Am I reading this right....7 kids and you intend to go to Plan B in a day or two...are you nuts Bryanp recommending this to a newbie on the Marriage Builders Website.
1of9, if you come back here post this same question over on Infidelity - General Questions II. It is the most active board and many more will see it and give you actual tried and tested, professionally approved Marriage Builders advice.
IF YOU VALUE YOUR MARRIAGE DO NOT GO TO PLAN B IMMEDIATELY as YOU JUST MAY LOSE YOUR FAMILY COMPLETELY. I agree, Plan B MAY work...but we need more facts than those presented to assist you in making such determination. Plan B works soooo much better if preceeded by an effective Plan A.
Please, for your kids sake at least give it a month. Do not make rash decisions based upon emotion. You took vows to this woman, the mother of your children, to stand by her in sickness and in health. Don't your vows matter to you. Don't react to her betrayal, be the husband and father YOU committed to being and fight for your marriage and family. You'll forever regret not doing otherwise.
Read Longhorn's thread pinned to the top of this board completely. Read all the stuff posted on the main forum written by Dr. Harley. Make an informed rational decision before you simply REACT to your wayward wife.
I really hope you come back and I see you over on GQII real soon.
Good luck,
Mr. Wondering
p.s.-Bryan...I know you're still upset about what your wife did to you some 20 years ago...but come on, see the sign on the door..."Marriage Builders", misery can't love company so bad as to misinform a newbie with 7 children ages 2.5 to 15 years old. 1of9 hasn't even the faintest clue how to pull off an effective Plan B in a day or two. He should at least read some Dobson, "Love Must Be Tough" or something AS WELL AS being advised to protect his legal interests by doing the right things to ensure he's not stuck with a lifetime of being a part-time father as well as ENORMOUS child-support payments to his wayward wife. DO NOT MOVE OUT and surrender custody of your kids, document everything, etc., etc., etc.