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I am in my first year of marriage however my husband and I have been together for 9 years. We have two children. He recently admitted that he has fallen in love with a woman he has been talking to on the internet and the phone. He went so far as to move out of our home. He says that I have hurt him too much in the last year. She has restored his self confidence and zeal for life. He says he doesn't love me anymore and doesn't want to love me anymore. He wants to be with her. She says she loves him too. He moved back home today because I was not dealing well with him being gone. I had to agree to allow him to continue talking with her or he would not have come. He says he is here for the children. I have made it clear that I love him and understand how this happened. I've also made it clear that I'm going to try and rebuild our marriage. He says he is not interested in that. I'm at a loss for how to proceed. He told me that sex would be physical for him because he doesn't have "that type of emotional attachment" to me anymore. Right now he is not willing to give her up. I can't ask him to or he will leave. He has agreed not to see her, just talk. Do I have any chance at working this out? We had "sex" tonight and he admitted that all feelings were not gone. He swears that he does not want a relationship with me anymore yet he is here. I know I'm a big part of the problem. I've admitted my mistakes. He has admitted his but truly seems ready to move on with this new woman.
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Welcome to MB,
I recommend moving your initial post (cut and paste) over to the Infidelity - GQII board. It's a lot busier over there and you should get the assistance you need.
I also recommend you fully read the Longhorn Thread pinned to the top of this board titled "For Newly Betrayed Spouses" as well as the information by Dr. Harley OUT of the main site.
I've got to run...
Good luck,
Mr. Wondering
FBH(me)-51 FWW-49 (MrsWondering)
DD19 DS 22 Dday-2005-Recovered
"agree to disagree" = Used when one wants to reject the objective reality of the situation and hopefully replace it with their own.
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Thanks, I've moved the post. I also read the information. My situation seems a little different. I bet you hear that all the time. I just need some support and information.
Thanks again!
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