I'm 20 years old; my girlfriend is 18. We've been going out for about 2 and a half years. A year ago I cheated on her with her sister. Why? I don't know it just happened. She found out about it I admitted it. We broke up for 3 months and got back together. Nothing much was said when we did get back together. Then about 6 months ago she was kinda seeing a guy at her work. She had kissed him there, he had taken her home a few times, and they have talked on the phone some. I had stumbled upon a letter from her friend (I wasn't searching for anything) and it was talking about what happened between them. I asked her what happened. She was very upset and afraid I was going to break up with her. I didn't break up with her. Then later on she wanted to goto a club with her friend. She said she was justing going to the mall and the movies. I knew she was lieing when she left and it took her a couple of days to admit it. These have really upset me too. Well for the past few months we've been aruging a lot. It usually starts when she wants to go out with her friends because it really upsets me. Well just the other day she told me we needed a break we talked about it and she said she really hasn't forgiven me for what I did. I guess I had really not forgiven her for what she did to me either until I actually thought about the situation. When she would go out with her friends I would think about the worse things that could be happening. One day I just sat down and thought about her and me. I knew she loved me with because of all the things we do for each other still. I have forgiven her and I know how much this has helped me inside. I want to talk to her about it but it hurts both of us to do it. We hate to see each other cry. Now I want to know how I can help her forgive me so she can feel better. I've wrote her a letter explaining to her how I felt and how now I feel better. I'm looking for any kind of advice on how to start talking. I believe we really love each other it's just been hard and it's something we need to talk about. If you need any more information I will be glad to provide it.

Welcome to Marriagebuilders, Caspar...

I won't go any further except to ask you to post (you can cut and paste this one) to the Infidelity General Questions II forum. It has the most traffic, help and frame of reference for you.

Anything else I type here now, will just have to be retyped.

I hope you understand...

Your post is worth seeing.

LA