It has been over a year that my WH revealed the A to me. WE have completed MC now I am in counseling about his kids and they are still a major issue for me, and yet another issue arises.
I graduated over a year ago with my Master's but I am not finding a job that would pay me more money than I am making now, and right now I work 2 days a week and make more than my H (which is a major issue for H). Now I want to go back to school again. The new degree would be another Master's but, when I look at the salaries of people employed in this position (looking in the newspaper and on company websites) there is not a single one paying less than 6 figures NONE of them. The average is aroung 150K.
Now with that being said I am trying to debate if it is worth it. My H makes decent money but not enough to do all the things that I want my kids to have and enjoy. Since we totally foot the bill for his kids too and I want more kids I know that we need more money. 150K would be more than enough for all of them. I can not work while I am in school for the 27 months so he would have to take care of us all.
I do not want our marriage to have any more issues than it already has and I can forsee him having issues with me making that much more money than him. I am trying to decide if it is worth it. He is OK with me doing it but not enthusiastic. What opinions do you have?

Warning - Take this with a grain of salt. Realize that I put my life on hold to help WH raise his 4 kids, and 2 step-kids. When they were all out of the house, he left me for an OW 20 years younger.

I would go back to school and get the degree, if your husband is okay with it. You are young, and have a lot of earning years ahead. You have 4 kids depending on you.

The problem is that I am not sure that he is OK with it. He is really not saying no, but he is not entusiastically saying yes either. I only have 2 children. He has two children from a previous realtionship that also live here with us. If he decided to leave me which is always in the back of my mind, I could definitely take care of my kids all by myself, even if I had two or three more. I am tired of putting my life on hold too.

What I want to know is what kind of job pays $150k or more.

And I want to know how many hours you'd have to work to do it. You have young children -- how would it affect them? It's an excellent idea to have the skills necessary to support yourself whether you're married or not. You never know when an unexpected turn of life will make you the sole breadwinner. All it takes is a sudden downturn in your spouse's industry, you know?

The job is in anesthesia. I have seen sign on bonuses of over $20,000 and even more than that. Depending on where I work I could be working about 50hrs/wk. A good portion of them being on call. My children will be much older by the time I finish. I will not be able to start until next year. My kids do not know anything about the A. But the older kids know something, they were the ones who told me about daddy's "friend". The A happened after I was out of school. I think he and I are not wanting to step on each other's toes so he doesn't want to say much about it.

A master program can take quite a bit of time to complete.
Can you spend a minimum of 15 hours a week with your husband while attending school?