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H inforced NC 4 months ago via a phone call in which he he re-inforced he did not want to be with her and he didnt want to talk to her anymore. This was after he had quit his job where they had worked together. He says that there has been no contact since then,and I believe him. Our recovery and relationship is doing well and we are moving to another state next month.
I have gotten 3 hang up calls today alone, and probably an average of 7 per week every week. The calls are blocked. I have never had this many hang up calls. Has anyone known OW to still be doing this 4 mo after the break up??
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hi,
the xOW in our situation still does it from time to time.
It's been almost 6 years since d-d..................
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Me-46yo + Husband-49yo
Met 1975/ Married 1980
H had 3 month affair/D-d January 2001
Grandparents since Dec.2005
Recovered and moving on and we're looking forward to the years ahead!
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You can press *57 (check with your phone company, it might be different in your area) after these calls and the phone company will trace them for you. Listen to the recording, they tell you how to report it, etc.
After 3 calls from the same number, the phone company will get law enforcement involved.
WH's A: 1/18/06 - ???? D-Days: 3/28, 4/14 (false recovery), 9/5
8/11 -- WH announces that he doesn't love me anymore.
9/5, confirmed A was renewed, PBL & re-exposure which gets him investigated. He refuses to move out and gets blatant with the A.
10/15, “Plan F-U”. Yuck. But it did start some talking.
C w/OW continued until ....?
MC with SH
11/24, WH says he loves me.
Making progress. My own and with us.
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Joined: Jun 2004
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Got another one just last night at 3:28 am.
But OW in our sitch is a D&Der (drinking and dialer)
I never had to take the Kobayashi Maru test until now. What do you think of my solution?O'hana means family, and family means nobody gets left behind or forgotten. My Story Recovered!
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6 yrs!?! oh please no, I dont think I could handle that.
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Report the calls to the phone company and ask for a trace line t/b setup. See if you can id her, if it is her.....then ask the phone company and the police what are your options. Let them know you do not feel safe. We used to get hang up calls also. But then again....so did the auto dealership, women's abuse hotline, women's shelters, other churches, her neighbors, even private detective agencies in other states....the Ow would call at all hours of the day and night. She needed to get a life.....instead she loved to wreck other lives. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" /> I turned her name into her local police dept. They now have her incident on file. L.
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Do you have anonmyous call blocker? When someone calls you with their number blocked or from a private number, it won't come through it will give the caller a message "we're sorry, the party you are trying to reach is not accepting calls from anonmyous numbers. Please hangup and try your call again w/o blocking your number".
Call the phone co and asked them about it. I love it b/c I had that problem before too when WXH was deep in his A but since I got this, it solved that problem.
Me-BxW-(36)
Him-WxH-(36)
Married 9 days short of 12 years b/f D was final
5 kids-10 and younger (3 DD & 2 DS)
WH filed for D 11/05
D final 05/06
***Of course you would DIE for your kids, the question is will you LIVE for them***
***Time heals nothing but faith heals everything***
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ummmm.... how about just changing your phone number to an unlisted number!
Last edited by mkeverydaycnt; 07/07/06 10:09 AM.
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