I had posted stating that I was leaving the site so my wife could use it. That aint happinen. Heres my story. I went away for a few days for beach therapy. I come back to no change. I am watching my kids so she can go to work and because I want to. I have to watch them in our house because I dont have anywhere to take them. No big deal. I decided tonight to have a little discussion. I started with "what did I do that was so bad to make you hate me so much". She said she didnt hate me. I know this wasnt the best thing to say but I have tried all other avenues (except being mean) with no success. I asked her to do me a favor and explain how it was so easy for her to give up. No reply. I asked her how she could look at the kids, the house, all the memorys and not have any emotion. This is the first time we have had problems that came to seperation and talk of it being over. I said "how can this be so easy, how can there not be a thread of hope somewhere or something that makes you think it would be worth another try. No reponse. I told her that she needed help with depression and I knew it was a problem because shes not the same person. My wife never had a problem telling me what she thaught before. I tried to tell her that I wasnt trying to be mean, I just care. I cried my eyes out while talking. I said a lot of other stuff about giving us another chance. I cant get anything from her. I cant get a tear, I cant make her mad, nothting. I cant get any ttype of communication. When I finally shut my mouth she went and got ready for work. I dont understand how it can be so easy. I dont understand how a person can go 16 years as of july 31st and go thru what we have been thru and not have any emotion. She cheated on me and yes I had thaughts of leaving but we never discussed it and made up and went on. We have had 5 children together and only 2 are living. In a 3 year period we lost 3 children, my dad, grandmother, her grandmother and grandfather, and other more distant family, and we made it thru it. I know all of this compounded and hurt us. Can depression be this bad. I say she is dead inside and I meen it. Shurly somewhere along the line I should have seen some kind of response. All I get is a dead blank stare and once in a h=while a very short simple sentance. Help me understand please. Its killing me inside bad. Thanks