right on with the "love connection"!!! i been with the same gf for about 1 1/2 yrs....still goin strong, so who knows right... just take it "one day at a time" <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" />

yup, one day at a time is all you can do... friends first and really take the time to really get to know someone.. and that is half the enjoyment to me.

i live wayyyyyyyyy up north in the new england states.. we rarely see the 90's and 100's even during a good summer! lol

time for work, take care. mlhb

mlhb and gekko, sitting in a tree, hehehehe <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />.

No blasting from me, you two are grown kids, right? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />.

AGG

AGG, you must get together with my kids. They love singing that song at me and watching me blush. They tease me unmercifully about M. and I have to just live with it, knowing I won't get even when they have boyfriends.

Another MB romance. I like it. Have fun.

well, don't be getting all ready to go to a wedding or anything yet! just slowly building a good deep solid friendship and connection first and seeing where it goes from there...

cute AGG real cute.... lol
i don't want to grow up...!

mlhb

Like we all didn't see THAT one coming from a mile away <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />



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yea, i know... can't get anything past you guys!
mlhb

can't get anything past you guys huh?? lol
mlhb

I was not impressed by E-Harmony myself. I did two three-month subscriptions and won't renew again. I kept an open mind but there was not a single person who interested me enough to meet. I did get to the "open comments" stage with ONE (and only ONE) person...but as soon as we got to that stage he wanted to talk on the phone, not email, and I wasn't ready for that.

Almost every single match was about ten years older than me (my range was about 31-45). I was willing to date someone that much older, but can't believe there wasn't anyone closer to my age. An attractive mate is pretty important to me--and I must say my range that I find attractive is VERY wide and there were only a couple of matches that I found attractive, even when I became less picky and lowered my 'standard' there weren't many more.

Shrug...wasn't a "bad" experience...but was not impressed!

I joined match.com and have had 2 responses in a week. what am I doing wrong other then the fact that I married a control freak and a total slob? Funny my kids come over to my new place and keep saying they want to live here because it isnt a pit of despair.

I tried E-harmony for a month. Had 10 to 12 possible "matches". I found, however, that there were outright "dealbreakers" among many of them. These dealbreaking issues had been clearly stated on my profile/interests, etc.

Also, I am a plus-sized woman. I know that weight is an issue for most men. I'm not saying that judgmentally but realistically. E-harmony doesn't post your photos initially. (That may have changed now. This was probably over a year ago.) I wrote to them and asked why. I explained that I accepted that weight is often an issue in finding a woman attractive, and I'd rather know it upfront. Save time, energy and hurt feelings for all involved.

They responded something to the effect that successful relationships aren't just based on appearance. That often if people get to know one another well first that's what really matters in creating a successful relationship. I disagree. I dropped my membership after a month.

What I didn't like about E-Harmony was the computer doing all the matching. I didn't get ANY I really liked. One person did contact me as a match & we're still friends after about 1 1/2 years, but she lives nearly 1000 miles away.

It just takes too much control away & I agree that a visual attraction at the early onset is just far too important to the vast majority of human beings to ignore like they do.

Also, the computer doesn't do well with deal breakers.

Not for me.

Hi folks... I'm _AD_ from over on GQII... just dropping in.

I tried eHarmony for awhile right after my divorce. I thought I was ready for all that. Anyway, my comments are

* Every single one of these sites will "match" you to people who are not yet subscribers and who cannot contact you without paying money. Some sites tell you that up front (one even lets you pay the bill for a non-subscribing member who interests you). E*harmony (at least last year) did not give you any clue that these 10 ladies who don't respond to your communications may have just dropped in on a lark, signed up, never paid and never came back. EHarmondy, unlike some sites, does not tell you when that person last logged into the site. So, you wait and wait for them to reply. They should be up-front and tell you "this profile is from a non-subscribing member" - who was last on-line 3 weeks ago.

* The so-called "scientific" matching isn't very scientific. They ask you a thousand (or so) multiple-choice questions. A typical question might be "On a scale of 1 to 5, how sensitive are you?". Well, there are many quite different meanings of "sensitive". For example, it might mean that you cry when somebody says a not nice thing to you. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> Or it might mean that you are attentive to other people's needs. How can they learn anything useful about who I am by asking ambiguous questions?

* There is no accomodation for goals. It's all about personality. Me, I want a family - more children - and I'm 48, so probably I was one of the guys that you ladies were rejecting as "too old", and meanwhile, I was rejecting ladies who didn't clearly want a family. But, the system won't do that for you.

* I believe there are twice as many women on e*harmony as there are men. All the same, I got very few matches and only 3 or 4 that progressed as far as email. Two ladies sent me phone numbers quickly (and unasked for).

* Because there were very few matches, I had to expand my geographic parameters. But, I don't relish the idea of a long distance relationship. I want to be able to meet for lunch or coffee or just to go for a walk. That seems much more natural than talking to somebody for months and then planning a major trip just to meet them.

* I think the situation may be better in larger cities where the density of subscribers is higher.

* I never could find a photo of myself that I like. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

I closed out my account.

I also tried match.com - which works differently, but I closed that one too.

I'm going to do it the old-fashioned way... if I ever get around to it.

-AD