My wife started working at the same company as me about 6 months ago, same location but differant shift/building. She works first shift, I work 2nd so we don't need much baby sitting. Anyway, She met and became friends with one of the supervisors in her department (no direct report or anything) They took their lunch together/breaks that type of thing. She would give him a ride home occasionally, but she was always upfront about it. I even took him home once, so everything seemed like it was just a friendship, and my wife has always had more guy friends than girl friends, so nothing odd here.
There were rumors in her department that they were sleeping together, but I never (still don't) supected they were. Anyway, this guy got fired about a month ago and they talked on the phone occasionally and emailed eachother. His GF got jelous and upset accusing them of having an affair. My wife talked to me about their friendship from time to time, so I still did not worry about it.
About at week ago I logged into the computer and found her email up with several emails from him, and some from his girlfriend. I felt bad, but I read them. The emails to him seemed innocent, talking about problems this guy and his girlfriend were having, and how she thought he and my wife were sleeping together. Then I read the email from his girlfriend to my wife and they said that my wife sent inapproporate emails to this guy. My wife responded saying they were joke's and she was overreacting. She said that I was arround when she wrote them to him...I was not.
I don't really know what to do. I talked to my wife about what she and these people email about and she was vague about it all, but no lies that I can find.
After talking to her, my wife was unusually nice to me...Iniateing sex twice that day, offering back rubs, that type of thing. ***This is VERY rare, but not the first time*
Anyway, I would appreciate any advice. I have a 15 day free trial for one of those spy software things, but I feel VERY bad about using it. I really don't think they are having a PA, but think it may be an EA. Any comments would be great.
Oh, also my wife has always said I could read her email anytime, but when I asked about it she never suggested I read them (which is what I expected).
Sorry it was so long, and sorry I don't know all the abbrivations yet.